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  • Vinny's Avatar
    14 posts since Apr '07
    • I'm confused and hoped that someone can enlightened me on this.

      She n I went into the company at the same time. At first, we are quite close as we help each other since we are doing the same job scope and we are non perm staff. I would say that I am not attracted to her at first.

      As time goes, I find that I tend to think of her at times. When she was feeling down, my heart went out for her and my mood was affected too. However it seems that we are drifting apart.

      Nowadays we don't really talked to each other ex for work related. I tried to make small talks but the response from her is cold. I mus say tt the reason is that durin work, I tend to be v focused on my work n tt could be one of the reaon why we hav drifted. She also began to be close to my other male colleagues. They often keep to themselves and keepin me out of the loop.

      Recently she has been gettin along with one of my boss very well, often stayin back and buyin stuff for him. I mus said tt I'm jealous of this...

      Am I in love w her? What shld I do next?

  • Darkness_hacker99's Avatar
    31,727 posts since Jun '05
  • kenn3th's Avatar
    16,393 posts since Nov '06
  • UandMe's Avatar
    1,416 posts since Oct '02
    • Originally posted by Vinny:
      Am I in love w her? What shld I do next?

      just jealous that her attention is no longer on u...

  • jondizzle foshizzle's Avatar
    2,280 posts since Apr '07
  • Vinny's Avatar
    14 posts since Apr '07
    • So how do I differentiate if it is crush, puppy love, or is it really true love.. haiz..

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    9,715 posts since Apr '06
  • alfagal's Avatar
    15,093 posts since Sep '05
    • its natural to 'like' ur colleagues..
      for someone u face everyday...8hrs...

      well just give urself more time...e feelings might so away..if so, then its crush...
      keep ur mind focused on work...dun let ur feelings affect ur performance..

  • rainee's Avatar
    33,489 posts since Apr '05
    • Originally posted by Vinny:
      So how do I differentiate if it is crush, puppy love, or is it really true love.. haiz..

      Time will tell you the truth and show you the difference Wink

  • Vinny's Avatar
    14 posts since Apr '07
    • Maybe time will tell, maybe don't.

      what happened if it's not crush? Shld I approach her n tell her abt it?

      The thing is tt I'm not sure wat does she think of me?

  • aremeis's Avatar
    255 posts since Nov '07
    • Originally posted by Vinny:
      Maybe time will tell, maybe don't.

      what happened if it's not crush? Shld I approach her n tell her abt it?

      The thing is tt I'm not sure wat does she think of me?

      If it is not CRUSH, then I think you are "Possessive". You don't quite like to share...LOL!!!

  • Sakuraflower's Avatar
    761 posts since Feb '06
    • well, u are just jealous that he is not that close to u and closer to another colleagues.

      And the attention is not longer on u.

      Is it friendship or u like her and want to be her bf?

      if u like her, then tell her.

      Why make things so complicated?

      or u are just feeling lonely and want people to accompany u.

      Anyways u have to know ur feeling and reason for ur feeling.

      Cool Cool Cool Cool

  • rainee's Avatar
    33,489 posts since Apr '05
    • Originally posted by Vinny:
      Maybe time will tell, maybe don't.

      what happened if it's not crush? Shld I approach her n tell her abt it?

      The thing is tt I'm not sure wat does she think of me?

      What she thinks about you, you will not find out unless you approach her, open your mouth and ask.

  • de_middle's Avatar
    15,248 posts since Aug '05
    • Originally posted by Vinny:
      Maybe time will tell, maybe don't.

      what happened if it's not crush? Shld I approach her n tell her abt it?

      The thing is tt I'm not sure wat does she think of me?

      she's already keeping a distance from you, do you think its good to tell her now Neutral

  • darknessfall's Avatar
    1,087 posts since Mar '05
    • since she is eyeing your boss now, what do you think of her character?
      if your boss is married, thats worse!

      i think the reason she was close to you initially was because you 2 joined at the same time..and without knowing anyone, she sticks ard with you..
      but as time goes by, she gets to know more people other than you, and becomes what it is today

  • Vinny's Avatar
    14 posts since Apr '07
    • As a fren, I wld like to show concern but the response I hav gotten is tat she is cold to me. Am I the problem?Cld it be tat I'm not gd w words n not witty like my other male colleagues.

      Worse still, I feel I am being outcast by the rest of my male colleagues as they wld engage small talks, hav tea together w her etc. I feel very lonely in my team. So much so tat I dread goin to work at times..

  • aluvguru's Avatar
    25 posts since Oct '07
    • You have to try to blend in with the rest in order to survive.

      Do not isolate yourself from the rest. That will create greater distance between you and the girl.

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