Does your bf/gf mind?
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Originally posted by Zarks:
No worries, like u said u guys are always out together, a good friend wont mind if u break your promise sometimes specially if its only outing and if you wanted to be with your bf. u guys can go out together some other time. I dont think its too soon anyway, u didnt know your bf suddenly free on Sat, dont blame yourself. Chill out of this misery and enjoy very much with your boy. Your action here already proved you still priotise ur bf. U already made the decision today instead of waiting for Friday nite. I somehow sense you're a good gf.Perhaps u can let your bf know that u cancel the outing to be with him. Hey, he should know this and you're not lying right? :)
I personally will feel touched if my gf said she cancel outing just to be with me. Well, who wouldnt.
I dun dare to say I'm a good gf. I always talk to him about my circle of friends and he knows their names, just that he never met them face to face only. I mean, what's there to hide about their names right? Sometimes I would tell him about the fun stuffs that happen etc.
Yesterday night I haven't decided on who to go out with, but today I'll tell my bf about this.
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Originally posted by Miss Tiny:
I dun dare to say I'm a good gf. I always talk to him about my circle of friends and he knows their names, just that he never met them face to face only. I mean, what's there to hide about their names right? Sometimes I would tell him about the fun stuffs that happen etc.
Yesterday night I haven't decided on who to go out with, but today I'll tell my bf about this.
Thats very good already. Hope u both stay together forever. Like i said , you're a good gf.. Not many gals tell their bf bout their frens cycle and not to mention their names. Now i can see why your bf trusted you and giving u freedom to go out with guy alone even hes jealous. Your bf is very lucky to have you seriously.
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Originally posted by Zarks:
Thats very good already. Hope u both stay together forever. Like i said , you're a good gf.. Not many gals tell their bf bout their frens cycle and not to mention their names. Now i can see why your bf trusted you and giving u freedom to go out with guy alone even hes jealous. Your bf is very lucky to have you seriously.
Thanks.
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...and tell him there's nothing can come between u and him
then hug, kiss him.. then then... -
Even though you may treat the opposite just as a friend, you will never know his motive...
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i mind...my gf oso lidat and i angry too
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guys know what guys think... that's why!
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Ask the other guy to bring his gf along, then you can bring your bf as well
It's easier for guys to trust if that guy already has a steady relationship with another girl.
I am friends with a guy and a girl for quite some time.
Afterwards they got tgt. I still meet up one on one with any of them, just that we'll be waiting tgt for the other person to come then we go group outing.
He was alright when I had lunch with the girl alone cos we were going to attend a lecture all tgt.
Most importantly is compromise, you can't one shot ignore anyone.
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Originally posted by rainee:
I made it very clear that no one-to-one outing is allowed. So far both of us have managed to stick to it.
And yea, sometimes it is not that we do not trust our partner, it is more like we do not trust the other party. Maybe for me, it is hard for me to find it in my heart to trust someone I am not really close with. But it is hard to put that across without the partner seeing it as you are not trusting him instead.
What if a gf go out with a group of all guys? Will you be ok? I mean like my gf who is very sporty and playful de. -
just to share my experience regarding this issue.
my gf also same, lots of friends, and prior to we being together, she also got go out on solo dates with her guy friends before. and she also admit to me that she feels some of her guy friends have ulterior motives.
which is why i cannot understand why she still wants to go out with them and let them perform their 'motives' on her.
then i ask her, if i go out one-on-one with female friend, she ok?
cool as ice she said she's fine with it.
then i really go and execute it and told her all about it, although she did not openly reject or forbid, but i can still sense her discomfort and displeasure in her body langauge and the tone of her voice.
now, i also dunno how to approach this issue.
too much control, i also think that its too unreasonable, like, cannot even go out with friend when have a bf?
too less control, let her so called guy friends perform their tricks on her and watch her drift slowly?
hais, its very much a grey issue..
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Originally posted by FailureOfTheNation:
just to share my experience regarding this issue.
my gf also same, lots of friends, and prior to we being together, she also got go out on solo dates with her guy friends before. and she also admit to me that she feels some of her guy friends have ulterior motives.
which is why i cannot understand why she still wants to go out with them and let them perform their 'motives' on her.
then i ask her, if i go out one-on-one with female friend, she ok?
cool as ice she said she's fine with it.
then i really go and execute it and told her all about it, although she did not openly reject or forbid, but i can still sense her discomfort and displeasure in her body langauge and the tone of her voice.
now, i also dunno how to approach this issue.
too much control, i also think that its too unreasonable, like, cannot even go out with friend when have a bf?
too less control, let her so called guy friends perform their tricks on her and watch her drift slowly?
hais, its very much a grey issue..
i understand how u feel. IS like. U like her. And scared she will be injured by her "so-call-friend" or u will be jealous when she go out w guy alone. Cos i also feel this way everytime.But funny part is. my gf is the same as urs. She say she is okay if i go out with ger alone. But when i tell her al abt those, can sense the feeling is weird.
From wat i think all we can do is just learn to trust them more. And must ask them to be careful of those friend. That i think is the best solution?