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Recently during CJC orientation camp, i met a gal from the same orientaton group. After the orientation dinner, i accompany her to bus stop as she do not know which bus stop. After a few days, i realised she had feelings for me,as she was positive of everything i said. My fren did asked her if she liked me, she took a long time to reply him. After that, i asked her out for dinner on fri, she say not free. I asked on sat, she said ok. Then we went to some restaurant to makan, i paid everything. Then we went esplanade to walk, we spoke abt alot of stuff, i asked abt her ex, then i held her hands. & she let me hold it.I asked her wad she saw in me, she say is my personality & stuff like that. Then we had a good time talking. Then i accompany her to her hse bus stop, then she waited with me for my bus. Then todays she suddenly sms me, say"hey, i ve been thinking, i think we should take things slow, like i dont know if i can commit, when lessons & CCAs start, & its not fair to you at all."
The following is the situation of my fren. Anyone of you knows wad the gal is tihnking??
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:She is afraid that when school starts, they'll have lesser time together.
So your solution have to be based on spending more time together with that girl...she is not afraid. she knows they will not have much time for each other.
the solution is not spending more time together but respecting her request and giving her space.
be there for her but give her room to breathe. so many guys and gals do not understand this.
she might still be getting over her last r/s, so thou she has shown some affection for the TS, mayb she wants to clear her thoughts of her ex and settle down in school before making commitments to a guy she has only gone out with once.
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Originally posted by 2cansam:Ah koh, take things slowly.
golden rule for every relationship talk: Never bring up an ugly past. In this case, never compare yourself with her ex. Instead , look at what you can do with her. Concentrate on the positives.I beg to differ.
I feel that we can use past experience as a learning opportunity and to better understand our Significant Others. Since it's the past already, and there's nothing to hide; I believe this fall under the communication part of a relationship.
What for be with someone when don't know any of his/her history? Don't tell me his/her history is a blank piece of paper.
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i think the girl treasures u and she is being logical here by asking u to take things slowly. its barely 2 weeks in sch and ur expecting her to be committed in the r/s already meh? slowly lah
and do u like her in the first place? it seems to me that u held her hand and dated her because u knew that she likes u. ask urself u like her anot first, be fair to her
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Originally posted by lageihsif:i think the girl treasures u and she is being logical here by asking u to take things slowly. its barely 2 weeks in sch and ur expecting her to be committed in the r/s already meh? slowly lah
and do u like her in the first place? it seems to me that u held her hand and dated her because u knew that she likes u. ask urself u like her anot first, be fair to heryeah..
make sure you like her too..
don't play around with feelings..
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bro .. take this ting slowly .. step by step … a sudden infatuation for u doesnt mean she’s urs tat instant … give her some time to clear her thoughts …. or start from being close frens .. den slowly work ur way into her heart … no point rushing …. most imptly … DO NOT show tat u r desperate for her … gals hate desperate guys …..
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