My girlfriend
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After all the perfect girlfriend threads, now we see the other side
I admit to being possessive but she has been taking me for granted. I just called her to tell her I am going to sleep, and she says I don't trust her when she says she is going to call me back. After our BIG fight, she has been talking to me sarcastically and reminding me she cannot devote all her time to me. She is so sarcastic that;when I try to salvage it, I talk a chunk of stuff that we should talk things out, she just answers: Maybe. Everything I say, she just is so sarcastic or irritated. She says she is irritated of me and disgusted that I am so possessive/keep reminding her stuff.
I told her straight, I am possessive, but she takes me for granted. Everytime, I have to throw my ego just to please her, be it my fault or hers. She has been mentioning breaking up and reconsidering the relationship. It hurts me that I am trying to put aside my pride and she just wants me to be at a bad side. She says things like 'so its my fault? It is always my fault!' and I will have to tell her relationships are shared, it is either both or nothing, we share our burden, not pushing the blame.
I want her to know I do love her and I am willing to change. But she insists that we might not work out. She sms-ed me to say she loves me but she is tired of us. What should I do? We have given ourselves time off. But what should I do to salvage the situation? It has been bothering other aspects of my life now. She is my pillar of strength, I don't know what would I do if she is gone! -
wat was the big fight about?
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welcome to post honeymoon period... its very shitty period to go thru tats wat i can say... anyway u must let both of u to cool down then hv a nice talk... 1 person let 1 step...Originally posted by sEphIrOth:After all the perfect girlfriend threads, now we see the other side
I admit to being possessive but she has been taking me for granted. I just called her to tell her I am going to sleep, and she says I don't trust her when she says she is going to call me back. After our BIG fight, she has been talking to me sarcastically and reminding me she cannot devote all her time to me. She is so sarcastic that;when I try to salvage it, I talk a chunk of stuff that we should talk things out, she just answers: Maybe. Everything I say, she just is so sarcastic or irritated. She says she is irritated of me and disgusted that I am so possessive/keep reminding her stuff.
I told her straight, I am possessive, but she takes me for granted. Everytime, I have to throw my ego just to please her, be it my fault or hers. She has been mentioning breaking up and reconsidering the relationship. It hurts me that I am trying to put aside my pride and she just wants me to be at a bad side. She says things like 'so its my fault? It is always my fault!' and I will have to tell her relationships are shared, it is either both or nothing, we share our burden, not pushing the blame.
I want her to know I do love her and I am willing to change. But she insists that we might not work out. She sms-ed me to say she loves me but she is tired of us. What should I do? We have given ourselves time off. But what should I do to salvage the situation? It has been bothering other aspects of my life now. She is my pillar of strength, I don't know what would I do if she is gone! -
she says i m irritating n disgusting because i keep repeating things n im possessive. she has just been with her frens n im getting used to it, so i call her sometimes n she says im embarrassing her because she wanna DEVOTE her time to her frens. she says i call her cuz im possessive but i wanna tell her im gonna sleep.
just now, i called her again to say im gonna sleep, before that, she said she will call me back after she does her stuff(usually 5mins) so 10mins later i called her and she scolded me saying why i call her when she said she will call me.
so small things, she is so irritated, fight with me nvm, i wanna settle stuff, i nv scold her, she already take me for granted n give me sarcastic replies like 'hey u say wan call me to say u wan to sleep right? k goodnight.' or 'whatever, i dont care'. i care about our relationship. sometimes i admit i m possessive but i m cutting down on it. 1st thing today she already act so sarcastic to me already. i feel so pressurized! i m giving everything, she says im giving nth! she says she gives more than me! she goes out with frens purposely dun pick my calls cuz its 'rude to talk in the prescence of frens'. its jus a courtesy call! i have given everything, she gives lesser, yet she says things till she is so great!
what should i do now? i wan her to understand my plight and how i m keeping the flames alive but she ruins it and claims she is giving more than me? i wait for her to get home, i remind her to take health supplements, i m awake for her, yet she sleeps saying she works hard. fine, it is ok, but i wish for some recognition. this morning someone logging in her msn, i told her out of concern, she say 'u tell me for what? its juz msn what' then later ask me got ppl inside anot. she doesnt recognise me for what i do, yet say cannot compare!
im struggling, yet she is good to me, it is juz that our flame is not as strong as before. -
i really dont wish post honeymoon to be post relationship. she keeps saying breaking up is good as we can move on, yet i feel its not good to break up.Originally posted by BrUtUs:welcome to post honeymoon period... its very shitty period to go thru tats wat i can say... anyway u must let both of u to cool down then hv a nice talk... 1 person let 1 step... -
honestly, i think there's other guys going after her and she might have a crush on them or is starting to think there's bigger fishes out there to catch and no longer cherishes this relationship as much as she used to.
