her and him.
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b4 i start my story here...i know many of u will labelled me as a bastard. but i juz need advice .
I fell in love with this girl who already has a boyfriend. i hid my feelings for months . Finally i picked up my courage and confessed to her on teh 9th of march. at that point of time i was not expecting anything in return , i just felt that i should let her know how im feeling all along. It juz got deeper n deeper day by day . i really can't control my feelings , if i can , i swear i dont want to be involved in this kind of third party shit. Its like it is wrong to go on , but its also wrong to stop.
my question to all of you here is....
should i continue this shit ? or just give up and wish her all the best with her bf ?
anyone of you encountered this kind of situation b4 ? can share with me hows the ending like ?
or anyone of you ever had ur gf/bf left you because of another person ?
sigh.
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I was in the such a situation before, similar to yours, just that I'm not the third party.
One and only advice: Fucking leave her alone!!!
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Does she even likes you ?!
If not, you are just like fucking a sex doll and expect it to be pregnant.
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Originally posted by technoboy:
I was in the such a situation before, similar to yours, just that I'm not the third party.
One and only advice: Fucking leave her alone!!!
which party then ?
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well you already did it and confessed. now wish her the best, because you finally have the chance to move on.
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i think just leave her alone n do not be the third party. you have to do the right thing despite of ur emotions
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i feel that you love her is your problem. you want tell her it's up to your conscience but don't do anything to break them up or encourage it... karma my dear
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Originally posted by justcantstop:
b4 i start my story here...i know many of u will labelled me as a bastard. but i juz need advice .
I fell in love with this girl who already has a boyfriend. i hid my feelings for months . Finally i picked up my courage and confessed to her on teh 9th of march. at that point of time i was not expecting anything in return , i just felt that i should let her know how im feeling all along. It juz got deeper n deeper day by day . i really can't control my feelings , if i can , i swear i dont want to be involved in this kind of third party shit. Its like it is wrong to go on , but its also wrong to stop.
my question to all of you here is....
should i continue this shit ? or just give up and wish her all the best with her bf ?
anyone of you encountered this kind of situation b4 ? can share with me hows the ending like ?
or anyone of you ever had ur gf/bf left you because of another person ?
sigh.
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Originally posted by dbowie:
Does she even likes you ?!
If not, you are just like fucking a sex doll and expect it to be pregnant.
the problem is.....she did show some signs that shes interested in me. went out with her once . after that when i tried to ask her out again , she either act blur or change topic. but for now can say we r still quite close.
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Originally posted by BrUtUs:
so wat did she say? wats her reaction? how old both of u? how much u know abt her?she was shocked n surprised. she juz cant believe i will fall in love with her , i dont know why too. she keep saying its hard to believe. 1 yrs age different , already 20+ . can say i still dont know much abt her.
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You are reading too much into the so call "date" you've had with her. To her, it may be just a normal outing with a friend. Thats all. Forget it pal. I used to be in your position but i didn't do anything nor did i show any signs of courting her. I waited patiently, hiding my feelings... then one fine day, she told me she has broken up with her bf... then i slowly begin the courtship. now she is my gf.
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Originally posted by dibilo:
You are reading too much into the so call "date" you've had with her. To her, it may be just a normal outing with a friend. Thats all. Forget it pal. I used to be in your position but i didn't do anything nor did i show any signs of courting her. I waited patiently, hiding my feelings... then one fine day, she told me she has broken up with her bf... then i slowly begin the courtship. now she is my gf.
its not just that 'date' im thinking abt. there r still other factors that led me to 'anyhow think' .
anyway....how long u waited for her ?
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no point in continuing all this, since you yourself say that you don't know much about her. definitely better to wait it out, even if it means prolonging your suffering. but what to do?
keep yourself and your mind occupied
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Since u alr told her u like her, I think u better stop bothering her for now and see what decision she makes.
I'm not saying that I agree with ur action, somehow u alr crossed the line when u alr noe that she has a bf. Tell her and then? U expect a reply from her that she likes u too? More or less, u are alr sabotaging her r/s with her bf, whether intentionally or not.
If she thinks she likes u more than her bf, she'll eventually let u noe her decision.
If she told u that she'd rather remain as friends with u instead, then respect her decision. If that's the case, move on and get a life.
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you have gotten over the hard part, the confession.
now sit tight and wait for her call. do not do anything which might destroy the relationship the girl is in right now.
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It's okay to confess but i don't think you should pursue this relationship further, as you will end up hurting someone.
In a relationship, the intrusion of the third party isn't always the main cause of the break up, there should be existing problems that have hidden or embedded in the relationship, waiting for the right moment to be break up.
