what should i do? dilemma.....
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Recently, one of my friend started to ask me out on a one to one basis, i agreed initially and went out with him a couple of times.
But soon suspected that he is trying to hint something. My suspicions were confirmed when one of the mutual friend of ours, told me that he confessed to her that he liked me for quite some time le.
Previously, we used to go out as a group of four and fives occasionally. All of which were from the OG group previously. We were quite close as a group and he often occurred to me as a particularly helpful and friendly guy, who will go to all lengths to help his friends. A nice guy basically. Someone who you can turn to when you have problems and stuff. He also used to call me once in a while to talk on the phone with me.
Furthermore, he is in the same course as me, and we will get to bump into each other very often. Thus it is also very embarrassing for both of us, if i was to avoid him forever.
Now i am like trying to avoid him for the time being.... is there anyway that i can reject him, without losing him as a friend?
I thought of telling and rejecting him directly. Will this be a good solution????
Still thinking...... -
don avoid him and face him instead..
knowing that he has a liking for u, perhaps u can stop doing thigns that will gave him false hope. SO u have to do thigns carefully.
If he happens to confess to u one day, jus tell him nicely wat u really wants.. -
Don't hurt him directly, hint to him that you don't like him loh.. maybe chat about other guys when you're talking to him? Whatever is it, don't need to hurt him, it's always better to have more friends, aye?
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did any of the guys got rejected in a nice way before? care to share? which was the best rejection u faced?.....
maybe i can take a leaf out of that -
obviously rejection will never be nice.... i rephrase..... say in a less painful way???
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act blur count bo?
" huh wad u talking abt" <--nice rejection to u? -
no, but i got reject them before.....
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Excuse me, woman. You better tell it str in his sorry Asz face that you do not like him but merely treat him as a friend. Any indirect way of expressing your intention will only muddle and confuse him further.Originally posted by @->--:Recently, one of my friend started to ask me out on a one to one basis, i agreed initially and went out with him a couple of times.
But soon suspected that he is trying to hint something. My suspicions were confirmed when one of the mutual friend of ours, told me that he confessed to her that he liked me for quite some time le.
Previously, we used to go out as a group of four and fives occasionally. All of which were from the OG group previously. We were quite close as a group and he often occurred to me as a particularly helpful and friendly guy, who will go to all lengths to help his friends. A nice guy basically. Someone who you can turn to when you have problems and stuff. He also used to call me once in a while to talk on the phone with me.
Furthermore, he is in the same course as me, and we will get to bump into each other very often. Thus it is also very embarrassing for both of us, if i was to avoid him forever.
Now i am like trying to avoid him for the time being.... is there anyway that i can reject him, without losing him as a friend?
I thought of telling and rejecting him directly. Will this be a good solution????
Still thinking......
Oh yeah. you will definitely lose him as a friend because you have already decided to reject him. Excuse Woman, this is a fact you have to accept: Reject a guy le, there is no way the guy will still wanna befriend you. -
Oh yes, i came across such incidents so many times liao, at first i thot guys are just trying to be friendly and helpful, then suddenly they made their move and i got stuck, u know kind of difficult to reject after they helped me, but if it is to go out with them, it might further deepen the misunderstanding on guys, I just dun want to hurt a fren, but nevertheless, i hv to tell them at face value that i like them, but never love them. Just hope they take it as a guy and carry on.Originally posted by @->--:Recently, one of my friend started to ask me out on a one to one basis, i agreed initially and went out with him a couple of times.
But soon suspected that he is trying to hint something. My suspicions were confirmed when one of the mutual friend of ours, told me that he confessed to her that he liked me for quite some time le.
Previously, we used to go out as a group of four and fives occasionally. All of which were from the OG group previously. We were quite close as a group and he often occurred to me as a particularly helpful and friendly guy, who will go to all lengths to help his friends. A nice guy basically. Someone who you can turn to when you have problems and stuff. He also used to call me once in a while to talk on the phone with me.
Furthermore, he is in the same course as me, and we will get to bump into each other very often. Thus it is also very embarrassing for both of us, if i was to avoid him forever.
Now i am like trying to avoid him for the time being.... is there anyway that i can reject him, without losing him as a friend?
I thought of telling and rejecting him directly. Will this be a good solution????
Still thinking......
