Coming home really late.. replied by Hello Kitty @ Sun, 30 Mar 2008 02:21:31 +0800

Hello Kitty — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 02:21:31 +0800

gd for u!

Coming home really late.. replied by mancha @ Sat, 29 Mar 2008 19:40:41 +0800

mancha — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 19:40:41 +0800

I am not advocating this law firm, but their guidelines are useful.

Or you can search here.

Coming home really late.. replied by thinking too much @ Sat, 29 Mar 2008 16:43:18 +0800

thinking too much — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 16:43:18 +0800

I’m getting a divorce now.. Any1 got recommendation of lawyers 2 help me.. Tkx..

Coming home really late.. replied by Zarks @ Mon, 10 Mar 2008 09:50:06 +0800

Zarks — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 09:50:06 +0800

So are they still together?

How are u gonna be sure if they stil sneak out together again without your knowledge?

Wil the guy just let your wife go?

Wil your wife changed for good?

What is your wife promised to you?

And since the guy said hes the one initiate this flirting, and what did you do ? Dont u get angry or felt like hitting him right at that time? How can u still be patient when u see them both and even talked to the guy?

TS, i just think that you only think bout her happiness and you forgot to think bout yours. U gave too much to her and yet she only give so little to you.

TS just think bout it..

Who would not want to spend a new year celebration with the loved one?

If she really loves u, she would by all means try to spend the time with you on new year when your avaiable..The first thing in her mind would be you, not that guy to celebrate the new year together...

Are you really blind or you just dun wanna accept the fact that your wife already cheated on you and being with the guy together for such a long time?

Think bout this, is 4 years r/s mean something to you or you wan to suffer another 4 years lying to yourself bout this ?

Alrite, if you wanna stay with her and give her another chance.. what would u do if she repeat the same mistake? Tell us.

Everyone can tell if their loved ones really love them.. can u really tell if your wife really love u ? I know how is the feeling cuz i've been in a r/s which icannot feel my gf's love and now im in a r/s that i have no doubt that my gf really loves me,,

just dont lie to yourself..

Coming home really late.. replied by jojobeach @ Mon, 10 Mar 2008 04:15:09 +0800

jojobeach — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 04:15:09 +0800

Hey Thinking Too Much,

How gullible can you get ? Wait, did that guy also claim that he didn't have sex with your wife ?

Why don't you start charging that guy by the hour while she's at it ?

That way, at least you are getting some payback while she's enjoying herself with another guy.

A guy who has no back bone deserves woman like your wife eh ?

Good show dude.

Maybe you can help raise their child too.

Coming home really late.. replied by mancha @ Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:02 +0800

mancha — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:02 +0800

Good for her, you have consideration for her.

Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.

Your marriage is shot, mucker.

I too do not restrict, curtail or supress, my wife. But she does that on her own free will. She keep me informed of her girls-nite-out, and do not date other men. No rules laid down by me. I do the same, I keep her informed if I am going to be late ( I will feel uneasy when I do not inform), and I do not date any women. All this is mutual trust and respect. We do it out of thought for the other.

This is lacking in your marriage.

Coming home really late.. replied by mancha @ Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:01 +0800

mancha — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:01 +0800

Good for her, you have consideration for her.

Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.

Your marriage is shot, mucker.

Coming home really late.. replied by mancha @ Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:00 +0800

mancha — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:59:00 +0800

Good for her, you have consideration for her.

Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.

Your marriage is shot, mucker.

Coming home really late.. replied by Hello Kitty @ Sun, 09 Mar 2008 22:12:51 +0800

Hello Kitty — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 22:12:51 +0800

u enjoy wearin green hat izit.

cn stop deceivin urself anot.

Coming home really late.. replied by Quinsy @ Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:57:32 +0800

Quinsy — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:57:32 +0800

I don't think she loves you enough, or is mature enough to understand that when you love someone, you don't want your partner to worry about you, or be left alone on special occasions?

