Originally posted by aremeis:blu_sky
In life, we must not take these harsh times and challenges as "too late". I see life as a strife for excellence no matter how imperfect as I may be. Simply because I just love myself to the core to ill-afford to hurt people around me.
A relationship is about 2 people. Not you alone in a relationship. Even if you 'never think it is too late', you need your partner to feel that way towards you too. Love CANNOT be one-sided.
TS something's wrong, that for sure.
the many advice here is enuf for u to do something soon.
Either blind eye or sit down to talk.
MOST IMPORTANTLY dont panic and dont confront. becuase either way if inevitable happen the former manners no help at all. Maintain calmness at all times.
For all you know, false alarm as maybe your wife has found something new for time being or maybe she is sending u some msg that hopefully u can come to address it soon.
Keep CALM.
Hi ppl, sorry 4 not replying promptly.. I dun really goes 2 my com everyday.. Been trying 2 spend more time with her. After talking 2 her & tat guy, I’ve got the whole story (@ least from wat I’ve gathered).. How accurate is still depends on how much they decided 2 keep from me..
They started since last Nov, but she just treated him as only a friend. They talk & occasionally had lunch or dinner 2gather.. He’s the 1 tat keep initiating 2wards her, but she didn’t respond nor reject him (he admitted himself)..
BTW, he’s the reason y I got 2 spend the 2007 countdown alone.. She claim tat no body which including her gal-friends doesn’t know anything abt him..
I did seriously thought of going 2 the lawyers after I’ve found out the msgs.. But she keep saying tat she still loves me & doesn’t wanna end our 4 yrs relationship just like tat.. I do understand tat she’ll get lonely & bored when she’s alone, never did I stop her nor asked abt those phone calls & msgs.. I dun realized tat I’m digging tis grave with my own hands.. I just wanna b fair & giving her the space she need..
Originally posted by thinking too much:Hi ppl, sorry 4 not replying promptly.. I dun really goes 2 my com everyday.. Been trying 2 spend more time with her. After talking 2 her & tat guy, I’ve got the whole story (@ least from wat I’ve gathered).. How accurate is still depends on how much they decided 2 keep from me..
They started since last Nov, but she just treated him as only a friend. They talk & occasionally had lunch or dinner 2gather.. He’s the 1 tat keep initiating 2wards her, but she didn’t respond nor reject him (he admitted himself)..
BTW, he’s the reason y I got 2 spend the 2007 countdown alone.. She claim tat no body which including her gal-friends doesn’t know anything abt him..
I did seriously thought of going 2 the lawyers after I’ve found out the msgs.. But she keep saying tat she still loves me & doesn’t wanna end our 4 yrs relationship just like tat.. I do understand tat she’ll get lonely & bored when she’s alone, never did I stop her nor asked abt those phone calls & msgs.. I dun realized tat I’m digging tis grave with my own hands.. I just wanna b fair & giving her the space she need..
Your post here is rather contradictory. I mean what about the hours after dinner - where did they hang out till the wee hours of the morning? And what you gather is another story, what is she going to do with this 3rd party? What is this 3rd party going to do? Continue seeing your wife and initiating? Somehow, I find that you're either witholding or really incredible. Is this your version of being fair? Are you still treating this rather lightly?
I don't think she loves you enough, or is mature enough to understand that when you love someone, you don't want your partner to worry about you, or be left alone on special occasions?
Or maybe she's just enjoying her own financial freedom and trying to have as much fun as possible?
But I think she married you because of your money and now that she has started working, couldn't care less about you. Cuz she has her own money to spend liao.
u enjoy wearin green hat izit.
cn stop deceivin urself anot.
Good for her, you have consideration for her.
Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.
Your marriage is shot, mucker.
I too do not restrict, curtail or supress, my wife. But she does that on her own free will. She keep me informed of her girls-nite-out, and do not date other men. No rules laid down by me. I do the same, I keep her informed if I am going to be late ( I will feel uneasy when I do not inform), and I do not date any women. All
Good for her, you have consideration for her.
Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.
Your marriage is shot, mucker.
I too do not restrict, curtail or supress, my wife. But she does that on her own free will. She keep me informed of her girls-nite-out, and do not date other men. No rules laid down by me. I do the same, I keep her informed if I am going to be late ( I will feel uneasy when I do not inform), and I do not date any women. All this
Good for her, you have consideration for her.
Tough luck for you, she treats you like so casually.
Your marriage is shot, mucker.
I too do not restrict, curtail or supress, my wife. But she does that on her own free will. She keep me informed of her girls-nite-out, and do not date other men. No rules laid down by me. I do the same, I keep her informed if I am going to be late ( I will feel uneasy when I do not inform), and I do not date any women. All this is mutual trust and respect. We do it out of thought for the other.
This is lacking in your marriage.
Hey Thinking Too Much,
How gullible can you get ? Wait, did that guy also claim that he didn't have sex with your wife ?
Why don't you start charging that guy by the hour while she's at it ?
That way, at least you are getting some payback while she's enjoying herself with another guy.
A guy who has no back bone deserves woman like your wife eh ?
Good show dude.
Maybe you can help raise their child too.
So are they still together?
How are u gonna be sure if they stil sneak out together again without your knowledge?
Wil the guy just let your wife go?
Wil your wife changed for good?
What is your wife promised to you?
And since the guy said hes the one initiate this flirting, and what did you do ? Dont u get angry or felt like hitting him right at that time? How can u still be patient when u see them both and even talked to the guy?
TS, i just think that you only think bout her happiness and you forgot to think bout yours. U gave too much to her and yet she only give so little to you.
TS just think bout it..
Who would not want to spend a new year celebration with the loved one?
If she really loves u, she would by all means try to spend the time with you on new year when your avaiable..The first thing in her mind would be you, not that guy to celebrate the new year together...
Are you really blind or you just dun wanna accept the fact that your wife already cheated on you and being with the guy together for such a long time?
Think bout this, is 4 years r/s mean something to you or you wan to suffer another 4 years lying to yourself bout this ?
Alrite, if you wanna stay with her and give her another chance.. what would u do if she repeat the same mistake? Tell us.
Everyone can tell if their loved ones really love them.. can u really tell if your wife really love u ? I know how is the feeling cuz i've been in a r/s which icannot feel my gf's love and now im in a r/s that i have no doubt that my gf really loves me,,
just dont lie to yourself..
I’m getting a divorce now.. Any1 got recommendation of lawyers 2 help me.. Tkx..
I am not advocating this law firm, but their guidelines are useful.
Or you can search here.
gd for u!