I find that I am a rather dull person who cant really joke well. Most of my jokes are not well received by others and i end up laughing at them myself. I also find that at times i cant hold a proper conversation with someone (more with girls). I always find myself running out of topics to talk about with someone lest close frens whom i can talk non stop. And when silence comes in, its a bit awkward and i end up blabbering rubbish.

How does one hold a proper conversation with another person, regardless of gender, esp if you do not really know a person well

watch more simpsons and sitcoms.
learn how the actors react to certain situations and apply them in ur real life if u spot similar situations.

sitcoms can help to improve ur wits and humour. jiayou.

Cmon dun be so hard on urself.

Thought I am fat and not much looks to boot, I consider myself to be quite an homourous person and can hold a conversation pretty well, of cos when i am talking to someone i fancy, i may stumble a bit here and there but thats normal.

To be a decent conversationalist, I think you must be able to:

1) Laugh at yourself. - Even if it is not funny and when the joke is on you, laugh! When people realise you can laugh at yourself, sooner or later, they will laugh with you - in the positive way.

2) Make mistakes - if you wanna get decent at conversations, you have to make mistakes and keep trying. Its just like doing presentations isnt it. You stand in front of a mirror and you go thru your presentations. You get your colleagues to correct you. After your presentations, your boss corrects you. Comversations work the same way. Do it and learn from your mistakes. BUT. you must DO IT first.

3) BE SINCERE. It is not a sin if your humour is not widely accepted or it is simply not you. Of cos, humour helps to break alot of ice and people tends to see humourous people as more sociable and thus easier to blend in. But, if you are sincere in your dealings with people, in your frenship with people, people will appreciate for what you have got and who you are.

Tip number 1 : talk to those around you like talking to your best friend. but of course la, stay clear of sensitive topics

Tip number 2 : read more jokes online, watch more comedy shows and laugh

Tip number 3 : do parroting ,

A:" so how's your day B?"
B:"Well it's fine, watched a movie just now"
A:"What movie?"
B:"Well its xxx"
A:"Whats the plot like?"
B:"Well the plot is intriguing, brilliant acting from the actors"
A:"O, who acted in it? I hope it's you =P"

bla bla. this is how parroting works. veri useful indeed when chatting up strangers

be yourself , relax and be sincere!

Originally posted by 2cansam:

Tip number 1 : talk to those around you like talking to your best friend. but of course la, stay clear of sensitive topics

Tip number 2 : read more jokes online, watch more comedy shows and laugh

Tip number 3 : do parroting ,

A:" so how's your day B?"
B:"Well it's fine, watched a movie just now"
A:"What movie?"
B:"Well its xxx"
A:"Whats the plot like?"
B:"Well the plot is intriguing, brilliant acting from the actors"
A:"O, who acted in it? I hope it's you =P"

bla bla. this is how parroting works. veri useful indeed when chatting up strangers

number 3 is kinda like

A: hows' your day?
B: great just got back from school
A: so you took a bus?
B: yeah
A: what number was that?
B: XX
A: oh, was it crowded?
B: Yeah
A: Did you get a seat?
B: no

Parroting works to a certain extent until the other party gets tired of you

Try learning new things.

Its always easier to start any topic when you do know the topic.

Like taking a salsa dance class, you will have girls asking you why you took the class, whats the schedule like and what do you do. All you most likely have to do is maybe show her/them what you learned or can do to make the conversation interesting.

Guide To Be More Lively,Humorous And Interesting

Quit spamming daisuke. tsk tsk

try taking up breakdancing, surely you will find a way with the girls on the dancefloor

Originally posted by 2cansam:

Tip number 1 : talk to those around you like talking to your best friend. but of course la, stay clear of sensitive topics

Tip number 2 : read more jokes online, watch more comedy shows and laugh

Tip number 3 : do parroting ,

A:" so how's your day B?"
B:"Well it's fine, watched a movie just now"
A:"What movie?"
B:"Well its xxx"
A:"Whats the plot like?"
B:"Well the plot is intriguing, brilliant acting from the actors"
A:"O, who acted in it? I hope it's you =P"

bla bla. this is how parroting works. veri useful indeed when chatting up strangers

Parroting is stupid for most cases(there are some social seettings where it comes in) but I'm assuming TS wants to engage his friends or gf better, so nothing beats sincerity.

Listen to your friends, understand them and be GENUINELY INTERESTED in what they say. And others will return the favour. Liviness, humour come naturally anyway...more like confidence issues.

Look I can't talk well nor attract people to me like flies. But the people who matter to me will talk to me.

Sincere, sarcastic and a bit exaggerating will do...

I always like to pour cold water on the gals I like..

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Sincere, sarcastic and a bit exaggerating will do...

I always like to pour cold water on the gals I like..

I like to tease them but sometimes over do it =x

Originally posted by ultimatenolifer:

I find that I am a rather dull person who cant really joke well. Most of my jokes are not well received by others and i end up laughing at them myself. I also find that at times i cant hold a proper conversation with someone (more with girls). I always find myself running out of topics to talk about with someone lest close frens whom i can talk non stop. And when silence comes in, its a bit awkward and i end up blabbering rubbish.

How does one hold a proper conversation with another person, regardless of gender, esp if you do not really know a person well

hmm.. just be urself lo. i mean u can't talk well with everyone though

actually those are not jokes u know
Those kinda humour u want i understand

But very hard to explain

What i can say that is those humour + lame

they are just playing around with logic & common sense
And playing with languages as well , all language works especially those signs

You need to be conversation observant , brain turn fast + creativity

Eg. During my class :

A: Teacher , can go toilet
B: Teacher cannot go toilet
A: Teacher commer can i go toilet

Brain must act fast , if late , then u can only save it for next time

Talking is also one of my problem too.
Dont know why , i dont like to talk to others

I can only speak well with people i know well
It just took me very long time to acept + adapt new friend as good friend

There just been alot of stuff i want to say , but i just dont feel like talking
Dunno is i lazy to talk or something wrong with me but i hardly talk

just be yourself.

how would the living know what the dying whats at his deathbed. its all crap stories the living came up with

Yea i agree just be yourself.

Next watch more simpsons and try to face life with more smiles

It all starts with SMILING

and of cos if you think you run out of topics , do some "homework"

Well, watch more live talk shows, Taiwanese entertainment shows esp those featuring Jacky Wu, and just listen to news broadcast daily.

These are the avenues for you to extract relevant topics. Just make sure you steer clear of dirty , yellow, or sexist jokes at least for strangers.

Just a note, in a conversation, it is a 2 way traffic. You do not have to provide topics continuously. After bring up a few topics, you should keep quite and let the other person reciprocate and suggest topics. If the other person does not do so, then just let the silence be as it is. Do not pamper your other party in a conversation yeah?

Don’t try too hard can liao.

i’m more or less like you too. what i did was i found my own style of humour. everyone has their own style of humour. now most of my friends find me funny in a unique way.

Originally posted by ultimatenolifer:

How does one hold a proper conversation with another person, regardless of gender, esp if you do not really know a person well

A good tip for conversation is to be interested in the other party. Try asking questions (not too personal ones though), keep quiet and listen attentively. People like to be listened to.

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enroll in a speech and drama class. they help…..

lol.. cannot talk properly wif girls?? this show that u are thinking something else in ur mind..