what to do if friends suddenly changed overnight?
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what to do if friends suddenly changed overnight?
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change to wat?
gremlins? -
Then you seek solace in SGF....
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i used to be very close with this group of friends. but overnight, they dun even want to talk to me liao. they just say they are busy all the time, but in my heart, i knew. when i asked, they didnt want to say why also and i dun even know what had happened...
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Hmm, maybe give them some time. Perhaps you have offended them unwittingly ? Its good to think about it. Approach them again in a couple of weeks. Since Christmas is round the corner, it'll be good to send them some cards and let them know you still care. Hopefully you guys are back on talking terms by then
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maybe is misunderstanding
or u being sensitive -
i've tried that...they just said thanks...and then went off to have fun liao...Originally posted by kramnave:Hmm, maybe give them some time. Perhaps you have offended them unwittingly ? Its good to think about it. Approach them again in a couple of weeks. Since Christmas is round the corner, it'll be good to send them some cards and let them know you still care. Hopefully you guys are back on talking terms by then .
when i asked for outing, like we used to do...they said they are busy, will let me know when free...but i waited for a few months already...still no news...
sometimes when i reminded them later, they just suddenly lost their temper on me, after that no contact at all...later tried to sms, no reply...tried to msn them a few weeks later, they said thanks, they were busy, no time to reply...
always see them laughing and smiling away...its very hurtful -
aww...well, try to keep your perseverance and see how it goes for the next few months ? Else consider making new ones and start from scratch. Friends come and go. However if you meet good ones they'll stick with you for decades.
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after that, i dun even feel like talking liao...
i also dun feel like talking to other friends also...dun feel like replying other people's sms or msn also...
when people tried to chat me up, even though i try to entertain them a bit, but in my heart, im still bitten by the experience...
maybe im not a good friend lo, better stay a distance from everyone else... -
thanks for the encouragement...Originally posted by kramnave:aww...well, try to keep your perseverance and see how it goes for the next few months ? Else consider making new ones and start from scratch. Friends come and go. However if you meet good ones they'll stick with you for decades.
actually hor...if you encounter this experience, pls dun persevere no matter how good ur relationship used to be...
cause i either get scoldings or no replies de...this went on for months... -
Try to snap out of it soon. Not good to be socially passive for too long.
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are u a guy or a girl. For them to lose their temper when asked in your situation .. may have a few explanation.Originally posted by teddybear10:i've tried that...they just said thanks...and then went off to have fun liao...
when i asked for outing, like we used to do...they said they are busy, will let me know when free...but i waited for a few months already...still no news...
sometimes when i reminded them later, they just suddenly lost their temper on me, after that no contact at all...later tried to sms, no reply...tried to msn them a few weeks later, they said thanks, they were busy, no time to reply...
always see them laughing and smiling away...its very hurtful
If u are a guy.. maybe u are all touchy feely all gay.. u know. So as guys.. freak out man..
.. its about watching thier backs.. =P
But seriously... -
tell dem to fo lah.
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they are guys and gals...im a guy...hurtful cause i really treasure the friendship lo...worse part is, i dun even know wat happened...Originally posted by BadzMaro:are u a guy or a girl. For them to lose their temper when asked in your situation .. may have a few explanation.
If u are a guy.. maybe u are all touchy feely all gay.. u know. So as guys.. freak out man.. .. its about watching thier backs.. =P
But seriously... -
There MUST be something. When u ask outing is it all together or what. Maybe some not ngam with some.. beh song or what. Or u are some wierd guy.. u dont act all gay and do wierd stuff i hope.Originally posted by teddybear10:they are guys and gals...im a guy...hurtful cause i really treasure the friendship lo...worse part is, i dun even know wat happened...
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friends come and go. old friends go, new friend come. don't be bothered so easily. Mix with new friends!Originally posted by teddybear10:they are guys and gals...im a guy...hurtful cause i really treasure the friendship lo...worse part is, i dun even know wat happened...
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if changed to monster or got the sign hes being possessed.. oh god , i run even though hes goin to jump from 13th floor
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if like that hor,,, then leave them la.. they are such useless friend... why bother to have immature friends like them
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Maybe you are just a little too sensitive?
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Originally posted by FireIce:change to wat?
gremlins? Good one!
TS, what's ur age?
Yep, no such things as "Friends forever". Some of us have to learn it the hard way. For now, think what you truly enjoy and love to do and GO DO IT! Be it a hobby, travelling and stuff. You'll have a lot of time for that. -
well that
have u make them angry in some ways..
if not , u can ask for the reason for the cold attitude.
it is whether u wan to be their friend again!
if yes, u have to forgive and forget.
if no, move on and make new friends.
sometime, friends will back stab u too.
see how u make ur decisions.
well some friends come and go , some stay with u for lifetime, so are just friends.. -
i'm 25.Originally posted by Frustrated_guy: Good one!
TS, what's ur age?
Yep, no such things as "Friends forever". Some of us have to learn it the hard way. For now, think what you truly enjoy and love to do and GO DO IT! Be it a hobby, travelling and stuff. You'll have a lot of time for that.
hmm...i just feel that the easier the friendship comes, the easier it goes too...
but its all right, i guess...i think i read somewhere before that life has a way of making you learn and re-learn things until they are learnt. maybe its great that it has happened after all. -
Believe it or not, I also lost all my friends at 25. But I chose it. When I was struggling with a crisis that time, it seems friends are never there. I really open my eyes as to who my friends really are. Then I decided to lose contact with them all...overnight.
Like you said, it was difficult. But then I made new friends along the way, and picked up new hobbies. Life began the 2nd time round, and this time it was better than the 1st! Yeah! -
get new friends....Originally posted by teddybear10:i used to be very close with this group of friends. but overnight, they dun even want to talk to me liao. they just say they are busy all the time, but in my heart, i knew. when i asked, they didnt want to say why also and i dun even know what had happened... -
Maybe your mouth or armpit stink or you fart alots. That maybe why they left you and out of courtesy, they dun wish to tell you so as not to hurt you. they are indeed true friends.Originally posted by teddybear10:i used to be very close with this group of friends. but overnight, they dun even want to talk to me liao. they just say they are busy all the time, but in my heart, i knew. when i asked, they didnt want to say why also and i dun even know what had happened...