Or maybe she's just enjoying her own financial freedom and trying to have as much fun as possible?

But I think she married you because of your money and now that she has started working, couldn't care less about you. Cuz she has her own money to spend liao.

Coming home really late.. replied by aremeis @ Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:47:05 +0800

aremeis — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:47:05 +0800

Originally posted by thinking too much:

Hi ppl, sorry 4 not replying promptly.. I dun really goes 2 my com everyday.. Been trying 2 spend more time with her. After talking 2 her & tat guy, I’ve got the whole story (@ least from wat I’ve gathered).. How accurate is still depends on how much they decided 2 keep from me..

They started since last Nov, but she just treated him as only a friend. They talk & occasionally had lunch or dinner 2gather.. He’s the 1 tat keep initiating 2wards her, but she didn’t respond nor reject him (he admitted himself)..

BTW, he’s the reason y I got 2 spend the 2007 countdown alone.. She claim tat no body which including her gal-friends doesn’t know anything abt him..

I did seriously thought of going 2 the lawyers after I’ve found out the msgs.. But she keep saying tat she still loves me & doesn’t wanna end our 4 yrs relationship just like tat.. I do understand tat she’ll get lonely & bored when she’s alone, never did I stop her nor asked abt those phone calls & msgs.. I dun realized tat I’m digging tis grave with my own hands.. I just wanna b fair & giving her the space she need..

Your post here is rather contradictory. I mean what about the hours after dinner - where did they hang out till the wee hours of the morning? And what you gather is another story, what is she going to do with this 3rd party? What is this 3rd party going to do? Continue seeing your wife and initiating? Somehow, I find that you're either witholding or really incredible. Is this your version of being fair? Are you still treating this rather lightly?

Coming home really late.. replied by thinking too much @ Sun, 09 Mar 2008 17:32:25 +0800

thinking too much — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 17:32:25 +0800

Hi ppl, sorry 4 not replying promptly.. I dun really goes 2 my com everyday.. Been trying 2 spend more time with her. After talking 2 her & tat guy, I’ve got the whole story (@ least from wat I’ve gathered).. How accurate is still depends on how much they decided 2 keep from me..

They started since last Nov, but she just treated him as only a friend. They talk & occasionally had lunch or dinner 2gather.. He’s the 1 tat keep initiating 2wards her, but she didn’t respond nor reject him (he admitted himself)..

BTW, he’s the reason y I got 2 spend the 2007 countdown alone.. She claim tat no body which including her gal-friends doesn’t know anything abt him..

I did seriously thought of going 2 the lawyers after I’ve found out the msgs.. But she keep saying tat she still loves me & doesn’t wanna end our 4 yrs relationship just like tat.. I do understand tat she’ll get lonely & bored when she’s alone, never did I stop her nor asked abt those phone calls & msgs.. I dun realized tat I’m digging tis grave with my own hands.. I just wanna b fair & giving her the space she need..

Coming home really late.. replied by areusure @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 14:54:59 +0800

areusure — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 14:54:59 +0800

TS something's wrong, that for sure.

the many advice here is enuf for u to do something soon.

Either blind eye or sit down to talk.

MOST IMPORTANTLY dont panic and dont confront. becuase either way if inevitable happen the former manners no help at all. Maintain calmness at all times.

For all you know, false alarm as maybe your wife has found something new for time being or maybe she is sending u some msg that hopefully u can come to address it soon.

Keep CALM.

Coming home really late.. replied by blu_sky @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 14:53:29 +0800

blu_sky — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 14:53:29 +0800

Originally posted by aremeis:

blu_sky

In life, we must not take these harsh times and challenges as "too late". I see life as a strife for excellence no matter how imperfect as I may be. Simply because I just love myself to the core to ill-afford to hurt people around me.

A relationship is about 2 people. Not you alone in a relationship. Even if you 'never think it is too late', you need your partner to feel that way towards you too. Love CANNOT be one-sided.

