I hate someone.

When i see there someone, all the painful memories appear infront of me.

How i wish there someone can just disappear from my life forever.

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

I hate someone.

When i see there someone, all the painful memories appear infront of me.

How i wish there someone can just disappear from my life forever.

why you still have to face the person? because of work or what?

Yes working. How ?

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

Yes working. How ?

Well, change a working environment perhaps? since I guess, it's probably hard to try maintaining professionalism with personal issues involved.

Yeah the painful memories resurface again and again. I just want to move on. Though i have a gf but then it is hard to detach myself from ex.

But i like my job. It pays well and i enjoy the working environment.

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

Yeah the painful memories resurface again and again. I just want to move on. Though i have a gf but then it is hard to detach myself from ex.

But i like my job. It pays well and i enjoy the working environment.

I see.. why did she became your ex in the first place? you've got to try reminding yourself if you really wanna stay.

Long story and it isn't pleasant. I don't wish to see her but she likes to interference with my life.

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

Long story and it isn't pleasant. I don't wish to see her but she likes to interference with my life.

well, I can't say much if I don't know the unpleasant story. But I supposed she's still sore/jealous about the end of your relationship with her. If you really have to stay there, no choice but to live with her interference to your life. which I also don't know what she is interfering in your life.

Rule #4

Don't sleep with the people that you work with!

i understand how u feel, coz i feel the same way too.

Some girls are really annoying. They like to gossip about u with their girl buddies. Why are they appearing in your life when you don't really want them to.

 When all you really want is to move on quietly in life, in work.. etc.

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

Some girls are really annoying. They like to gossip about u with their girl buddies. Why are they appearing in your life when you don't really want them to.

 When all you really want is to move on quietly in life, in work.. etc.

It's just too bad that it(personal issues) had to be brought into office, I had my share of it before.. all I can say, it's best to get another job and don't commit the same mistake again. if you really insist in staying, tell some of the guy buddies there lo.. by the way how would you know if the girls are gossiping about you? although it's like probably true..

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

I hate someone.

When i see there someone, all the painful memories appear infront of me.

How i wish there someone can just disappear from my life forever.

 

You don't hate her.

You merely hated a part of your memory, which is essentially a part of yourself.

You cannot make her disappear, but you can learn to accept this part of yourself until you become indifferent to her presence.

Cheers

Originally posted by cuddles:

It's just too bad that it(personal issues) had to be brought into office, I had my share of it before.. all I can say, it's best to get another job and don't commit the same mistake again. if you really insist in staying, tell some of the guy buddies there lo.. by the way how would you know if the girls are gossiping about you? although it's like probably true..

I have my sources.

It is kind of tiring to deal with them, with burden of works on top of everythings.

It kind of hurting my working relationship.

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

 

You don't hate her.

You merely hated a part of your memory, which is essential a part of yourself.

You cannot make her disappear, but you can learn to accept this part of yourself until you become indifferent to her presence.

Cheers

I don't hate her.  I agreed.

How about the on-going disturbances ?

I hate her for creating so much disturbances for me.

Memories.. people with very good memory will always remember. feel it. Like it just happened yesterday.

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

 

You don't hate her.

You merely hated a part of your memory, which is essential a part of yourself.

You cannot make her disappear, but you can learn to accept this part of yourself until you become indifferent to her presence.

Cheers

I totally agree with this reply. just try to ignore the gossips and concentrate on your work. unless your work isn't that busy enough to keep you occupied..

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

 

You don't hate her.

You merely hated a part of your memory, which is essential a part of yourself.

You cannot make her disappear, but you can learn to accept this part of yourself until you become indifferent to her presence.

Cheers

 

It is the turbulent memories of pain, anger and of course the good time that i hate. 

 

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

 

It is the turbulent memories of pain, anger and of course the good time that i hate. 

 

you have to accept it as a fact that it happened before. to actually get over anything, you have to learn to face the facts.

Originally posted by cuddles:

you have to accept it as a fact that it happened before. to actually get over anything, you have to learn to face the facts.

yeah but i don't wish to see her around so that i can slowly adapt to the pace of life.

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

yeah but i don't wish to see her around so that i can slowly adapt to the pace of life.

your reluctance in leaving the company is deterring you from adapting. if you chose to stay, this situation will always be there and since you chose to stay, you actually have no say in this aspect because it is your choice.

i get u.. but when you are bothered with their gossips, it is actually becoz u are too protective of yourself.

been there. i know how you feel man. i really do.

personally, cutting that person out from your entire life is the best. totally no contact.

but that's not the end, after cutting out that person, work on learning to forgive that person totally. i'm still on that, except for my case, it doesn't help that the idiot is still an idiot.

and i'm not determined enough to totally cut that person out also.

Hate is such a waste of time

If someone is a pysical threat, you should kill them.

Otherwise forget about them.

If you waste you time thinking about your ex. You loose face and status.

Move on with your life.

Living well is the best revenge!

Originally posted by SuPerNovas:

 

It is the turbulent memories of pain, anger and of course the good time that i hate. 

 

 

You felt disturbed by the environment which includes her presence.

But then actually, it is your thoughts that are disturbing you, rather than your environment. You are probably disturbed by the myriad of thoughts, which consists of her imagery and selective emotional events.

Then again, since you can't change your environment, you might want to work on that thought processing.

If you failed to learn acceptance, then you will always be affected; with or without her physical presence.

Cheers