Those are usually the symptoms of a dying relationship. -
U call ur gf ur pillar of strength and u said u cannot live without her
One word for u:" Fcuk!!!"
U should feel blessed for the very fact that u are ever in a r/s. Don't say things like u cannot live without her... stupid mentality....
Ur life isn't just urs... it belongs to the people who loved u...
If not for this fact, i think i would have died at least 3 times... I never have a gf in the 21 years in my life... I confess four times... all gone to drain... if not of this, my pride won't have been hurted so deeply.
I know u are handicapped in some ways but if ur gf has no feeling for u or is showing signs of giving up... please let her go... it will be better for both of u... lead a better after that -
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=291029Originally posted by browniebaobao:wat was the big fight about?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=286240 -
my family, friends, these aspects ruined, leaving relationship as the only way out. showing signs of giving up does not mean i would happily leave without a fight.its because i have fought that is what i m still with her up till this point.Originally posted by Uncertain:U call ur gf ur pillar of strength and u said u cannot live without her
One word for u:" Fcuk!!!"
U should feel blessed for the very fact that u are ever in a r/s. Don't say things like u cannot live without her... stupid mentality....
Ur life isn't just urs... it belongs to the people who loved u...
If not for this fact, i think i would have died at least 3 times... I never have a gf in the 21 years in my life... I confess four times... all gone to drain... if not of this, my pride won't have been hurted so deeply.
I know u are handicapped in some ways but if ur gf has no feeling for u or is showing signs of giving up... please let her go... it will be better for both of u... lead a better after that -
u everyday also contact her?
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once u step on landmine u high chance will get more... looks like ur calls n smses n msn irritates her... since she wans some time off then give her... but meet her face to face date soon... tis u reali need to talk it out... let her know ur side of story... compromise on anything to stop the avalache... but u hv to ask urself if wat u agree is agreeable 1st... isit the time of the month 4 her?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:she says i m irritating n disgusting because i keep repeating things n im possessive. she has just been with her frens n im getting used to it, so i call her sometimes n she says im embarrassing her because she wanna DEVOTE her time to her frens. she says i call her cuz im possessive but i wanna tell her im gonna sleep.
just now, i called her again to say im gonna sleep, before that, she said she will call me back after she does her stuff(usually 5mins) so 10mins later i called her and she scolded me saying why i call her when she said she will call me.
so small things, she is so irritated, fight with me nvm, i wanna settle stuff, i nv scold her, she already take me for granted n give me sarcastic replies like 'hey u say wan call me to say u wan to sleep right? k goodnight.' or 'whatever, i dont care'. i care about our relationship. sometimes i admit i m possessive but i m cutting down on it. 1st thing today she already act so sarcastic to me already. i feel so pressurized! i m giving everything, she says im giving nth! she says she gives more than me! she goes out with frens purposely dun pick my calls cuz its 'rude to talk in the prescence of frens'. its jus a courtesy call! i have given everything, she gives lesser, yet she says things till she is so great!
what should i do now? i wan her to understand my plight and how i m keeping the flames alive but she ruins it and claims she is giving more than me? i wait for her to get home, i remind her to take health supplements, i m awake for her, yet she sleeps saying she works hard. fine, it is ok, but i wish for some recognition. this morning someone logging in her msn, i told her out of concern, she say 'u tell me for what? its juz msn what' then later ask me got ppl inside anot. she doesnt recognise me for what i do, yet say cannot compare!
im struggling, yet she is good to me, it is juz that our flame is not as strong as before. -
from yur previous threads, i think u look down on yurself alot
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Is ok to fight for ur love... but can u feel that "she still loves u"?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:my family, friends, these aspects ruined, leaving relationship as the only way out. showing signs of giving up does not mean i would happily leave without a fight.its because i have fought that is what i m still with her up till this point.
