i am feeling confused
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My story
I met a gal (KY) during my internship and since we worked in different departments, we seldom talked to each other or get to know each other better. I only manged to talk to her on two occasions at the bus interchange.
Then sch starts and we return to our respective lives. One day i found out that someone added me on msn ans as always, i just added the contact. It was actually KY and I was quite surprised cos at that time I din really know her that well. I just quite curious and so asked our common friend about this and he told me not to imagine things cos he told me KY is that sort of gal.
Anyway, since then ky and I would chat on msn about sch work, internship matters etc. 50% of the time she would say hi to me first on msn. Slowly we talked about our views on BGR and this lasted for about 8 weeks till now. I guess we are flirting with each other. When she returns from afk, she would tell me that she is back.
She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now and she knows that I am single cos our common fren told her about it. Every now and then she would mention me in her blog and we would chat on msn till 2, 3 am.
I feel like she is dropping hints to me on msn and showed signs of interest or rather she has a good impression of me. Once I asked her how she thinks about me and she said that I am a shy guy. Ahe also mentioned that I am a special friend to her. I see her in the lecture theatre for one of my modules but we nv spoke b4 in sch.
Now comes the problem:
1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life.
2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her.
3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out. -
that sort of gal=?
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hmmm.... u are right.
u are really confused....
i suggest u just conc on your studies right now. and when u gotten a handle on yr studies and are SURE u can juggle, then consider a relationship. -
I got the feeling that she is just playing u out cos u are just "fresh" and "new" to her. Since she also have other "close" guy friend then i think u are just her new-found target to be explore a upon.
However, this is just my gut feeling. Girls are unpredictable if u want to know, then go ask her but prepare to get hurted that's all.
I got ever met a girl in my tutorial who is very outgoing and she is so outgoing to such an extent that she kept on asking me questions which i just merely reply in short sentences and even want to take my photo
This is just a reference for u 
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thats callled...xi guan, if you understand chineseOriginally posted by protollium:My story
But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
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probably tat gal just wanna make friends wif you? some gals are more friendly...lol.,,,
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Open up... meet more girls... currently, yr world seems to have her alone... it is not very healthy leh... With more choice, u will noe wat u really want...Originally posted by protollium:I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out. -
why even get troubled when u dun even know anything
u know what i'm talking about coz u typed it there in ur post.... -
cmon la !!
i thk shes just being a good friend.. she might find you cute and give her good impression .. but theres nothing man... dun dream or think too much,, as a guy, why dont u concentrate on your study ? u only mention bout MSN MSN MSN.. wth... thats very normal la.. its like a guy add in a gal's MSN then talk bout her infront of his fren.. nothing special.. mayb just the outlook..
haiya... did she call u to chat? or ask u out alone many times? NO right ? so dont dream... -
Sad but TrueOriginally posted by Zarks:cmon la !!
i thk shes just being a good friend.. she might find you cute and give her good impression .. but theres nothing man... dun dream or think too much,, as a guy, why dont u concentrate on your study ? u only mention bout MSN MSN MSN.. wth... thats very normal la.. its like a guy add in a gal's MSN then talk bout her infront of his fren.. nothing special.. mayb just the outlook..
haiya... did she call u to chat? or ask u out alone many times? NO right ? so dont dream...
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Well she is definately interested in u, if not, she won't initiate talk on MSN & till 2 to 3am.
Next time just ask her out for a movie, treat her like a regular friend first & see how it goes.
Don't have to rush into r/s if u are not ready.
If u are good at time management, having a gf will not affect your studies. -
Don't really agree with this.Originally posted by gerrykoh:Well she is definately interested in u, if not, she won't initiate talk on MSN & till 2 to 3am.
Next time just ask her out for a movie, treat her like a regular friend first & see how it goes.
Don't have to rush into r/s if u are not ready.
If u are good at time management, having a gf will not affect your studies.
I have some female friends whom I can talk on msn till midnight and stuffs like that but we are still at the friend level.
Don't think so much ba TS. Maybe you are just yearning for some company. She is just what you want, company. Just leave it at that at the moment.
Thinking too much will only result in no tangible gains and intangible losses (eg emotional hurt). Unless the signs are very very obvious (like she get angry with you if you fail to chase away someone who is going after her), if not she is probably extroverted/outgoing/friendly.
