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  • HolyGorilla's Avatar
    6 posts since Aug '06
    • urmm 1st of all...

      after the new layout of this sgforum... i cant log in using the ItchyArmpit name...

      somehow i try out all my email i got this logged in...

       

      this is wat..

       

      i got this friend of mine, we were kinda close...

      cuz of that i boy she girl, we are sometime mistaken as couple..

      tho i like her a little, i dun intend to go into relationship yet...

       

      but recently, we quarelled... something got to do i keep disturbing her...

      but i appologised many times, after a few hours she forgave me...

      somehow i feel there is a barrier between us, but she is still so friendly to me...

       

      i think the problem is just me...

      i only wanna be friends with her... dun wanna lose this good and rare friend...

       

      btw, i noe this should be in whinehouse or like half half,

      i posted in AA to get better replies...

       

      i welcome any comments and comfort other than flame...

      pls dun pry onto the details i quarelled with her...

       

       

      Cheers

  • dcx's Avatar
    12,139 posts since Jul '03
    • Originally posted by HolyGorilla:

      urmm 1st of all...

      after the new layout of this sgforum... i cant log in using the ItchyArmpit name...

      somehow i try out all my email i got this logged in...

       

      this is wat..

       

      i got this friend of mine, we were kinda close...

      cuz of that i boy she girl, we are sometime mistaken as couple..

      tho i like her a little, i dun intend to go into relationship yet...

       

      but recently, we quarelled... something got to do i keep disturbing her...

      but i appologised many times, after a few hours she forgave me...

      somehow i feel there is a barrier between us, but she is still so friendly to me...

       

      i think the problem is just me...

      i only wanna be friends with her... dun wanna lose this good and rare friend...

       Just tell her this will do....

      btw, i noe this should be in whinehouse or like half half,

      i posted in AA to get better replies...

       

      i welcome any comments and comfort other than flame...

      pls dun pry onto the details i quarelled with her...

       

       

      Cheers

       

  • HolyGorilla's Avatar
    6 posts since Aug '06
    • but u see its like a bit wierd...

      i seek for her forgiveness and she has already talked to me like before, or even closer...

       

      its just me... if i suddenly say " i dun wanna lose this good and rare friend of u", its like a bit wierd...

       

      maybe i try to find chance to say that... hope she understands...

       

      thanks!

      Cheers

  • cApitaland's Avatar
    4,094 posts since Sep '05
    • sometimes we think too much. and as much as you want her to tell you what wrong things you have done she won't tell you. leave her alone for awhile la. let her simmer down.

  • dcx's Avatar
    12,139 posts since Jul '03
    • Originally posted by HolyGorilla:

      but u see its like a bit wierd...

      i seek for her forgiveness and she has already talked to me like before, or even closer...

       

      its just me... if i suddenly say " i dun wanna lose this good and rare friend of u", its like a bit wierd...

       

      maybe i try to find chance to say that... hope she understands...

       

      thanks!

      Cheers

       

      Whether she understands or not, i feel that, if she really likes you & upon hearing this set of words from you, chances of maintaining the current relationship is low....that's what i feel....might not be true though....

  • ifish's Avatar
    2,005 posts since Dec '06
  • HolyGorilla's Avatar
    6 posts since Aug '06
    • urmm seems like some u misunderstand le...

       

      i dun really like her as a BGR, but i love her a lot as a NORMAL friend...

      and its like, i disturb her till she scold me..

      then i apologise after she simmered down...

       

      everything is fine again, she forgave me,

      talk to me like before the incident...

       

      then is like, she treat it as nothing happen...

      i noe this is the best situation, but somehow i feel a little uncomfortable...

      i cant joke and talk to her very casually anymore...

      its like a barrier between me and her...

      but i noe the problem lies with me...

       

      guess u all cleared ur doubts,

      i noe this sounds like whinehouse...

      but i put in AA to get better response...

      thx for all those who comfort me and gimme good advice...

       

       

      Cheers

  • gunner77's Avatar
    7,730 posts since Apr '06
    • as long as u treat her as a good friend, she will feel it.

      friends understand each other.

      its all about how u tink.

