Is this betrayal?
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You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.
The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""
Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you? -
if it's true, i wld have left him on the spot...
it's not betrayal... it's flirtatious... -
wahh, tat malay gal wants to warn u or wants to find trouble.
anyway, guys who flirt verbally, will flirt physically as well.
beware.
seen too much of such guys. -
i think maybe the malay gal is jealous.. you are lucky she didn't say your bf say she is more slim than you.. then that one is
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well...
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Question is how much you can believe that store keeper ?Originally posted by petti:You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.
The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""
Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you?
First - why would a store keeper suddenly ask - "is that your gf outside" ? Come on how many 7-11 store keeper will ask someone that question - unless she is bored and try to be funny and looking for trouble .... !!! She then tell you what your bf say - just prove she is just a bored woman who is trying to be funny and looking for trouble...
Petti a lady beauty is not just on how she look and her figure , it is also her confident of herself and the way she carry herself that attract men. If just one word from a 7-11 store keeper and you already shaken ..... gal ... you sure need to build up some confidence ! -
Strictly speaking: No, there's no betrayal.........
Your boyfriend is therefore acquited of the charge.
But he's a flirt all right..........
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I think you are mistaken. I have absolute confidence in myself. Besides, whether how pretty or sexy am i is not the issue. Neither is how sexy she is. And neither is her intention in telling me.Originally posted by storywolf:Question is how much you can believe that store keeper ?
First - why would a store keeper suddenly ask - "is that your gf outside" ? Come on how many 7-11 store keeper will ask someone that question - unless she is bored and try to be funny and looking for trouble .... !!! She then tell you what your bf say - just prove she is just a bored woman who is trying to be funny and looking for trouble...
Petti a lady beauty is not just on how she look and her figure , it is also her confident of herself and the way she carry herself that attract men. If just one word from a 7-11 store keeper and you already shaken ..... gal ... you sure need to build up some confidence !
The issue to me is, why is he saying that to another woman? And as if it is not bad enough, he said it within one to two metre away from me? What does this signify?
P/s: i asked him if he said that, he replied he did. -
Honestly, i am disappointed. He is known to be a very faithful guy among many.Originally posted by Cool-gal:wahh, tat malay gal wants to warn u or wants to find trouble.
anyway, guys who flirt verbally, will flirt physically as well.
beware.
seen too much of such guys. -
petti, u shd confront ur bf, see wad he says..
i think tat cashier was just trying to be frenly. if she wasnt, she will not comment u as a sexy lady.
but of cos, she might be making it up.
so its a 50-50 situation.
confront ur bf la.. -
Originally posted by petti:
ur bf is just being honest.
The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""
Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you?
unless tat day u r more sexy that that ah pui. -
Yes, i think she is trying to be frenly. And her telling me is some woman thingy, whereby women always 'help' women.Originally posted by Cool-gal:petti, u shd confront ur bf, see wad he says..
i think tat cashier was just trying to be frenly. if she wasnt, she will not comment u as a sexy lady.
but of cos, she might be making it up.
so its a 50-50 situation.
confront ur bf la..
I confronted him. His reply was "yes, i said that. but do you honestly think that plump girl is sexier than you?"
well, i shut my ears beyond that point and left. Whether she is sexier or not is not the point. The point is, he said that. And to make matters worse, he said that right in front of me (thinking that i will never hear it as i am at the other side of the glass door)! It is no excuse that the girl is sexier or not sexier than me. -
ermmm.....Originally posted by petti:I think you are mistaken. I have absolute confidence in myself. Besides, whether how pretty or sexy am i is not the issue. Neither is how sexy she is. And neither is her intention in telling me.
The issue to me is, why is he saying that to another woman? And as if it is not bad enough, he said it within one to two metre away from me? What does this signify?
P/s: i asked him if he said that, he replied he did.
how long have u two been together? -
hello, may be you may wanna monitor him and see how he really is. What he said to the malay is not acceptable.Originally posted by petti:You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.
The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""
Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you? -
we are together for half a year. he is an old friend of my best friends. he does not have unfaithful record.Originally posted by Cool-gal:ermmm.....
how long have u two been together? -
i think u can find a better guy than this jerk.Originally posted by petti:Yes, i think she is trying to be frenly. And her telling me is some woman thingy, whereby women always 'help' women.