My advice is to just keep it at the friend level unless something disturbs this equilibrium. -
KY? well, that a bad nick to give to a gal. I would have slapped a man if he called my a KY.Originally posted by protollium:My story
I met a gal (KY) during my internship and since we worked in different departments, we seldom talked to each other or get to know each other better. I only manged to talk to her on two occasions at the bus interchange.
Then sch starts and we return to our respective lives. One day i found out that someone added me on msn ans as always, i just added the contact. It was actually KY and I was quite surprised cos at that time I din really know her that well. I just quite curious and so asked our common friend about this and he told me not to imagine things cos he told me KY is that sort of gal.
Anyway, since then ky and I would chat on msn about sch work, internship matters etc. 50% of the time she would say hi to me first on msn. Slowly we talked about our views on BGR and this lasted for about 8 weeks till now. I guess we are flirting with each other. When she returns from afk, she would tell me that she is back.
She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now and she knows that I am single cos our common fren told her about it. Every now and then she would mention me in her blog and we would chat on msn till 2, 3 am.
I feel like she is dropping hints to me on msn and showed signs of interest or rather she has a good impression of me. Once I asked her how she thinks about me and she said that I am a shy guy. Ahe also mentioned that I am a special friend to her. I see her in the lecture theatre for one of my modules but we nv spoke b4 in sch.
Now comes the problem:
1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life.
2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her.
3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out. -
What sort of girl?
I don't know abt you. But if you are confident about this and you are sure that you can handle anything that happens after, I say go for it. -
Originally posted by protollium:
1. Open up your social circle of female friends. Do not make her the center of your "love" existence since you have no idea whether you like her because you think she also perhaps has some liking for you. The more female friends you have, the more you would be able to tell what kind of traits you would want in your relationship. This is from my experience.
My story
Then sch starts and we return to our respective lives. One day i found out that someone added me on msn ans as always, i just added the contact. It was actually KY and I was quite surprised cos at that time I din really know her that well. I just quite curious and so asked our common friend about this and he told me not to imagine things cos he told me KY is that sort of gal.
Anyway, since then ky and I would chat on msn about sch work, internship matters etc. 50% of the time she would say hi to me first on msn. Slowly we talked about our views on BGR and this lasted for about 8 weeks till now. I guess we are flirting with each other. When she returns from afk, she would tell me that she is back.
She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now and she knows that I am single cos our common fren told her about it. Every now and then she would mention me in her blog and we would chat on msn till 2, 3 am.
I feel like she is dropping hints to me on msn and showed signs of interest or rather she has a good impression of me. Once I asked her how she thinks about me and she said that I am a shy guy. Ahe also mentioned that I am a special friend to her. I see her in the lecture theatre for one of my modules but we nv spoke b4 in sch.
Now comes the problem:
1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life.
2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her.
3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out.
2. Since you are unsure whether a rs would work out, make studies your first priority. If it is meant to be, everything will fall into place later.
3. Having said all, experience is what make people grow. If you think you have some liking for her, perhaps take cue from your friends, ask to meet her up face to face as friends first.. like maybe innocently ask her whether she like to see a movie or have dinner together or something. At the same time, expand your social circle with other girls, meet other girls if possible too as friends to interract. You don't have to commit to a relationship. Like what KY has said:She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now
so maybe it can work the same way for you. You're only trying to get to know more friends. If you feel that strongly for her that you think what you have is more than normal liking for her, then pursue her. Call me old fashion but I feel guys should be more on the initiative side if they think they really like a girl. All in all, experience counts but you'll have to go through it 1st hand. Even if you get rejected, at least you've tried your best and at least you know you have loved.
So, don't get troubled over what you haven't even tried. Don't worry about what will happen in future and don't even try to picture her as your future wife immediately! Just hang around and let the feelings flow, then you will know whether you truly like her or not. Also, make more new female friends. Take more initiative to know them. Then you will find out what you really want. -
Not true lor... i got this female classmate (not even friend) lol like to talk to me so much that i feel irritated. But i still treat her nicely such like i treat other female friends. With this kind of action, any inexperienced guy will get con that the girl like him... lolOriginally posted by gerrykoh:Well she is definately interested in u, if not, she won't initiate talk on MSN & till 2 to 3am.