Coming home really late.. replied by jojobeach @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:14:50 +0800

jojobeach — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:14:50 +0800

Originally posted by aremeis:

Sorry, you are wrong.

BTW if you are right, there's no prizes here.

My apologeezzz Aremeis...

Coming home really late.. replied by aremeis @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:12:00 +0800

aremeis — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:12:00 +0800

Originally posted by blu_sky:

I agree that TS should do some self-reflection. But i am not sure if it is 'too late' to salvage the relationship. Most of the times, when a woman strays, she rarely turns back.

blu_sky

In life, we must not take these harsh times and challenges as "too late". I see life as a strife for excellence no matter how imperfect as I may be. Simply because I just love myself to the core to ill-afford to hurt people around me.

Coming home really late.. replied by aremeis @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:08:00 +0800

aremeis — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:08:00 +0800

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Me watching with a mug of ice cold beer....

Aremeis .. you're married , yes ?

Sorry, you are wrong.

BTW if you are right, there's no prizes here.

Coming home really late.. replied by loti39 @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 01:15:19 +0800

loti39 — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 01:15:19 +0800

TS.. I am not married but attached before several times.. and what I can say is that if a person can be seeing someone else or whatever kinda relationship your wife is having with this guy.. she has lost interest in your relationship.

Maybe you can forgive her.. maybe she wants to try again with you.. but if she is not keen to try at all.. and you have no kids so one less reason to stay together.. you should try to move on and divorce her. chang-tong-bu-ru-duan-tong... but its easier said than done lah..

Coming home really late.. replied by Hello Kitty @ Fri, 07 Mar 2008 00:28:07 +0800

Hello Kitty — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 00:28:07 +0800

divorced her oladi anot.

Coming home really late.. replied by blu_sky @ Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:50:11 +0800

blu_sky — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:50:11 +0800

Originally posted by aremeis:

On the contrary, IMO these are the questions we should have helped TS to ponder and us to consider as we give our views. Also, before we cast our judgement about his wife having more fun than him. One can't help to perceive her as the cheap and loose character a.k.a the tramp. So what if she has a husband? If he is half the time ignorant and not fufilling his part as a husband, then wouldn't that equate as not having a husband at all. Wouldn't she feel as termed by you in your previous post "lonely and need attention".

Yes, I do agree that all of us have different views and opinions if we really want to help then it would be better if we could be more objective and not add fuel to fire. Remember we are all here to help, so do have a heart.

I agree that TS should do some self-reflection. But i am not sure if it is 'too late' to salvage the relationship. Most of the times, when a woman strays, she rarely turns back.

Coming home really late.. replied by blu_sky @ Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:47:11 +0800

blu_sky — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 13:47:11 +0800

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Me watching with a mug of ice cold beer....

Aremeis .. you're married , yes ?

Blu_sky.. you're not yet married , yes ?

Difference in opinion is not uncommon in such case. We each walk our own path.. living a different life........in different stage of our life.

From what I deduced from TS's thread, he's just a lazy bum in this marriage of his.

hmmm..... why the curiosity?

you are not married rite?

Coming home really late.. replied by aremeis @ Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:13:04 +0800

aremeis — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:13:04 +0800

Originally posted by Zarks:

Those many questions of yours should be answered by TS himself. Too many questions left unanswered and we all cannot assume what is the answer.

Well, different opinions from both of us. WE never know the real story if TS is hiding something and put the blame on the wife. Since TS himself doesnt reply to his own thread, i guess let him settle himself.

If TS is really serious bout this, he would have always look in his own thread and explain everything clearly so we can offer some advices.

I dont think there's a need to discuss the history of their r/s. PLus, the wife admitted shes having affair with a guy. A divorce would be final decision. The real problem here is that both of TS and his wife lack of communication which leads to failure in r/s.

