Getting over my ex

• moletan2003

  19 Mar 08, 22:57

  Hi, finally i have broken up with my GF but, i still cant forget her even though i intiated the breakup. I have been struggling with myself for 2 months. Trying to study but find myself thinking of the past. Try calling her as friend but she is giving me the cold shoulder. I just want to be friends but she is not willing to. I need help I have been having insomia for 2 months and have been on pills but i cannot seem to get over it.  

• caleb_chiang

  19 Mar 08, 23:23

  Get her out of your life completely...

• chazzprinceton

  20 Mar 08, 00:17

  same...although my broke up was 6 months ago...but still a lil bit can't get over her...now she treat me hot and cold sometimes...don't know what she wants -.- now she got a new bf liao lol...quite sad la...but no matter what still must move on (:

• BrUtUs

  20 Mar 08, 00:24

  Originally posted by moletan2003:

  Hi, finally i have broken up with my GF but, i still cant forget her even though i intiated the breakup. I have been struggling with myself for 2 months. Trying to study but find myself thinking of the past. Try calling her as friend but she is giving me the cold shoulder. I just want to be friends but she is not willing to. I need help I have been having insomia for 2 months and have been on pills but i cannot seem to get over it.  

  
  u asked for it so why cry over it... ? since she dun wan to b frens then let it be...

• moletan2003

  20 Mar 08, 02:01

  I just wanna have peace in my life

   

• Ed11790

  20 Mar 08, 02:04

  i cant get over my last gf also....its been a yr.....thinking of her everyday...........these memories will never go away
• Yuki~!

  20 Mar 08, 02:08

  Getting over someone is definately not easy.
  Take your time.

• rlsh07

  20 Mar 08, 02:10

  Originally posted by moletan2003:

  Hi, finally i have broken up with my GF but, i still cant forget her even though i intiated the breakup. I have been struggling with myself for 2 months. Trying to study but find myself thinking of the past. Try calling her as friend but she is giving me the cold shoulder. I just want to be friends but she is not willing to. I need help I have been having insomia for 2 months and have been on pills but i cannot seem to get over it.  

  
  if u have break up with her, just dun contact her for the time being. even if you want to be frens with her, can u imagine the hurt and the pain she have go through if she were to see you again? can you understand what is she feeling?

  so just give her some time to move on and you need to move on too.

• Ed11790

  20 Mar 08, 02:10

  what if til u die and still didnt get over it? i hope it doesnt happen for me......
• rlsh07

  20 Mar 08, 02:12

  Originally posted by Ed11790:

  what if til u die and still didnt get over it?
  i hope it doesnt happen for me…...

  
  time will heal all wounds.

• FireIce

  20 Mar 08, 02:12

  dun have to rush it or wat
  take it easy....
  slow and steady.....
  occupy urself with activities if it helps to take ur mind off her....
  hang out with frens, spend more time with family.... engage in a new hobby.... learn a new skill....
  crap more in sgf

• Yuki~!

  20 Mar 08, 02:12

  /me points to Singles Club

  

• rlsh07

  20 Mar 08, 02:14

  Originally posted by Yuki~!:

  /me points to Singles Club

  

  
  yeah true come hang out with us more, keep urself more occupied so that u would not think abt a lot of things. when ur mind is blank not occupid, you will contain it with a lot of negative thoughts. that is not gd though

• X-men

  20 Mar 08, 07:50

  Keep your mind occupied with other things and soon you run out of space in yr mind to think about her.

  Not all girls are able to remain as friends with their exs

• Alucard101

  20 Mar 08, 07:55

  Get a new girl.Seems like u have too much time to think abt past.

   

• Hello Kitty

  20 Mar 08, 08:05

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  dun have to rush it or wat
  take it easy....
  slow and steady.....
  occupy urself with activities if it helps to take ur mind off her....
  hang out with frens, spend more time with family.... engage in a new hobby.... learn a new skill....
  crap more in sgf

  
  plus http://www.sgforums.com/premier_membership

• xavier1979

  20 Mar 08, 08:14

  It takes time to let it go.

  She doesn't want to keep in touch with you again. Perhaps you should stop contacting her too.

• frienderine

  20 Mar 08, 08:31

  normally needs a transition period i think.. need some time before you 2 can become friends again.. hard to become friends again immediately like nth happen...

• ^C ^

  20 Mar 08, 11:09

  Nay i don't think you should keep contact with her, at least for the time being. She will never treat you the same way again.

   

   

• Hanagata

  20 Mar 08, 11:20

  Originally posted by Yuki~!:

  /me points to Singles Club

  

  
  hahas so fast help us promote our club riaos har

• oldkid

  20 Mar 08, 11:37

  Originally posted by moletan2003:

  Hi, finally i have broken up with my GF but, i still cant forget her even though i intiated the breakup. I have been struggling with myself for 2 months. Trying to study but find myself thinking of the past. Try calling her as friend but she is giving me the cold shoulder. I just want to be friends but she is not willing to. I need help I have been having insomia for 2 months and have been on pills but i cannot seem to get over it.  

  Hi TS, just share something with you.

  Firstly it is very normal for you to feel sad and a sense of lost since she's someone close to you. 2 months is a short time and you will probably take some more time to get over her. In order not to think of her, you must have some new direction in life like finding another new girl. Although this sounds like a "jerk", but hey, you wanted to breakup and you had done so. So, you should move on.

  Also, since you had initiated the breakup, no doubt she will feel much much worse than you. You shouldn't even be calling her. Everytime she sees your sms or hear your voice, she will feel sad. It is difficult but do spare a thought for her.

  But if you really wanna be back with her, just tell her you wanna get back with her and see if you get a chance. Being a friend with her at this stage is extremely difficult and hurting for the both of you.

• onlooker123

  21 Mar 08, 16:57

  Get over her.  Focus on something else. 

• moletan2003

  21 Mar 08, 19:19

  everytime i try to study, the memories will trigger back. The reason i wanted to break up is because she is seeing somebody which i cannot bear.... now my life is totally upside down. ya maybe i should try new hobbies. Plus my exams is just 45 days more to go..... i am very stress. Cannot study because of the memories plus exam coming soon.......... how do i improve my concentration in my studies?

   

• zHuBa0bA087

  21 Mar 08, 22:18

  I believe you got to find the motivation & direction in your life for you to concentrate on your studies. Yes, you have your reason for breaking up with her because she is seeing someone that you stand. If this is the case, then you should evalute on yourself because loving someone is not treating her like a toy. Cherishing her when she is nice to you & breaking up with her when she is doing something you cannot stand. Its about accomodating to each other.

  I am also another person who is going through a breakup during this period of time. It will be difficult initially but you got to find the motivation. Always rememeber at the end of the day, if you are not going to fight for your future, is there any future that you want to talk about to your loved one?

• onlooker123

  21 Mar 08, 23:55

  Study hard. Do well.  Get a good job.  Girls will flock to you.