It's not a difficult task to stay in menial jobs but the question is whether you want to. What did your psychiatrist say to you about your condition?Originally posted by Spnw07:"If you can't survive in the army, you can't survive the outside world."
Well, my first reaction was of course, that of utter disbelief, defensive and a little angry. But later somehow, I felt my officer was right in a way to say that to me.
I had been less capable, less street-smart compared to all my colleagues in the office. I was an army clerk, you see. I have always have trouble with understanding simple instructions and carrying them out perfectly (efficiently and effectively).
Maybe it boils down to maintaining a positive attitude, but my self-esteem has never been healthy since kindergarten days. For I have been very slow in understanding stuff and clumsy when it comes to most tasks.
I'm still seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication faithfully. However, as it is, self-esteem issues are too big for me to express adequately and accurately to mental health professionals.
I also have a deep distrust for and a deep dislike of people due to various life experiences. So all this, together with my VERY slow to understand and inferiority complex, this has made staying on jobs for at least a year an almost impossible task.
The person who say tat statement to u have not experience the outside world ...Originally posted by Spnw07:"If you can't survive in the army, you can't survive the outside world."
Dear casshern,your moral values are wrong.Religions teach us to be kind to others.Dog eat dog world is morally wrong.You should't use such a phrase to hurt the threadstarter.Originally posted by casshern:actually the first line kinda true for some pple.
going through the army is a toughening up period for sissy boys. the outside world is not as bad cos there's no m0f0s play rank with u, den dun have to be scared of kena charged to DB and extras etc etc.
so the mental stress in army helps to train up boys to the bigger world outside when they ORD.
TS, dun get so affected by these pple. but learn ur lessons while serving, cos its a dog eat dog world outside also
sissy cant downpes ?Originally posted by casshern:actually the first line kinda true for some pple.
going through the army is a toughening up period for sissy boys. the outside world is not as bad cos there's no m0f0s play rank with u, den dun have to be scared of kena charged to DB and extras etc etc.
so the mental stress in army helps to train up boys to the bigger world outside when they ORD.
TS, dun get so affected by these pple. but learn ur lessons while serving, cos its a dog eat dog world outside also
Originally posted by gunner77:prove him wrong![]()
I agree this point..both in life and in army though I am not in yetOriginally posted by Ponders:I was telling him, Army doesn't have to be about shouting and hurling swear words at my men.
Most important is to convince them that what that has to be done is justified and that one must be convinced why they are doing a certain thing before we can expect them to do something.
The key and crux to the issue here is your self-esteem and confidence. It really isn't so much about what has been said and who has said something. The best thing you could do is take the views of others (excluding those who know you extremely well) with a pinch of salt - regardless of whether they're criticisms or compliments.Originally posted by Spnw07:"If you can't survive in the army, you can't survive the outside world."
Well, my first reaction was of course, that of utter disbelief, defensive and a little angry. But later somehow, I felt my officer was right in a way to say that to me.
I had been less capable, less street-smart compared to all my colleagues in the office. I was an army clerk, you see. I have always have trouble with understanding simple instructions and carrying them out perfectly (efficiently and effectively).
Maybe it boils down to maintaining a positive attitude, but my self-esteem has never been healthy since kindergarten days. For I have been very slow in understanding stuff and clumsy when it comes to most tasks.
I'm still seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication faithfully. However, as it is, self-esteem issues are too big for me to express adequately and accurately to mental health professionals.
I also have a deep distrust for and a deep dislike of people due to various life experiences. So all this, together with my VERY slow to understand and inferiority complex, this has made staying on jobs for at least a year an almost impossible task.
No time for that in a real war.Originally posted by Ponders:I would 50% agree with the officer, 50% disagree.
Agree because, the attitude one has is sometimes inherent in the person. If the person likes to keng, he will forever find easy way out in life.
50% disagree, the officer is most likely a person who got out of JC/Poly and immediately NS'ed.
I was a late enlistee (studied Uni first). I spent my holidays working.
When in NS, my 2IC was a 19 year old, and i was 23 years old.
He was not happy about how i treat my men (too nicely).
I was telling him, Army doesn't have to be about shouting and hurling swear words at my men.
Most important is to convince them that what that has to be done is justified and that one must be convinced why they are doing a certain thing before we can expect them to do something.
He wanted to disagree and started to tell me about, "work life", "how to be assertive in work", "how outside life is"
I just asked him (with intention not being disrespectful), "sir, before NS, you were doing A levels?"
He gave me that stumped look....
2 months later.. i was recommended to be attached out till ORD.
what a small man.