Lonely people fall in to chat your feeling!!
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I found out that I grow older, my friends are getting lesser.
Moreover, my close friends never keep promises. They said they would go out this weekends or so, in the end they say they can't make it so weekend is for me to go out alone. They will come and find me when they need help. I am being used by them.
As for not so close friends, I message them, they just reply with a few lines of greetings and that's in the end. I can't do some of the activities such as badminton or tennis, because nobody wants to go although he or she likes the game.
There is no point to know from friendsters or facebook. It's a waste of time. Meet-up is very unlikely.
With technology make things worse, my friends never like to talk on phone or meet face to face. They prefer msn and sms. Why?
Therefore my life is surrounded with busy work in weekdays and lonely life in weekend. The cycles repeat. I afraid I can't take it and jumped off the building.
What shall I do? I haven't done any wrongdoing to people. What's wrong with me?
Anyone have this feelings. Do share your other experiences about yourself.
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wan to talk on msn?
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join in some club or anything that u like. A dance club would be nice. from there u can meet new ppl
Everyone is getting busy with their life especially when they are working and they have gf/bf. Honestly if they are under these, u hardly able to meet them up cuz they prefer to be with their lover more than a fren.
Meet face-to-face is kinda hard too as u need to travel and most ppl are exhausted after working hour depending on their position and workload..ITs understandable ppl wont go out for Yamcha or anything on weekday nites.
I know you feel this but things will changed if u meet the special one. At that time, u will think meeting up a fren on weekend would b a little hard
As for me, my life is now my family, career and my gf.. Frens really need to put aside before all these. Still meet up anyway but not that often as when i was single.
Try to join Modern-Dancing class, its fun. YOu can dance, exercise, know more ppl and the most important , you have fun -
My workplace banned people from using msn. I still struck in office. You can add me.Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:wan to talk on msn? 
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I just kidding, i am not a buaya..Originally posted by Meilin86:My workplace banned people from using msn. I still struck in office. You can add me.
Next year, i will not be having internet access liao as i will be working offshore.. so only can be contactable by mobile phone. -
U mean u cant download the MSN programme huh ? Easy, i have a way but u need to cover up lolOriginally posted by Meilin86:My workplace banned people from using msn. I still struck in office. You can add me.
Try Web messenger -
i think a lot of buayas or xdd will try to add you into their msn messenger. just watch out who u are talking to..
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adding some1 in MSN doesnt mean they are a buaya. Some ppl just wanna know more fren if its not possible in reality. Why cant u think the positive way? = =Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:i think a lot of buayas or xdd will try to add you into their msn messenger. just watch out who u are talking to.. -
I didn't thought of it. Thanks. I need to monitor my boss whereabout as my office is a big open space.Originally posted by Zarks:U mean u cant download the MSN programme huh ? Easy, i have a way but u need to cover up lol
Try Web messenger -
well, from what i see, wank soon and yimkim will be the first to do this..Originally posted by Zarks:adding some1 in MSN doesnt mean they are a buaya. Some ppl just wanna know more fren if its not possible in reality. Why cant u think the positive way? = =
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for a start, y dun u intro urself?
there's outings in dis forums, u can choose to join or not. -
Lol.. it still up to the gal to add them or not ,hopefully the gals who add anyone can be careful not to reveal too much personal stuff.Originally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG:well, from what i see, wank soon and yimkim will be the first to do this.. -
I face the same problem too!
It takes lots of effort to start, cultivate and sustain friendships, especially if you are not naturally sociable.
You may want to join a volunteer group!
It allows you to meet like-minded people and do some charity at the same time! 
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Originally posted by Zarks:Lol.. it still up to the gal to add them or not ,hopefully the gals who added them can be careful not to reveal too much personal stuff. Wank Soon always post topic in Bar. He likes it
u think so?
sometime very hard to QC such stuff..
it is easy to bait on lonely people who are looking for fun and laugther to compensate for their abundance of time and lack of company, not in that sense of 'fun' first. that fun can comes later when trust has increased.
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LoL.... it is not that bad.. it is part and parcel of growing old. Ppl have their commitment, hence cant meet up and do thing like they used to do during their younger day. U will understand it once u have ur own little family. Atleast u are all still in contact and that is good enough.
You are still young. Maybe it is time to widen your social circle and meet new friends or try joining group activities. Since you do visit sgFourm, can try coming to Single Club where they host lot of group activities.
Other then that, u can fill up your time with hobby or thing that u once wish to do but din have the money or time doing. Pick up a new sport too can help. It keep u happy, occupied and at the same time fit. -
True, gals need to be smart on these. BUt i think nowadays gals are smarter than guys already. With their 6th sense, i thk smart gal can survive la. Back to TopicOriginally posted by sLeEpWaLkErInG: u think so?
sometime very hard to QC such stuff..
it is easy to bait on lonely people who are looking for fun and laugther to compensate for their abundance of time and lack of company, not in that sense of 'fun' first. that fun can comes later when trust has increased. -
If you don't mind me sharing a few thoughts of mine....I believe your case is not unique as there are many out there just like you. Believe me when I say that cause I come across people like you in my work sometimes. I also feel like that sometimes. It is true that as you get older, you will start attending more weddings, seeing your friends get attached and having their own children. It's part of life and frankly, they are not to be blamed.Originally posted by Meilin86:I found out that I grow older, my friends are getting lesser.
Moreover, my close friends never keep promises. They said they would go out this weekends or so, in the end they say they can't make it so weekend is for me to go out alone. They will come and find me when they need help. I am being used by them.
