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  • abterror's Avatar
    1,222 posts since Apr '03
    • Hi all,

      I would like to hear your opinion from both genders.
      how many of you guys and gers have been thru all these?
      And what is your perception of this.

      Personally, I have been thru all these.
      Some ppl will view it as great passion will lead to great anger.
      I fought with my ex-gf b4. eg push and hold her down.
      Sometimes it is anger and act of defence mechanism. (she has a very fiery temper)
      But i will just put it aside the next day and view it as an act of communication.
      But to her, she viewed me as an aggressive person.

      On the other hand, the common practice now is
      Guys is usually at fault, reason we are physically stronger.
      And gentleman kind of expectation which is seeked from us.

      So what is ur stand ladies and gentlemen.

  • brokenluv's Avatar
    1,003 posts since Mar '07
    • i see fighting as wrong if your just acting on impulse, not an act of passion. No matter how you see it, hurting somebody physically does not acheive anything, especialy so if your not in a properly state of mind. If your mind is calm, you should be able to think rationally and solve the problem with your gf through compromises,etc.

  • abterror's Avatar
    1,222 posts since Apr '03
    • Originally posted by brokenluv:
      i see fighting as wrong if your just acting on impulse, not an act of passion. No matter how you see it, hurting somebody physically does not acheive anything, especialy so if your not in a properly state of mind. If your mind is calm, you should be able to think rationally and solve the problem with your gf through compromises,etc.

      But it works both ways.
      You cant blame a cow to charge at you when you are flipping a cloth.
      If you stop flipping the cloth, you may not be charged. Neutral

  • gUms's Avatar
    1,968 posts since Mar '02
    • You got no Right to use force on a girl!!!! get that in ur farking head .... let me see u doing that to a girl and i will use force on you.

      She is someone else child , and u are not even married to her.
      Next time if ur sister or daugther`s bf uses force on them , how will u feel.!!!!

      A man should not touch a girl , so get that in ur farking head.... No excuse!!!

      Edited by gUms 14 Jan `08, 1:41PM
  • abterror's Avatar
    1,222 posts since Apr '03
    • Originally posted by gUms:
      You got no Right to use force on a girl!!!! get that in ur farking head .... let me see u doing that to a girl and i will use force on you.

      She is someone else child , and u are not even married to her.
      Next time if ur sister or daugther`s bf uses force on them , how will u feel.!!!!

      A man should not touch a girl , so get that in ur farking head.

      Lets say her is doing tat to you.
      It is not like hitting a ger and bang her on the wall.
      lets assume she trys to destory ur property and warned her, she keeps trying.
      you push her away once, twice and she falls on the ground due to lack of balance.
      So lets put it the other way round.
      She can do whatever she wants and deems right?

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    4,057 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by abterror:
      Lets say her is doing tat to you.
      It is not like hitting a ger and bang her on the wall.
      lets assume she trys to destory ur property and warned her, she keeps trying.
      you push her away once, twice and she falls on the ground due to lack of balance.
      So lets put it the other way round.
      She can do whatever she wants and deems right?

      Why would she need to destroy your property ?

      What is the basis of her action ?

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    BadzMaro's Avatar
    21,438 posts since Apr '04
    • Girl cannot use force de...

      Unless ur life is directly threatened. Like Knife in ur face , destroying ur car witha sledge hammer..etc..

      Thats why we are men , they are women. Mr. Green We can take whatever they can dish out.

  • abterror's Avatar
    1,222 posts since Apr '03
    • My idea is, you care that is why you flare.
      Should you dun, why is there a need of to get piss off for.
      Some ppl tell me it is like the love for a mom to a daughther.
      She slap her in the face to stop her from continuing her wildful acts.
      Sometimes words do not stop anything, but on the other hand, if fight occurs mean that is the start for more fights and the relationship will be over no matter wat?

  • abterror's Avatar
    1,222 posts since Apr '03
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    620 posts since Nov '07
  • jojobeach's Avatar
    4,057 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by abterror:
      My idea is, you care that is why you flare.
      Should you dun, why is there a need of to get piss off for.
      Some ppl tell me it is like the love for a mom to a daughther.
      She slap her in the face to stop her from continuing her wildful acts.
      Sometimes words do not stop anything, but on the other hand, if fight occurs mean that is the start for more fights and the relationship will be over no matter wat?

      You are getting it all wrong my friend.

      You care that is why you DON'T flare.

      You get pissed off because you are being treated unjustly.

      A mom who slaps a daughter face does it out of ANGER.
      A mom who loves the daughter does not use physical punishment.

      Yes, once the fighting start, it will not stop.
      Unless the underlying problem has been resolved, the resentment will only lead to more violence.

      Edited by jojobeach 14 Jan `08, 1:55PM
  • Zarks's Avatar
    3,651 posts since Aug '07
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    11,245 posts since Dec '04
  • lageihsif's Avatar
    1,007 posts since Mar '06
    • Originally posted by gUms:
      You got no Right to use force on a girl!!!! get that in ur farking head .... let me see u doing that to a girl and i will use force on you.