Next time just ask her out for a movie, treat her like a regular friend first & see how it goes.
Don't have to rush into r/s if u are not ready.
If u are good at time management, having a gf will not affect your studies. Therefore, i am very certain to tell TS, she doesn't like u.... don't believe go confess lor... get hurt dun find me -
If she pop the magical question of "Do u like me?". WHat will u reply her?Originally posted by protollium:My story
I met a gal (KY) during my internship and since we worked in different departments, we seldom talked to each other or get to know each other better. I only manged to talk to her on two occasions at the bus interchange.
Then sch starts and we return to our respective lives. One day i found out that someone added me on msn ans as always, i just added the contact. It was actually KY and I was quite surprised cos at that time I din really know her that well. I just quite curious and so asked our common friend about this and he told me not to imagine things cos he told me KY is that sort of gal.
Anyway, since then ky and I would chat on msn about sch work, internship matters etc. 50% of the time she would say hi to me first on msn. Slowly we talked about our views on BGR and this lasted for about 8 weeks till now. I guess we are flirting with each other. When she returns from afk, she would tell me that she is back.
She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now and she knows that I am single cos our common fren told her about it. Every now and then she would mention me in her blog and we would chat on msn till 2, 3 am.
I feel like she is dropping hints to me on msn and showed signs of interest or rather she has a good impression of me. Once I asked her how she thinks about me and she said that I am a shy guy. Ahe also mentioned that I am a special friend to her. I see her in the lecture theatre for one of my modules but we nv spoke b4 in sch.
Now comes the problem:
1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life.
2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her.
3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out. -
I believe TS already knows what he really wants and feels deep down in his heart...haha...
I say go for it mate...but don't screw up! -
yesterday she told me the common fren interested in her
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then said he planned to ask her out for a movie after the exams
Need some girls' help here...
What is she thinking... i get the feeling that she has a wide circle of male friends who are just like me............ confused -
I will tell her i have feeling about her, good impression of her...Originally posted by CannyOng:If she pop the magical question of "Do u like me?". WHat will u reply her? -
Basically, I think you would need to get a better handle of the situation yourself because I don't think anyone knows your perceptions better than you do when you're chatting with her (be it on MSN or on the few occasions you were with her in person). For me, I'd say yours is a case where the signs are more ambiguous and you really need to know the person well (try observing her body language when you're with her).Originally posted by protollium:yesterday she told me the common fren interested in her
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then said he planned to ask her out for a movie after the exams
Need some girls' help here...
What is she thinking... i get the feeling that she has a wide circle of male friends who are just like me............ confused
Take the above as an example - it can be interpreted in one of two ways and I'm not surprised different people have interpreted that differently. On one hand, she could regard you as a good friend and therefore lets you in on some details about her personal life. On the other, it could be her way of hinting (and this other guy wanting to ask her out might not even be remotely true) that you better act fast before you lose her. Unfortunately, what you've described leads you no closer to deciphering the essence of what she said and it'd probably be wise to trust your gut instinct here... -
eh? You're a guy right? Why does your profile says you're a girl?
I have said my piece by the way. Let time unfold the rest. -
hmm more importantly, is she high maintenance, and demanding... don't rush into a relationship..
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protollium,
Go forth and be a man. Go forth and flirt with her.
Try it out. Check her out. Let it all flow.
You have nothing to lose, she has nothing to lose.
So what if it falls, so what if it burns your gut out ?
If you never try plucking out that apple from the tree , how will you know it's sweetness ?
Should the earthy worms be found inside the fruit of love, will you regret it ?
To take a bite from the sweet scented fruit of desire ?
Life is short, life is never always full of roses.
Don't be afraid of rejections, don't be afraid of losing your pride.
You are here to experience life, so don't be afraid of living it the way you want it.
DON"T BE AFRAID. -
I told her about my feelings for her and she told me her impression of me is not bad too. she asked to take things slowly and start as friends first. Now every now and then i would sms her. Once she told he i cheered her up in sms.. I dunno how true it is or she is just patronising me.
What should I do next as in next step?