I confronted him. His reply was "yes, i said that. but do you honestly think that plump girl is sexier than you?"
well, i shut my ears beyond that point and left. Whether she is sexier or not is not the point. The point is, he said that. And to make matters worse, he said that right in front of me (thinking that i will never hear it as i am at the other side of the glass door)! It is no excuse that the girl is sexier or not sexier than me.
seriously, if he can flirt verbally, he will flirt physically.
yes, this is betrayal to me though small but mean something.
if he was to say it infront of me to a fren rather than a stranger, maybe i wont feel anything.
but.....
think twice abt this r/s ba.. -
Thank you for your affirmation. How to monitor? i am thinking, if i am around he is already saying that to other girls, what about the times when i am not around?Originally posted by qlqq9:hello, may be you may wanna monitor him and see how he really is. What he said to the malay is not acceptable. -
maybe he did, just tat he is lucky enough not to get spot on.Originally posted by petti:we are together for half a year. he is an old friend of my best friends. he does not have unfaithful record.
just imagine, if u werent ard, he might be saying far more than those.
im not trying to sour ur r/s, this is just my point of view.
but oso, if u love him a lot, then might consider giving him a chance.
let him noe, u do not like this kind of things to happen ever again? -
Yes, i agree totally. Though many may think i am making a mountain out of a molehill, but i really think it means something. It signifies something. What about times when i am not around when he is actually already saying that right in front of me (thinking that i will not hear it)?Originally posted by Cool-gal:i think u can find a better guy than this jerk.
seriously, if he can flirt verbally, he will flirt physically.
yes, this is betrayal to me though small but mean something.
if he was to say it infront of me to a fren rather than a stranger, maybe i wont feel anything.
but.....
think twice abt this r/s ba.. -
or maybe u wan to talk to him abt it?Originally posted by petti:Yes, i agree totally. Though many may think i am making a mountain out of a molehill, but i really think it means something. It signifies something. What about times when i am not around when he is actually already saying that right in front of me (thinking that i will not hear it)?
and is this the first time something like this happen??
did he apologise?? -
Petti, good that you are objective and not swayed by your emotions. If a guy can do this behind your back, he may have been going out with other gals as well and tell them sweet nothing.Originally posted by petti:Yes, i agree totally. Though many may think i am making a mountain out of a molehill, but i really think it means something. It signifies something. What about times when i am not around when he is actually already saying that right in front of me (thinking that i will not hear it)?
Beware of guys like that. It is better to be cautious then to be sorry later. -
petti,
You cannot tell a man's faithfulness by the way he looks or presents himself.
You judge him by his actions.
Stopping short of jumping into bed with that lady, he has pretty much shown how much potential he has to possibly betray you.
That malay lady is just giving you a heads up.
Yes, sometimes women does watch each other's back, even for a stranger.
I have some men who flirted with me in public while their gf/partner was nearby.
Given a chance, I'd tell the woman her boyfriend/husband flirted with me.
Most of the time, the woman will accuse me of flirting with their husband first. But I don't care, because I have done my part in warning her.
Ultimately, she will be the one living/dealing with him, not me.
I am but a stranger.
Because, personally I don't condone such actions from men.
And I will not tolerate my own man behaving in such disrespectful manner.
NOT when I am around.
If I am not with him, he can flirt all he wants when he is not with people I know.
There is no such thing as a harmless flirt.
I'd keep him on a very short leash if I am you. -
yes, this is the first time that such incident happens. no, he did not apologise, he just gave excuse like "do you honestly think that plump girl is sexier......." to which i walked away.Originally posted by Cool-gal:or maybe u wan to talk to him abt it?
and is this the first time something like this happen??
did he apologise?? -
Yes, this is a small matter. But must we wait untill we catch a man red-handed in bed with another woman then we start making noise, concluding that he has cheated?Originally posted by jojobeach:petti,
You cannot tell a man's faithfulness by the way he looks or presents himself.
You judge him by his actions.
Stopping short of jumping into bed with that lady, he has pretty much shown how much potential he has to possibly betray you.
That malay lady is just giving you a heads up.
Yes, sometimes women does watch each other's back, even for a stranger.
I have some men who flirted with me in public while their gf/partner was nearby.
Given a chance, I'd tell the woman her boyfriend/husband flirted with me.
Most of the time, the woman will accuse me of flirting with their husband first. But I don't care, because I have done my part in warning her.
Ultimately, she will be the one living/dealing with him, not me.
I am but a stranger.
Because, personally I don't condone such actions from men.
And I will not tolerate my own man behaving in such disrespectful manner.
NOT when I am around.
If I am not with him, he can flirt all he wants when he is not with people I know.
There is no such thing as a harmless flirt.
I'd keep him on a very short leash if I am you. -
Maybe its just a causal remark bah?