      She is someone else child , and u are not even married to her.
      Next time if ur sister or daugther`s bf uses force on them , how will u feel.!!!!

      A man should not touch a girl , so get that in ur farking head.... No excuse!!!

      IF she caused u to lose ur dream job which u fought for 35 years to get, then she kicked u hard in the balls, then she slapped u in orchard, steal ur wallet and caused u to walk home from pasir ris back to boon lay. then next day smile sweetly to u and say wad a loser.

      u still wont touch her? Rolling Eyes

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    4,057 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by lageihsif:
      IF she caused u to lose ur dream job which u fought for 35 years to get, then she kicked u hard in the balls, then she slapped u in orchard, steal ur wallet and caused u to walk home from pasir ris back to boon lay. then next day smile sweetly to u and say wad a loser.

      u still wont touch her? Rolling Eyes

      You don't know how to run ah ? Rolling Eyes

  • Chin Eng's Avatar
    4,976 posts since Nov '03
    • It is not an act of passion, it is an act of rage. You should stop giving excuses. Just my opinion.

  • lageihsif's Avatar
    1,007 posts since Mar '06
  • Zarks's Avatar
    3,651 posts since Aug '07
    • Originally posted by gUms:
      You got no Right to use force on a girl!!!! get that in ur farking head .... let me see u doing that to a girl and i will use force on you.

      She is someone else child , and u are not even married to her.
      Next time if ur sister or daugther`s bf uses force on them , how will u feel.!!!!

      A man should not touch a girl , so get that in ur farking head.... No excuse!!!

      If no touch then no sex.. walao.. r/s can end very fast and we will face extinction lei cuz guy cannot touch gal... wah.. This reminds me of "I am legend"

  • Zarks's Avatar
    3,651 posts since Aug '07
    • Originally posted by gUms:
      You got no Right to use force on a girl!!!! get that in ur farking head .... let me see u doing that to a girl and i will use force on you.

      She is someone else child , and u are not even married to her.
      Next time if ur sister or daugther`s bf uses force on them , how will u feel.!!!!

      A man should not touch a girl , so get that in ur farking head.... No excuse!!!

      Farking head = the head that can fark !

  • Fatum's Avatar
    23,122 posts since Aug '05
  • blu_sky's Avatar
    2,076 posts since Jul '06
    • Originally posted by lageihsif:
      IF she caused u to lose ur dream job which u fought for 35 years to get, then she kicked u hard in the balls, then she slapped u in orchard, steal ur wallet and caused u to walk home from pasir ris back to boon lay. then next day smile sweetly to u and say wad a loser.

      u still wont touch her? Rolling Eyes

      IF that happens, you break off with her, NOT hit her.

  • blu_sky's Avatar
    2,076 posts since Jul '06
    • Originally posted by abterror:
      But it works both ways.
      You cant blame a cow to charge at you when you are flipping a cloth.
      If you stop flipping the cloth, you may not be charged. Neutral

      Men should not do that, thats why we are human, not bulls.

  • soleachip's Avatar
    5,791 posts since Jun '07
    • Originally posted by abterror:
      Hi all,

      I would like to hear your opinion from both genders.
      how many of you guys and gers have been thru all these?
      And what is your perception of this.

      Personally, I have been thru all these.
      Some ppl will view it as great passion will lead to great anger.
      I fought with my ex-gf b4. eg push and hold her down.
      Sometimes it is anger and act of defence mechanism. (she has a very fiery temper)
      But i will just put it aside the next day and view it as an act of communication.
      But to her, she viewed me as an aggressive person.

      On the other hand, the common practice now is
      Guys is usually at fault, reason we are physically stronger.
      And gentleman kind of expectation which is seeked from us.

      So what is ur stand ladies and gentlemen.

      I'd like to think along the lines of angry *** - for dramatic effect. It's harmless as long as no one gets bedridden. Speaking of which, check out Eastern Promises. It's got one of the best nude brawls ever. Smile

  • blu_sky's Avatar
    2,076 posts since Jul '06
    • Originally posted by abterror:
      My idea is, you care that is why you flare.
      Should you dun, why is there a need of to get piss off for.
      Some ppl tell me it is like the love for a mom to a daughther.
      She slap her in the face to stop her from continuing her wildful acts.
      Sometimes words do not stop anything, but on the other hand, if fight occurs mean that is the start for more fights and the relationship will be over no matter wat?

      By using violence, it is not care anymore. It is subdue to anger. It is not love.

      And a mother should NEVER slap her child. Slapping is very demeaning.

  • jondizzle foshizzle's Avatar
    2,280 posts since Apr '07
    • Easy, I'd just break up with the bitch. No force necessary, just a simple "Bitch you're the worst girlfriend anyone could ever have, you're fat and you've put on weight recently and you're ugly and no other guy could possibly ever want you. So that's why I'm breaking up with you." Mr. Green

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