We shall wait for news from TS

On the contrary, IMO these are the questions we should have helped TS to ponder and us to consider as we give our views. Also, before we cast our judgement about his wife having more fun than him. One can't help to perceive her as the cheap and loose character a.k.a the tramp. So what if she has a husband? If he is half the time ignorant and not fufilling his part as a husband, then wouldn't that equate as not having a husband at all. Wouldn't she feel as termed by you in your previous post "lonely and need attention".

Yes, I do agree that all of us have different views and opinions if we really want to help then it would be better if we could be more objective and not add fuel to fire. Remember we are all here to help, so do have a heart.

Coming home really late.. replied by Zarks @ Thu, 06 Mar 2008 08:50:40 +0800

Zarks — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 08:50:40 +0800

Originally posted by aremeis:

TS is only relating to what has happened to his wife. No where in his entire post was there another side of the story. Isn't this very one-sided. I m sure there are some more things between them. Remember no one likes to be term as a loose and cheap character especially the ladies.

Just for your sake, in any r/s there are bound to have quarrels and fights. Somehow, there will be some outstanding and unresolved accounts. How do you think they are unresolved? Well, let's take your self assumption and take for granted attitude to begin with, a lot of times we just aren't bothered with the minute details and just simply skim the surface and assume that all would be well. Well, that is not the way with matters of the heart and though there may be various ways looking and approaching it - we need to be particular and ever conscious to working out a solution together and resolve it for good.

As I can assure you to stray is simply not an overnight affair, it is an accumulation of dissatisfaction, frustrations, disappointments and anger. And do you think for 1 single moment that it could be resolved so easily. It would require painstaking efforts and conviction to make things come around. Let me ask you this: Do you think that TS has never once neglected his wife? What about the times when he has been nothing but a chauvinist? What about the cultural differences? What about the times when they quarreled? Did he lay hands on her? Do you think TS is blameless there? Did he chose to be with his brothers over her, in her time of need? Did he miss out on being a good husband? Is there any financial problems between them? For them to be married and not have children till now is also questionable. Why is the wife on Facebook and MSN if their r/s is firm and that he is still the one she adored when she pledged herself to him? Does TS ever brood about his past r/s with his ex? Does TS takes his wife's efforts i.e. household chores, cleaning, cooking and what not, for granted? Criticise when things go bad and never a praise when she has done well. Does TS have some bad habits which time and again failed to change? Huh, you just make it sound so simple here and make things seemingly here and there - I wouldn't even dare to call this as objective and open minded.

Remember, ppl don't like to air their dirty laundry and would certainly overlook their faults most of the time when the problem arise and hit them real hard on the face.

As I have emphasized from the beginning, we are unaware what is actually happening within their marriage and only TS would be able to answer that himself. We can only offer some views and opinions and let him go on from there, what he chooses to do is really his. So, if he still treasure this marriage then he will need to work on it together with his wife. If not, then leave and break up.

Those many questions of yours should be answered by TS himself. Too many questions left unanswered and we all cannot assume what is the answer.

Well, different opinions from both of us. WE never know the real story if TS is hiding something and put the blame on the wife. Since TS himself doesnt reply to his own thread, i guess let him settle himself.

If TS is really serious bout this, he would have always look in his own thread and explain everything clearly so we can offer some advices.

I dont think there's a need to discuss the history of their r/s. PLus, the wife admitted shes having affair with a guy. A divorce would be final decision. The real problem here is that both of TS and his wife lack of communication which leads to failure in r/s.

We shall wait for news from TS

Coming home really late.. replied by jojobeach @ Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:17:39 +0800

jojobeach — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:17:39 +0800

Me watching with a mug of ice cold beer....

Aremeis .. you're married , yes ?

Blu_sky.. you're not yet married , yes ?

Difference in opinion is not uncommon in such case. We each walk our own path.. living a different life........in different stage of our life.

From what I deduced from TS's thread, he's just a lazy bum in this marriage of his.

Coming home really late.. replied by Yunhaier @ Wed, 05 Mar 2008 22:12:40 +0800

Yunhaier — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 22:12:40 +0800

/me observing watching from afar

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