All breakup are painful. I am sure you had tired to make the r/s possible. Now that it is over, dun look back and keep moving forward. It is only the second day of year 2008, just let bygone b bygone and start the new year afresh. U are better off without him.Originally posted by lhuiling:i just told him "we break up"
it is so painful.................
Hi TS, men and women alike should only open their wallets to expensive presents / financial support when the relationship is secure or when they are talking husbands and wives, or at the very least, the good possibility of a sturdy commitment.Originally posted by lhuiling:i just told him "we break up"
it is so painful.................
Did he initiate financial help from you? Why would he give you an ultimatum?Originally posted by lhuiling:during the course of the relationship, he is constantly broke. i pay for his studies and pay for his car. i felt a lot of burden on my shoulder but i do it because i love him.
now he want an ultimatum. To break off or get back together start afresh.
he need 2 year down the road to make money. this time, i will still pay for him everything. even then 2 years may not appear....i am not sure what i am waiting for to....
I noe u can be make it thru since yr decision has been made.Originally posted by lhuiling:thanks everyone for your opinion....i need to be strong here..
Like all storm, just hang in there and soon sunshine will resume. I am sure u can do it. Hope to see u smiling and happy again soon. Take care.Originally posted by lhuiling:thanks everyone for your opinion....i need to be strong here..
I did not even finish reading your whole post. I read until the first 6th month of your roller-coaster relationship oni.Originally posted by lhuiling:I am 29 this year. Been with this guy (R) for a year. I am very depressed and sad. can someone help me out here.
In mid august 06, i broke up with (T) 4 year older whom i was dating for 3 years because we didnt progress and think we just drift off. In jan 07 I met R thro a sport club and started dating him.
R is same age as me and a very emotional guy. He believed that even if a relationship had broken up, he can still care for his ex. he came from a broken family, mother dont really care abt him and siblings are selfish too.
FIRST 6 MONTHS
When we first started first 6 mths, it was a total struggle for me. i felt i was on an roller coaster,sometimes happy sometimes very sad. very often i want to break up and run away. A few incidents: a) his ex was someone who work late. one of the nights i was staying with R at his place, his ex ask if she can stay in the house for 1 nite cos of travelling late. R let her in even though we are in the same house, same bedroom!
2nd incident: her 2nd ex came back from HK. she was invited to R's brother's kids birthday party. R was supposed to go pick her up because she stay very near - ok for me. R was driving a mini then. only can go thro front seat to back seat. for some reason not sure it is for convenience sake, i was sat behind! and the girl was sat infront!
it was a roller coaster ride. i wanna break up wth him but yet stick with him becuase i love him and even my parents dun like him, i stick with him. maybe the fact i sticking with him to show my parents he is the one.
during the course of the relationship, he is constantly broke. i pay for his studies and pay for his car. i felt a lot of burden on my shoulder but i do it because i love him.
2nd 6 months
he change for the better. he focus and treat me better. BUT this time i feel different. i feel all he is nice and such - i deserve it. what he is doing it is to compensate me. and everytime i am struggling when i am with him. because i feel i deserve someone better!
out rship start to break down. arguement over money and his emtional moods, his temper. i feel stress cos paying for everything and come home have to withstand his temper. i left his place and move home. now cool offing.
now he want an ultimatum. To break off or get back together start afresh.
he need 2 year down the road to make money. this time, i will still pay for him everything. even then 2 years may not appear....i am not sure what i am waiting for to....
marriage? his temperament and emotional sting for his ex?
i know i still love him. to break this off is like cutting my heart. yet, to get back to him, it is a struggle for me financially and emotionally.
and will marriage be the final sting for us both?
all of my friends are against this r.ship. 9 out of 10 say i should break it up and i deserve someone better. only 1 say to stick with him..that's me.
please give me your comments!
GratZ....Originally posted by lhuiling:i just told him "we break up"
it is so painful.................
I think you have made a right decision. I can understand how you feel.Originally posted by lhuiling:the and 6 months, he is really nice to me. he make breaksfast for me, drive me towork early in the morning even if he didnt need to go work( he is commission based on sessions).
what i like about him is his intellect, he is talking at my wavelength. and his simplicity..simple down to earth..
anyway..Had said it already. no point looking back