      Edited by gunner77 27 Mar `08, 10:33PM
  • DarkCrown's Avatar
    39 posts since Feb '08
    • i think is bcos u are thinking too much abt ur relationship rather than frenship. i too haf a similar experience as u. i am v close to a girl tho im a guy. n i dun intend to start a relationship wif her. oni wan her as a fren cos i can disturb her a lot n let her get angry. haha. bt i nv apologized cos she totally understd my behaviour n is pleased to haf me as a fren too. so far, we haf been gg out tgt bt nv reli thinking it as a bgr even tho our frens teased us. it just depends on how u think.

  • purpledragon84's Avatar
    1,547 posts since Sep '07
    • woo.. platonic relationship eh..

      i got a female friend last time too... very close until like real brother and sister..

      but den she got bf den we cannot contact too much den died off lol..

      just treat her like u treat ur guy frens lo..

      dun have expectations of her.. <-- most impt de..

      enjoy her company, just like u enjoy ur guy frens' company, tok cock sing song..

       

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    3,232 posts since Apr '07
    • Holy Gorrilla,

      You are just afraid to offend her again.

      Because you went overboard with the "disturbing" or I'd rather call it "playful teasing", she got offended and gave you an earful , right ?

      When I was still in school.. my male classmates also sometimes .. do really stupid things to piss me off.. and they still got the cheek to say .. " just playing". I think they are just plain childish and annoying.

      Just moderate your "disturbing" acts. Teasing isn't really very fun to the receiver, it's only fun to the one dishing it.

      So, if you really care about this friend of yours.. you should try to be more sensitive to her feelings too.

      I can tell , she's already put the incident behind her.. all you need to do is make sure you don't repeat the same mistake again.

      Other than that..enjoy the friendship you have with her.

      After graduation , when both of you go your own separate ways.. it will not be so easy to catch up with each other anymore.

       

       

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  • HolyGorilla's Avatar
    6 posts since Aug '06
    • o thx all of u...

      somehow i am enlighten...

       

      jojobeach is right... he explained my situation...

      darkcrown... somewhere is right... but not totally...

       

      i shall not tease and disturb ppl le....

       

      really a big thanks to jojobeach and darkcrown and all those who replied!!!..

      now my knot in my heart is untied...

       

       

      Cheers

  • jojobeach's Avatar
    3,232 posts since Apr '07
    • Originally posted by HolyGorilla:

      o thx all of u...

      somehow i am enlighten...

       

      jojobeach is right... he explained my situation...

      darkcrown... somewhere is right... but not totally...

       

      i shall not tease and disturb ppl le....

       

      really a big thanks to jojobeach and darkcrown and all those who replied!!!..

      now my knot in my heart is untied...

       

       

      Cheers

      Ahem.. cough.. cough.. you mean "she".

      Anyway..I think you are too hard on yourself.

      Everybody makes some stupid mistakes occasionally.

      So, just give yourself a break lah..

      She already forgave you.. so it's time you also forgive yourself lor.

      If you want.. you can always write her a friendship poem or send her a friendship card, or I dunno if it's still a trend in school... like friendship band or whatever friendship crafts for friends lah.

      I also believe she is not a petty person.. so do cherish this friendship. Ok ? Good.

       

       

       

  • Ed11790's Avatar
    986 posts since Feb '08
  • Zarks's Avatar
    3,641 posts since Aug '07
    • i have a best friend that is a gal. we got too close to each other that we share our bank account ..

  • dcx's Avatar
    12,139 posts since Jul '03
    • Depending on how does your "best" friend & u interpret/understanded between both....icon_lol.gif

      best friend could be more than *ahem ahem*

  • HolyGorilla's Avatar
    6 posts since Aug '06
    • woots!!!!

      now the thing that made the quarrel had been a joke to our topic...

      our relationship is even closer...

       

      HEEHEE i can live on the weekend without any guiltiness...

      thx to all of u...

       

      really a good friend i had...

       

      Cheers

  • gunner77's Avatar
    7,730 posts since Apr '06
  • ItchyArmpit's Avatar
    462 posts since Sep '06
    • ok...

      i have finally got back this acct...

       

      i shall not use holygorilla anymore ^^

       

      once again thx all...

       

      Cheers

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