I may hv dashed all their hopes and dreams, but i told myself that this is the way, because you cannot waste their time and further drag their dreams, it's no good, maybe they can get a better one or someone is waiting for them.
Guys are sensitive creatures, in love, they like to hop on in relationship and alway get the wrong signal as being frens is being lovers. I dun blame them, they have their lovely side, it is because they dun understand us. For our part, we must try not to give wrong signal to them. Tell them our position and i think they will be more grateful in that way. -
x1. IF only there are more ladies like you out there.Originally posted by angel7030:Oh yes, i came across such incidents so many times liao, at first i thot guys are just trying to be friendly and helpful, then suddenly they made their move and i got stuck, u know kind of difficult to reject after they helped me, but if it is to go out with them, it might further deepen the misunderstanding on guys, I just dun want to hurt a fren, but nevertheless, i hv to tell them at face value that i like them, but never love them. Just hope they take it as a guy and carry on.
I may hv dashed all their hopes and dreams, but i told myself that this is the way, because you cannot waste their time and further drag their dreams, it's no good, maybe they can get a better one or someone is waiting for them.
Guys are sensitive creatures, in love, they like to hop on in relationship and alway get the wrong signal as being frens is being lovers. I dun blame them, they have their lovely side, it is because they dun understand us. For our part, we must try not to give wrong signal to them. Tell them our position and i think they will be more grateful in that way. -
is there anything wrong wif him in 1st place? hv u give him a fair chance to chase u?Originally posted by @->--:Recently, one of my friend started to ask me out on a one to one basis, i agreed initially and went out with him a couple of times.
But soon suspected that he is trying to hint something. My suspicions were confirmed when one of the mutual friend of ours, told me that he confessed to her that he liked me for quite some time le.
Previously, we used to go out as a group of four and fives occasionally. All of which were from the OG group previously. We were quite close as a group and he often occurred to me as a particularly helpful and friendly guy, who will go to all lengths to help his friends. A nice guy basically. Someone who you can turn to when you have problems and stuff. He also used to call me once in a while to talk on the phone with me.
Furthermore, he is in the same course as me, and we will get to bump into each other very often. Thus it is also very embarrassing for both of us, if i was to avoid him forever.
Now i am like trying to avoid him for the time being.... is there anyway that i can reject him, without losing him as a friend?
I thought of telling and rejecting him directly. Will this be a good solution????
Still thinking...... -
if don like just face him n say don like, tell him don make you ps liao.
make him know that his existence make u ps.. with all this acts or so.. -
juz say 'let nature take its course'.
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Date a week and then break the news to him that you both are not suitable.
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Omg, that is worst!!, some guys can turn around and scold us as being bitch, in tears shouting and asking "why u never said earlier??" and we get labelled as money swingers or love betrayers. If really hv no feeling, better close shop now, should not date further to complicate things.Originally posted by dbowie:Date a week and then break the news to him that you both are not suitable. -
isnt that "stringing him along"?Originally posted by browniebaobao:juz say 'let nature take its course'.
I mean...U dont have to prolong his pain right? -
for me...I prefer a more direct approach...no second-guessing...Originally posted by @->--:obviously rejection will never be nice.... i rephrase..... say in a less painful way???
it hurts...but better than dangling in the air... -
Next time he ask you out, act blur, tell him u recently got attached and tell him how happy u are.
If he is such a nice guy as u have mentioned, he'll leave you alone.
Anyway, if he is really nice, why not give him a chance? Singapore not many nice guy le.... try going out with him and find out more about him. -
Don't have to reject him, just tell him straight that he's not your type
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just tell him lo.
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Telling him when he confesses to u, it's the easiest
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hint to him that you guys are only frens lo.Originally posted by deathscythe99:Telling him when he confesses to u, it's the easiest -
If i am u, i will not attempt anything at all. Until he came forward with his true intentions. If indeed he wanted to progress further then just tell him you are not ready for a relationship right now. Period.
That's all.
Whether he stays a fren or not dun hav to worry at all. For if it is meant to be, it will, as the rest depend on him liao.
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yeah loOriginally posted by areusure:If i am u, i will not attempt anything at all. Until he came forward with his true intentions. If indeed he wanted to progress further then just tell him you are not ready for a relationship right now. Period.
That's all.
Whether he stays a fren or not dun hav to worry at all. For if it is meant to be, it will, as the rest depend on him liao. -
Reject. Don't leave it hanging.