Am I a loser
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i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser?
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With such a topic sentence i'm sure flamers will come in ~~
Anyways Trust me u r nt a loser cuz u are toking to 1 ~~ -
No, not a loser.Originally posted by man4nth:i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser? -
Not not loser, at the very least you tried isnt it and that takes courage
However, I am not sure if the girl did the right thing by accepting the ring, cos usually when a girl accepts a ring, means she accepts the guy and in your case, she maybe giving you false hope esp she knows you are interested in her, or worse she only cares abt the ring (thinking: free one I take lor)
I am not in the position to tell you to be persistant or drop the girl, that is for you to decide if she's worth your time, even if she rejects you -
is this a question about whether you should pursue the girl or about your self-esteem?
and no, youre not a loser for that matter
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Well, as long as it is not an engagement ring, most girls will accept since it is meant as a Christmas gift. Rings are just accessories. -
You are a loser because you came in here and whine about it. If you are not a loser, you should have gone on and get a better girlfriend instead of whining about giving a gift to someone who couldn't care 2 hoots about you.Originally posted by man4nth:i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser? -
5 yrs and u still dont know anything about her ar...
All those years should give u more ideas , more in-depth knowledge about her. Her profile. Your chances , the risk u about to take. She rejects you.. but accepts ur expensive ring.
hmmm... are u a loser ? Only if u think u are one.
but still. 5 yrs ? and only recently u made ur move ? What the hell happened in the past 4 yrs ? did u just.. stalk her.. or ask her out in ur dreams ar. -
5 years and u never had a steady girlfriend before? Prior to that 5 years how long ago did you had a gf??
I think you are...
For me.. 3 years.
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I agree with Mid9Sun too. You are not a loser. It takes courage and wisdom to express your feelings to the girl you like and in a way that is not perceived as aggressive or offensive to her.Originally posted by Mid9Sun:Not not loser, at the very least you tried isnt it and that takes courage
However, I am not sure if the girl did the right thing by accepting the ring, cos usually when a girl accepts a ring, means she accepts the guy and in your case, she maybe giving you false hope esp she knows you are interested in her, or worse she only cares abt the ring (thinking: free one I take lor)
I am not in the position to tell you to be persistant or drop the girl, that is for you to decide if she's worth your time, even if she rejects you
I too have my doubts as to whether the girl should accept your ring and as result, half-knowingly or unknowingly gave you false hope of some form of acceptance of your courtship.
It is your decision indeed to make as to how to interpret her reactions and whether to continue with your courtship.
All the best, TS. ^_^ -
You have taken the first step.Originally posted by man4nth:i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser?
By asking her out.
This showed that you ain some whimp who just admire and admire. -
... if being rejected means u're a loser, i think everyone in this world is a loser.
who never keena rejected before? who never fail before? who never felt left out before?
cheer up!
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Originally posted by YuutoFlow:With such a topic sentence i'm sure flamers will come in ~~
Anyways Trust me u r nt a loser cuz u are toking to 1 ~~
flamers?
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well, for the past few yrs, i don't hv the courage to ask her out. i finally couldn't take it anymore. but the result seems disappointed. i not sure she understand the meaning of the gift anot. it a symbol of love.she did not say anything to me till this date
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Man4nth,Originally posted by man4nth:well, for the past few yrs, i don't hv the courage to ask her out. i finally couldn't take it anymore. but the result seems disappointed. i not sure she understand the meaning of the gift anot. it a symbol of love.she did not say anything to me till this date
Girls are not aliens, we cannot read man's mind.
To her, it is just another gift.. albeit an expensive one. But no, she won't know the significant of it.. perhaps she is used to receiving expensive gifts.. so don't put too much thought into it.
Besides, it didn't come with a price tag attached to it right ? -
have you asked her out before? how about asking her out?Originally posted by man4nth:well, for the past few yrs, i don't hv the courage to ask her out. i finally couldn't take it anymore. but the result seems disappointed. i not sure she understand the meaning of the gift anot. it a symbol of love.she did not say anything to me till this date
you dont expect a gal to take the initiative to date you just cause you had given her a gift, do you? -
TS..how she behave towards ya?
more on the fren side ma? -
just dun hope for anything, did you check whether she's already attached or something before proceedingOriginally posted by man4nth:well, for the past few yrs, i don't hv the courage to ask her out. i finally couldn't take it anymore. but the result seems disappointed. i not sure she understand the meaning of the gift anot. it a symbol of love.she did not say anything to me till this date
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u're not loser la.
u're patience.
erm, from wad u have provided, im sorry but to feel tat she is not interested.
find someone else ba...
get tat ring back...!! -
lol... TS never gives a girl EXPENSIVE GIFT especially so when u and her is not in a r/s. It is really a foolish thing to do. If possible, i think u ask back the ring from her.
Warning: u still have to face her in the company, so do it given u have a heart of stone like me.
The fact that she accepts the gift and give no positive response or rather even bother to respond has to show that she is a bitch lol... accept gift without any gratification
Prove to her, she is just another lady in this world and her existence to u is nothing.
U are not a loser, just being too naive or blinded by love. Never give an expensive gift to a girl given she becomes ur wife. Sggirls are materialistic in general. -
You knew the answer already by the time you decided to post this topic, fortunately you can still change that.
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yes you are a LoserOriginally posted by man4nth:i developed a feeling for a colleague for 5 yrs, nvr dared to ask her out. not sure she gt notced me anot. until recently, i cannot take it anymore. decided to ask her out but was rejected ( reasons given she gt something on, so i i change the date, she say she not free oso.) still i gt a her a christmas present. an expensive ring. she accepted and thks me for that and end of stories. Am i a loser? -
no u r not, u juz got rejected. move on n hurry, it has been 5 yrs!
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it not easy to move on n forget. not sure she gt bf anot. she nvr mention. her friends also dun noe. i just hope even cannot carry on the wooing, at least b friend with her.
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Please lah, uncle, u dun pai seh, i also pai seh for u, kenna rejected later work together very pai seh lah, and please hor, if u wait for another 5 years, the monastry will be waiting for you, they are short of monks.Originally posted by man4nth:it not easy to move on n forget. not sure she gt bf anot. she nvr mention. her friends also dun noe. i just hope even cannot carry on the wooing, at least b friend with her.
Dun waste money to buy ring for her, it is only one side love, your love for her only. Next time, Xiao mei mei here be your fren, u buy diamond rings for me, can?