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Originally posted by RedizAlertz:I see no need of forgiveness cos she doesnt ask for one.
Unless she ask for forgiveness, otherwise do the ultimate - a tit for a tat.two wrong don't make one right, i believe.
yes, will forgive if she tell me. not angry if she's cheating but confess and remose to me, but angry if she lie to me.
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Originally posted by extrinsic:two wrong don't make one right, i believe.
yes, will forgive if she tell me. not angry if she's cheating but confess and remose to me, but angry if she lie to me.Anger is not the only feeling one will feel. You have yet to consider hurt and loss of trust?
Edited by blu_sky 10 Jan `08, 11:47AM
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Hmmm if you’re doing the exact same thing…i think its wasting your time and energy…move on and find a better one… but how sure are you that she is cheating on you? Maybe you’re over-sensitive or suspicious of her? How much trust do you have in her? Usually there will be signs to signify she’s commiting adultery…
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Originally posted by blu_sky:Anger is not the only feeling one will feel. You have yet to consider hurt and mistrust?
hurt, yes
mistrust, yes
and love, also yes
if i love a ger, i will forgive her no matter, as long as she tells me before i find out myself. and i think even if i found out, i still will forgive her.
even if her heart is not with me, but if she still willing to let me take care, i will.
if i'm with her, it's because i love her. not because of anything.
yes, her actions might hurt me, but that dosen't means i love her any lesser..
unless she'll be more happy w/o me around...
and i will not ask ppl to be like me, i'm abnormal.
Edited by extrinsic 10 Jan `08, 11:52AM
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Originally posted by OutOfIdeasHusband:And also refused to tell the truth until you confront her?
If you want her to continue to be your wife, then of course you forgive her.
Some people do not want to remain married and whether their spouse cheat or not, they break...
So you ask yourself, do I want her to continue to be my wife (maybe for the kids, maybe you still love her, doesn't matter why) and if you want to, then forgive.
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"A tit for a tat" means to show her how it feel when she's in my position..
Orite ...orite, mayb i wont do tat..tat's out of anguish..But i wont forgive her if she isnt at all remorseful..
& I dun see the point of stayin married if she continues..the trust oready has a crack..& she still see no point in mendin it..
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Originally posted by OutOfIdeasHusband:And also refused to tell the truth until you confront her?
you can forgive all you want but i can guarantee that you will not forget and it will leave a scar on your marriage, time and time again you will try to imagine the action between her and the other guy, the positions the place the passion..what she did,..how could she do it...
this things will haunt you...
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Originally posted by OutOfIdeasHusband:The husband found out, confronted, but she still tried to lie. She seems remorseful, cried.
Maybe the husband deglect her.
The man was forgiving enough to give her a 2nd chance. But she is not sure, cos she don't know if she wants him back due to material comfort, or if she really love him....of course she is not sure... in life, nothing is certain... if she wants to, just stay together, and don't imagine this and that....
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Originally posted by OutOfIdeasHusband:The husband found out, confronted, but she still tried to lie. She seems remorseful, cried.
Maybe the husband deglect her.
The man was forgiving enough to give her a 2nd chance. But she is not sure, cos she don't know if she wants him back due to material comfort, or if she really love him....of course she is not sure... in life, nothing is certain... if she wants to, just stay together, and don't imagine this and that....
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Originally posted by OutOfIdeasHusband:And also refused to tell the truth until you confront her?
Depend lah, some guys suffered from erectile dyfunction and completely cannot have sex or give very less sex and love, the wife may look for other men, she needs mah. But inorder not to hurt husband, she dun want to tell husband straight in the face that he is lame, no shiok. If this is the case, she should be forgiven.
Those old ah pek or uncle who married young wife mostly face such problem, but ah pek hv to look at himself to justify whether to forgive or not.
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Originally posted by ukillgy:i dun think i will forgive her.. i mean.. do wrong thing le then nvr confess. Then 1 day found out le, will be more angry.. then cannot take it!!!

You should count your blessings when she is kind enough to be your wife.Why cannot forgive her when she commit adultery?You should also be kind enough to let her commit adultery.Some women who are hard-hearted won't even be your girlfriend let alone be your wife.
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Originally posted by ahsiang12:You should count your blessings when she is kind enough to be your wife.Why cannot forgive her when she commit adultery?You should also be kind enough to let her commit adultery.Some women who are hard-hearted won't even be your girlfriend let alone be your wife.
What kind of theory is this !?!?!?!
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