As above. I realise that my social nework is getting smaller after i get enlisted into army. I lost contact with majority of my school frens and i find myself wasting my weekends at home. My frens are also busy with their own stuff and life. They have also made new friends and we kind of drifted apart. I'm ok with that but how does one make new friends and get a social life. I am poor and cant afford any new courses or activities. U cant expect me to just ''hi'' to someone on the streets becoz that doesnt come natural to me and i find it a bit despo. Any ideas anyone?
participate in forums (u have just made a good start!)
next, join forums outings ![]()
yeah gd idea though
i'm waiting to enlist and ive already lost contact with most of my friends. they are either in tekong or working.
same boat my friend ![]()
Originally posted by aiglosicicle:i'm waiting to enlist and ive already lost contact with most of my friends. they are either in tekong or working.
same boat my friend
u will make new frens in army
by tt time u will be worrying u have too many frens (whole platoon)
need so many frens for? i only have like two good buddies, the rest are schoolmates, working colleagues and other acquantainces.
frens come and go as they do, next time u will be complaining that u have too many frens to juggle and write to us saying that A got outing, same day as B. which one to go? den blah blah blah, A angry, B also not happy.. too many frens also no good.
don't rot at home lor.
when i was in NS, my unit stay in wan. so we always go eat dinner together, go geylang eat frog porridge etc. so it was kinda cool.
It's natural for interaction among friends to decrease as every one pursue their own dreams in life.
In NS, you can meet some great pals too.
when you go to work next time, you'll meet new friends too.
Of course, like FI has said, go sgF outings.![]()
Join a club
Sign up for courses
Participate in SgF outings
..... just to name a few ![]()
Can understand how u feel. I think its good to join in activities and organise outing. Like me I go join guitar class to have more goals in life. through activities u will make more friends.
For me although got friends to gather on weekend but they are all couples and I am the only odd one out sometimes I dun mind but sometimes felt awdward. But thats life.
Make friends in army ???
join non-profit youth-oriented organisations and volunteer.
Means charity organisations...? How to apply to be a volunteer?
Lots of good advice here.
One other simpe thing you can do is go to the nearest community centre and ask to join in any games that are going on there.
Are You An I person?
Introvert u mean? I really dunno myself. I only think i am full of crap..only tok a lot of nonsense but dunno how to talk properly. My only problem is i dun have money to go out so spend most of my time at home during weekends. At home also sian so wanna ask the ppl here how to spend time during weekends, maybe engaging in some meaningful outdoor activities that are cost-minimal. Moreover, most of my classmates or friends have already gone their separate ways..hard to meet up and kinda stuff. The ppl i hang out wif are always the same 3 to 4 ppl..if every wk ask them out they sure tink i ''no life'' or lonely. Ideas anyone?
Find a hobby, love it, enjoy it.
When u enjoy it, love it.. u will automatically find yourself having lot of friends.