hi guys, im a foreigner (girl) whos been stayin with this foreigner (guy) since january as we were waiting for a level results. Lets just say i have gotten too close to him that we have sex and hug each other to sleep. anyway, we got back our results and i got ok results (aabb) but he got stellar results and now planning to go to the US. altho we havent established ourselves as a couple but i now we both have feelings for each other. now im confused whether i shud start avoiding him coz hes gg to US and i dun wanna feel like sh it when he leaves. or shud i try to make him happy and cherish every moment till he leaves since i might not see him ever again?

Ans : 'make him happy and cherish everyb moment till he leaves since i might not see him ever again....'

In ur own words.

actually we dont really have sex as in theres no penetration, just hug kiss make out n stuff in nude and shower tgt *blush*

Depends.. what does he think about this relationship.?

If he is not into committing to you at this stage.. it's best to start letting it go.

its best to let go. unless he talked to you anything abt continuing..

hmm.. my advice will be for you to do what you feel is right.. stick with your decision.. and when the time comes for him to leave, have no regrets.. and you would have made the right choice.. if u just do what the general population(or us in this case) will do, you may end up regretting ur decision, because it's not your initial choice afterall..

be firm in ur decision, be strong against the outcome..

If he doesn't like u,things r gng to be hard.And its ur life.

go with him

is doing what is best for the other person.

Ask yourself if you'd rather suffer, than to see him in pain?

Cherish the sweet times while they last.

Originally posted by dunnowat:

hi guys, im a foreigner (girl) whos been stayin with this foreigner (guy) since january as we were waiting for a level results. Lets just say i have gotten too close to him that we have sex and hug each other to sleep. anyway, we got back our results and i got ok results (aabb) but he got stellar results and now planning to go to the US. altho we havent established ourselves as a couple but i now we both have feelings for each other. now im confused whether i shud start avoiding him coz hes gg to US and i dun wanna feel like sh it when he leaves. or shud i try to make him happy and cherish every moment till he leaves since i might not see him ever again?

Are you an ASEAN scholar and Indonesian?

By the way, his going to the United States has got nothing to do with his A Level results; applications closed way before the results were released.

Also, your situation resembles mine a lot (it's me who will probably be flying).

Originally posted by RETARDED_MORON:

Are you an ASEAN scholar and Indonesian?

By the way, his going to the United States has got nothing to do with his A Level results; applications closed way before the results were released.

Also, your situation resembles mine a lot (it's me who will probably be flying).

he applied last year

now that he got his results, hes more convinced to go to the states

im gonna wait for the application result come next 2 weeks

and if he gets it, i guess i will support him then

and just cherish the time we have left

he calls me baby LOL but watever

and yes, we are scholars

Well... cherish what you have now before you regret that you didn't in the future...

Originally posted by dunnowat:

hi guys, im a foreigner (girl) whos been stayin with this foreigner (guy) since january as we were waiting for a level results. Lets just say i have gotten too close to him that we have sex and hug each other to sleep. anyway, we got back our results and i got ok results (aabb) but he got stellar results and now planning to go to the US. altho we havent established ourselves as a couple but i now we both have feelings for each other. now im confused whether i shud start avoiding him coz hes gg to US and i dun wanna feel like sh it when he leaves. or shud i try to make him happy and cherish every moment till he leaves since i might not see him ever again?

tis sounds like a temp relationship... u jz enjoy all u can is enuff... no need care abt him...

Originally posted by dunnowat:

hi guys, im a foreigner (girl) whos been stayin with this foreigner (guy) since january as we were waiting for a level results. Lets just say i have gotten too close to him that we have sex and hug each other to sleep. anyway, we got back our results and i got ok results (aabb) but he got stellar results and now planning to go to the US. altho we havent established ourselves as a couple but i now we both have feelings for each other. now im confused whether i shud start avoiding him coz hes gg to US and i dun wanna feel like sh it when he leaves. or shud i try to make him happy and cherish every moment till he leaves since i might not see him ever again?

u should actually come stay with mi... i will take care of u ok?

if you love eachother you can find a way to make it work, trust me. otherwise just be happy for what you had :)

Originally posted by dunnowat:

he applied last year

now that he got his results, hes more convinced to go to the states

im gonna wait for the application result come next 2 weeks

and if he gets it, i guess i will support him then

and just cherish the time we have left

he calls me baby LOL but watever

and yes, we are scholars

I know I'm not helping out much with your predicament (if you want help, ask my girlfriend; she's experiencing the exact same thing, except that we don't co-habitate), but what universities did your male friend apply to? Any request for financial aid, and how much?

The good news is that it's not easy to gain admittance to a good US university, so he will probably stay back like 80% or so of Singapore applicants to the United States.

What is your nationality? I'm a scholar too, from RJC, your batch. Are you a PRC scholar?

im from malaysia

hes from malaysia

*blush*

why dont u ask ur gf abt this and post her response here

i dunno wad to to:(

everytime i try to act neutral to him, i just couldnt! ill hug him to sleep in the end:(

no matter what you do, you mean nothing to him anyway.

None of us have the key or the answer to the future. So you should not count your chickens before they are hatched. I think you will need to think what you want to do with this r/s, even if you want out -- I think it will only be rightful for you to speak to your  b/f.

You need to let him say out what is on his mind. Remember this is a r/s and you need to hear his side as well. I think you are practical by anticipating what is ahead but a r/s is not one sided and if the he is sincere and committed - then who is to stop him except you. You may not have confidence in LDR but please be realistic as well, as people staying together does break up too.

I think you should take things 1 step at a time and see how it goes. There's a saying: "Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained." So, do give him some thought and if possible the both of you sit down and have a talk.

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
– Eleanor Roosevelt

just break up..even if you both liked each other , r/s is not goin to work easily when another party is at another country.

and since the chance of him staying there forever is high, its best to just keep this r/s as good memory,

hm, sory i dont see any point if you can continue this r/s with him. better break up than dreaming to be with him when hes not coming back( or he will? )

one last thing that u can do is just wish him good, yea u can cherish your time with him while hes here.

Originally posted by 小白脸:

no matter what you do, you mean nothing to him anyway.

I agree.. U almost have sex with u and he never even gives u the title as gf? He just treat this r/s with u as flirt. To him now, his number one priority is education. I don't know where u rank in his eyes. Luckily u never let him claim virginity. I believe it maybe just all yr one side affection for him. I think u are still too young to do what is right! I afraid u will regret yr action in future. Some guy student who do very well for their A lvl are very cunning. Beware!

I agree with forummer CannyOng on this issue.  It doesn't look like you mean very much to him in the first instance.

Beware.  Now that he knows he is leaving, he might very well take full advantage of you.   Why not right?

Too young to consider and in just a short time u think his yr life partner? Till u start to work and have more commitment u will see a person in a better angle.

For now take yr Deg,master,phd.....love.

talk first . difficult to make moves when things not sure. if you byebye instant, you hurt you cry.do this for yourself. you are a smart girl.  

So did he make it to USA? With or without financial aid offer?