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Originally posted by Miss Tiny:
Since u alr told her u like her, I think u better stop bothering her for now and see what decision she makes.
I'm not saying that I agree with ur action, somehow u alr crossed the line when u alr noe that she has a bf. Tell her and then? U expect a reply from her that she likes u too? More or less, u are alr sabotaging her r/s with her bf, whether intentionally or not.
If she thinks she likes u more than her bf, she'll eventually let u noe her decision.
If she told u that she'd rather remain as friends with u instead, then respect her decision. If that's the case, move on and get a life.
i understand. she once told me this.
"i dont know how long u will wait and its very unfair to u"
i will definitely move on if she reject me straight in the face.
u guys get what i mean ?
i think i have already made a decision.
"walk 1 step , see 1 step"
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Originally posted by justcantstop:
i understand. she once told me this.
"i dont know how long u will wait and its very unfair to u"
i will definitely move on if she reject me straight in the face.
u guys get what i mean ?
i think i have already made a decision.
"walk 1 step , see 1 step"
Then that means her mind has wavered.. She has feelings for u..
There may be problems existing in her r/s right now. If u r willing to wait for her, then it's up to u.
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i understand. she once told me this.
"i dont know how long u will wait and its very unfair to u"
Sorry to burst your bubble bro. That statement is woman's language for '' I'm not interested in you so don't waste anymore time on me''.
I am not going to judge you on whether it is morally right to fall in love with someone else's girlfriend. That's your prerogative, not mine. But i can tell you that you are wasting your time. Why do I say that? Because she doesn't like you enough to want to go out with you. And what does it mean when she doesnt want to go out with you? It means she is not interested.
Couple of things I wanna say:
1) It is not wrong to fall in love with someone else's girlfriend. If the girl isn't married, she's fair game. If the guy can't keep that girl, that's HIS problem, not yours. However, i do abide by the '' a friend's girlfriend is untouchable " mentality. Trust me, it's not worth losing a friend over a girl.
2) Dont bother wooing, chasing, spending money, whatever you call it, on anyone who's not interested in you. There are plenty of girls out there. Please don't subscribe to the '' there's only one woman in this whole wide world for me '' mentality, you'd only severely limit your choices.
3) Go out and meet some people. i must repeat this. There are PLENTY of girls out there waiting for '' the right guy''. So be their right guy.
Good luck !
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I agreed with technoboy.. Dont go digging your own grave..
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u did the right thing by confessing.
ok now, move on. she is not gonna like u.
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Originally posted by maxtor:
Sorry to burst your bubble bro. That statement is woman's language for '' I'm not interested in you so don't waste anymore time on me''.
I am not going to judge you on whether it is morally right to fall in love with someone else's girlfriend. That's your prerogative, not mine. But i can tell you that you are wasting your time. Why do I say that? Because she doesn't like you enough to want to go out with you. And what does it mean when she doesnt want to go out with you? It means she is not interested.
Couple of things I wanna say:
1) It is not wrong to fall in love with someone else's girlfriend. If the girl isn't married, she's fair game. If the guy can't keep that girl, that's HIS problem, not yours. However, i do abide by the '' a friend's girlfriend is untouchable " mentality. Trust me, it's not worth losing a friend over a girl.
2) Dont bother wooing, chasing, spending money, whatever you call it, on anyone who's not interested in you. There are plenty of girls out there. Please don't subscribe to the '' there's only one woman in this whole wide world for me '' mentality, you'd only severely limit your choices.
3) Go out and meet some people. i must repeat this. There are PLENTY of girls out there waiting for '' the right guy''. So be their right guy.
Good luck !
thxs for ur lengthy reply.
anyway i did not thought she like me just because , she went out with me for 1 time , and for that statement u quoted.
she did once told me she like me . and yes miss tiny , there is a bit of problem going on with her n her bf i think , but im not very sure whats going on though cos i nv wanted to go into that topic.
the reason why i brought up this topic here is that...recently i felt very guilty , by giving her more trouble instead , and of cos , the guilt of "snatching someone else gf"
anyway...i do not know her bf at all , seen him once or twice only haha.
thanks all for the advices.
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you confessed and maybe you have gotten some answers. good for you.
im in the same boat, liking someone at my workplace who's attached. And we are in the same dept, working closely everyday.
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Originally posted by risou:
you confessed and maybe you have gotten some answers. good for you.
im in the same boat, liking someone at my workplace who's attached. And we are in the same dept, working closely everyday.
yea same case. same dept working closely everyday...
anyway...does she know u like her ?
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Well... you got your answer... You confessed and nothing much happened... she do not feel for you the way you expected... and yes, you're a bastard...