As for not so close friends, I message them, they just reply with a few lines of greetings and that's in the end. I can't do some of the activities such as badminton or tennis, because nobody wants to go although he or she likes the game.
There is no point to know from friendsters or facebook. It's a waste of time. Meet-up is very unlikely.
With technology make things worse, my friends never like to talk on phone or meet face to face. They prefer msn and sms. Why?
Therefore my life is surrounded with busy work in weekdays and lonely life in weekend. The cycles repeat. I afraid I can't take it and jumped off the building.
What shall I do? I haven't done any wrongdoing to people. What's wrong with me?
Anyone have this feelings. Do share your other experiences about yourself.
You have to find your own activities and ways of meeting new people. Some will succeed and some will not....its the reality of life....I surround myself with my work too and the best thing you can do now is just find time to meet people from different websites....I think it still can be done although you may not think so....cheers -
There are quite a number of lonely people. The young and the old.
I agree with the bros here that going for dancing class and volunteering is one of the great way to relieve loneliness. Loneliness is really one of the toughest thing for human to deal with.
I envy with couples in the wedding dinner. How i wish it will be my turn soon. -
i will be lonely when i am working offshore cos it will be me, myself and I.Originally posted by Meilin86:There are quite a number of lonely people. The young and the old.
I agree with the bros here that going for dancing class and volunteering is one of the great way to relieve loneliness. Loneliness is really one of the toughest thing for human to deal with especially for the elderly
One man operation, it is just a fact of life one need to undergo to cultivate the innner being.
Peer influence, politics are all bye bye.. Now, that's good.. -
TO be lonely or not, it is depend on what you wan to do. If you do nothing, sure you will continue to be lonely. If you do something, pretty sure u will know whether you are lonely.
Everything takes effort to obtain something. Try to think of something that u want to do, search it, then join it. Who knows u might meet some1 special and ended up in marriage soon.. Hey , world is full of possibilities -
Well quickly go find your knight in shining armor and then we can all go for your wedding dinnerOriginally posted by Meilin86:There are quite a number of lonely people. The young and the old.
I agree with the bros here that going for dancing class and volunteering is one of the great way to relieve loneliness. Loneliness is really one of the toughest thing for human to deal with.
I envy with couples in the wedding dinner. How i wish it will be my turn soon. -
Loneliness isnt so bad once u get used to it. But still, why choose to be lonely when u can be in the company of joy and fun. If your old gang can't made it, time to get more newer gangs, so that u have some to spare in the near future. At least till the day u walk down that aisle.Originally posted by Meilin86:There are quite a number of lonely people. The young and the old.
I agree with the bros here that going for dancing class and volunteering is one of the great way to relieve loneliness. Loneliness is really one of the toughest thing for human to deal with.
I envy with couples in the wedding dinner. How i wish it will be my turn soon. -
when lonely u envy couples.... when u r in couple, sometimes u wish u were singleOriginally posted by Meilin86:There are quite a number of lonely people. The young and the old.
I agree with the bros here that going for dancing class and volunteering is one of the great way to relieve loneliness. Loneliness is really one of the toughest thing for human to deal with.
I envy with couples in the wedding dinner. How i wish it will be my turn soon. -
clap clap clap....so trueOriginally posted by subaru67:when lonely u envy couples.... when u r in couple, sometimes u wish u were single -
There's perfectly nothing wrong with you - at least, not on the basis of what you've just typed.Originally posted by Meilin86:I found out that I grow older, my friends are getting lesser.
Moreover, my close friends never keep promises. They said they would go out this weekends or so, in the end they say they can't make it so weekend is for me to go out alone. They will come and find me when they need help. I am being used by them.
As for not so close friends, I message them, they just reply with a few lines of greetings and that's in the end. I can't do some of the activities such as badminton or tennis, because nobody wants to go although he or she likes the game.
There is no point to know from friendsters or facebook. It's a waste of time. Meet-up is very unlikely.
With technology make things worse, my friends never like to talk on phone or meet face to face. They prefer msn and sms. Why?
Therefore my life is surrounded with busy work in weekdays and lonely life in weekend. The cycles repeat. I afraid I can't take it and jumped off the building.
What shall I do? I haven't done any wrongdoing to people. What's wrong with me?
Anyone have this feelings. Do share your other experiences about yourself.
The fact of the matter is you need to know who are strangers, acquaintances and friends - blindly befriending any average joe or plain janes doesn't exactly make them friends. This is especially true if you happen to have friends who congregate in groups (ie.you know and interact with them on a group basis rather than on an individual basis). As most people behaving that way tend to make friends on the basis of wanting to "fit in" to allay their insecurities rather than befriending others through a common interest/circumstance, such relationships normally wouldn't withstand the test of time. In truth, such people will be spending their lifetimes making friends in phases (ie.at school, work, etc) without keeping any substantial friends that actually last a lifetime. In all honesty, do you really need such friends?
Loneliness isn't a worthy reason to feed your insecurities methinks - instead of viewing yourself as an outcast, you should feel sorry for your insecure "friends" who seem to have numerous friends on the surface, but are ultimately the loneliest people around. Quality of friendships certainly far supercedes the quantity of friendships.
If it's loneliness you wish to address, do go and join some activities to interact with others as some have suggested. However, don't bank on such channels as viable avenues for you to make lifelong friends because, chances are, such "friends" (well, most by the law of averages) will become strangers in the distant future anyway.