If not, y bother to fight... it is a meaningless battle that ends up both being hurt. No r/s won't die de, there are so many things to do in life. -
very standard in a relationship. She doesnt love you as much as you love her. In some occasions, she may still say she loves you but at most other times, she just find you very irritating. Eventually, she will get really tired of you and wants to experience the process of a break.Originally posted by sEphIrOth:After all the perfect girlfriend threads, now we see the other side
I admit to being possessive but she has been taking me for granted. I just called her to tell her I am going to sleep, and she says I don't trust her when she says she is going to call me back. After our BIG fight, she has been talking to me sarcastically and reminding me she cannot devote all her time to me. She is so sarcastic that;when I try to salvage it, I talk a chunk of stuff that we should talk things out, she just answers: Maybe. Everything I say, she just is so sarcastic or irritated. She says she is irritated of me and disgusted that I am so possessive/keep reminding her stuff.
I told her straight, I am possessive, but she takes me for granted. Everytime, I have to throw my ego just to please her, be it my fault or hers. She has been mentioning breaking up and reconsidering the relationship. It hurts me that I am trying to put aside my pride and she just wants me to be at a bad side. She says things like 'so its my fault? It is always my fault!' and I will have to tell her relationships are shared, it is either both or nothing, we share our burden, not pushing the blame.
I want her to know I do love her and I am willing to change. But she insists that we might not work out. She sms-ed me to say she loves me but she is tired of us. What should I do? We have given ourselves time off. But what should I do to salvage the situation? It has been bothering other aspects of my life now. She is my pillar of strength, I don't know what would I do if she is gone! -
but u are a guy right. Do guy usually need report to their girlfriend when they sleep? i think this kind of thing no need to report leh. Maybe some girlfriend likes to know where u go, when u sleep and what to do, then there gf must also be possessive. I think ur girlfriend is the exact opposite.
and why the heck is she being so sarcastic to her bf arr and u seem quite an sensitive chap.. i mean can talk out one right ?
If cannot talk or talk it through, maybe she is not right for u.. -
I need not say more.
Don't be WEAK my friend. You gotta be strong yourself. The strength has to be from you. Not from her.
No woman is ever worth getting upset over. None. A girl is just there to make your life more colourful that's all. Nothing worth getting upset about. You are simply just too used to her. If she wants to go, great.. let her leave. If not, she will suck up so much of your energy.
If you find yourself having a lot of resistance in this relationship, perhaps it's time to relax and not give in too much.
Is this your first relationship?
Take a chill bro.
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Seph,
Your insecurity is killing the relationship.
A relationship is free spirited, it is not a boring routine.
Why are you turning a relationship into a chore ?
Wise up now, your girlfriend's heart is no longer yours to keep. -
Originally posted by jojobeach:Seph,
Your insecurity is killing the relationship.
A relationship is free spirited, it is not a boring routine.
Why are you turning a relationship into a chore ?
Wise up now, your girlfriend's heart is no longer yours to keep.
If like that a bit of bored can kill a relationship, then what happens after marriage? How are you going to face your significant others every single day?
Think far. -
In a situation like this, best to leave her alone and get on with the other things in your life..... You can pop back to look in on her after a couple of weeks to see if she's gotten over her "mood". If she has, then carry on as per normal. If not, mebbe it's time to move on - she ain't ready for a r/s and u dun wanna waste your time hanging around and waiting.......
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It is up to the couples to make marriage un-boring.Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
If like that a bit of bored can kill a relationship, then what happens after marriage? How are you going to face your significant others every single day?
Think far.
That is why, marriage counselors always need to remind couples to go for date nights. And keep the fire going.
If all marriage can survive boredom, you think those marriage counselors still have a job ?
When you take your marriage for granted, you stop putting in effort.
That's what happens to too many marriage. -
possibly inter-twined to being possessive as a resultOriginally posted by BenBenDeZhu:from yur previous threads, i think u look down on yurself alot
TS, u should start sorting things out urself too -
TS, well.. things some guys/gals don't like when they go out with their buddies..
is that their significant others call them during the outing.. they may feel that their significant other doesn't trust them.. give them some personal space..
esp. since she said she'd call you back... that may usually mean 5 mins to you.. but to her it may mean after the outing...when she's going back... -
i kinda agree here.Originally posted by BrUtUs:welcome to post honeymoon period... its very shitty period to go thru tats wat i can say... anyway u must let both of u to cool down then hv a nice talk... 1 person let 1 step...
its natural lah, everyone has been through it. juz let things cool down. then talk to her. -
girls like confident guys. From what i see, TS, you are just a no confident guy desperately clinging on to your gf.
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TS ard?!?!