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  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • My bf & I are in different schools. We are only able to meet up once a week or so. He's studying in a co-ed school whereas I'm in an all-girls school. I somehow tend to be jealous & concerned about the girls he mix with. Is this kind of feeling normal?
      Is it also normal to be jealous of the girls he once used to be with? I don't know who they are & whether my bf & these girls are still in contact. I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. Is there any way to not worry about such things? It's not that I do not trust him but I just have that feeling of jealousy in me. Is there any way to overcome it? Please advice. Thanks. Sad

  • gunner77's Avatar
    8,748 posts since Apr '06
    • go talk to him and ask him properly lor.
      i tink the feeling is normal la.

      btw who ask u to itch backside go all girls school ?

      Edited by gunner77 23 Oct `07, 12:06AM
  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by gunner77:
      go talk to him and ask him properly lor.

      btw who ask u to itch backside go all girls school ?

      I already said, I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. I just want to know if there's any way to not worry about such things? For example, not to get all jealous over this.

      Girls school that choice 3 years ago make. How to change now, too late already. Last time pressure from parents & teacher. So end up in girls school.

  • gunner77's Avatar
    8,748 posts since Apr '06
    • no need to be jealous la
      if he really loves u, he will not do anything behind ur back.
      maybe u could spy him by asking his close friend for details ?

  • BrUtUs's Avatar
    12,080 posts since Apr '03
    • Originally posted by candyx3o:
      My bf & I are in different schools. We are only able to meet up once a week or so. He's studying in a co-ed school whereas I'm in an all-girls school. I somehow tend to be jealous & concerned about the girls he mix with. Is this kind of feeling normal?
      Is it also normal to be jealous of the girls he once used to be with? I don't know who they are & whether my bf & these girls are still in contact. I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. Is there any way to not worry about such things? It's not that I do not trust him but I just have that feeling of jealousy in me. Is there any way to overcome it? Please advice. Thanks. Sad

      still young la so no need get all crazy over bf/relationship stuffs... jz enjoy the time...

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by gunner77:
      no need to be jealous la
      if he really loves u, he will not do anything behind ur back.
      maybe u could spy him by asking his close friend for details ?

      Is not I want to be jealous, is that I cannot stop myself from being jealous. I trust him, but I cannot help having that feeling of jealousy. I doubt I'll ask him friends, most probably he'll know that I asked. & I'm not that close to his friends either.

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by BrUtUs:
      still young la so no need get all crazy over bf/relationship stuffs... jz enjoy the time...

      I just want advice from people here, if possible. Don't come in & tell me that I'm young & all those crap. If you think I'm young then it's your choice whether to advice or not.

  • gunner77's Avatar
    8,748 posts since Apr '06
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    58 posts since Oct '07
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    8,748 posts since Apr '06
  • freedom4ever's Avatar
    2,373 posts since May '05
    • hmm… if u trust him, u won’t be feeling jealous right? u feel jealous mean your relationship is not that stable right?

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by gunner77:
      wah 12.30 liaoz still early ?

      i dont sleep so early. anw just now slept already Smile

  • gunner77's Avatar
    8,748 posts since Apr '06
    • Originally posted by candyx3o:
      i dont sleep so early. anw just now slept already Smile

      Surprised
      so wat school are u in?

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by freedom4ever:
      hmm... if u trust him, u won't be feeling jealous right? u feel jealous mean your relationship is not that stable right?

      That's what I want to ask. If it's normal to be jealous like that. I mean, even if I trust him, & I would say I do, I just cannot stop myself from feeling jealous.

  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,242 posts since Sep '05
    • im curious. mind telling which school?

      tkgs
      rgs
      plmgs
      cgs
      or the ij schools.
      etc..

      if you love him. you shud trust him
      keep telling yourself that. or you can up the level of your relationship so he thinks only of you. jus dun be obsessive.

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
  • gunner77's Avatar
    8,748 posts since Apr '06
  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by cApitaland:
      if you love him. you shud trust him
      keep telling yourself that. or you can up the level of your relationship so he thinks only of you. jus dun be obsessive.[/b]

      Mind elaborating? Don't quite get your point.

      I trust him. I know he won't do anything behind my back. But, it's that feeling of jealousy I cannot control. That's why I want to know if I'm too sensitive, or whatever you call it. Is it normal to feel this way. Maybe girls could share what they think. They'll know better than guys, right?

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
    • Originally posted by gunner77:
      ZZZ......
      lesbian school. too shy to say

      Girls school =/= lesbian school. Co-ed schools would have lesbian cases too, but just that it's more in girls school cos the population bigger. But if you think so, go ahead.

  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,242 posts since Sep '05
  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,242 posts since Sep '05
    • Originally posted by gunner77:
      ZZZ......
      lesbian school. too shy to say

      actualli i was frm a guy school and my cohort had no queers in it thank god!

      all my other frens were like teasing around saying gay school etc. but its where real men fight out! wrestling matches Twisted Evil

  • candyx3o's Avatar
    58 posts since Oct '07
  • jojobeach's Avatar
    3,901 posts since Apr '07
    • candyx3o,

      Please confirm it is only jealousy, not suspicions you have of your bf.

      It is normal for you to feel jealous. But depends to what extend.

      It is actually healthy for you to be little jealous, because that means he means something to you.

      Trust is another issue, not to be mingled with this kind of jealousy you have for him.

      First, you need to figure out why you are jealous.
      Is he spending more time with those female classmates during free time at your expense ?

      Then you can figure out how you can manage your emotions with some rationale.

      You must understand that this world is half female and half male.
      You cannot expect him to stop socialising with half of the population because he chose to be with you , right ?

  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,242 posts since Sep '05
    • Originally posted by candyx3o:
      Don't understand. Rolling Eyes

      wait wait im assuming you're 15. wah your mind i mus say is veri pure. hard to find nowadays sigh.

      up la. get closer more intimate. nid me teach how to paktor anot? petting leh? i didnt want to spell it out but...

      jealousy is what makes us human. its normal. like i said try nt to be obsessive. if you haven yet then congrats you haven step over the line. personally i dun think this is a huge problem. i get jealous all the time when this gal im close to hangs out with other ple.

  • yiha093's Avatar
    2,302 posts since Jul '07
    • Originally posted by cApitaland:
      wait wait im assuming you're 15. wah your mind i mus say is veri pure. hard to find nowadays sigh.

      up la. get closer more intimate. nid me teach how to paktor anot? petting leh? i didnt want to spell it out but...

      jealousy is what makes us human. its normal. like i said try nt to be obsessive. if you haven yet then congrats you haven step over the line. personally i dun think this is a huge problem. i get jealous all the time when this gal im close to hangs out with other ple.

      like that u like using ur body only...like no feelings involved de... Confused Neutral

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