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Not very sure. But I think you can complain to the immigration and perhaps she may get deported.
But this is will not solve your problem.
The problem lies with your hubby. Sit down and talk it through.. then seek marriage counseling.
Go for STD checkup. You and your child may be at risk.
If all else fails, I suggest you go talk to a divorce lawyer and see what are your recourse.
Edited by jojobeach 28 Apr `08, 12:14PM
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Originally posted by Elim20:
I feel so sad... My husband is having an affair with a China woman. He even bring her back home!!!
I am currently pregnant and he simply dun care! It's our 2nd child...
If he wants to fool around outside, why still ask me to give birth to another child?
Can I report to have the China woman send back to China and ban from coming back here?
Does anyone have any lobangs for spy camera?
Does anyone have any good advise for me? I am really lost....
Why are you letting this happen in your matrimonial home? You should get a PI and lawyers advice and then with the evidence decide if you want a divorce or talk it over with your cheating man.
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Why cant you record his confession of having an affair or anything that he says that shows just how 'good' a husband he is? How is it that you might lose custody over your children and after all he has to pay alimony later.Only your husband would know if he has contracted anything from that woman,the blood from the penis trick is just the male version of 'Honey ,not now I have a headache'.Comprende?
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Originally posted by Elim20:
I have actually got a lawyer. But she needs the evidence to proof his adultery. Gettting a PI is expensive. Need at least 4K. Lawyer says have to catch them on bed. Dinning together is not considered. How????
I have had a talk with him last 2 weeks. He says he wants custody of the 2 children. But he does not even have the responsibility to look after them. Y he still wants the children?!! And he already has a woman. Will he take good care of them? Will my kids get bullied by the woman? China woman are vicious!
He is earning more than me. I am afraid he will get the custody of the kids! Now i am really lost! I am afraid I will lose the kids!
And ya, he told me last month he has a bit of blood coming out from his penis. Is it some kind of disease? I told him to go for check-up but he refused!
Elim20,
Just because he earns more than you, doesn't mean he will have a higher chance of getting custody of the children. Your lawyer shoulda told you this.
If you have had always been a good mom and never a criminal, the custody will most likely go to you.
I know now is a very difficult time for you, but the most important thing right now is to keep your head clear, and consider ALL your options.
I don't know what you are hoping to get out of a divorce. You must understand that a divorce need not always be ugly.
Try to handle it in a civilised manner.
Remind him and yourself not to use the innocent children as weapons against each other.
I suggest you go check your health first. It may be highly possible that he is infected.
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u just need a good lawyer and give him shit.
pls la, this kind of jerk.
do u have any siblings? ask them to slap tat biatch cos now u pregnant.
this pair of adultery will be punished. dun worry. soon, ur husband will be listed either in the AIDS list or Bankrupt list.
just see la.. wad goes around comes around.....
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If the court gives one child to each parents, then sure can appeal... But most likely they wont seperate the two....
As sad and hurt as you may be, you should have expected this as you know how much of a jerk he is... Why even marry him in the 1st place?
Finding proof... Honestly speaking, your options are really limited.... One way is hire P.I. but too ex for you... You can try borrowing money from family and friends first... or bank etc... I am sure you have support of your family and friends... HAve you told them of your plight? You cant do this alone... You need ppl to help you on this one...
He's an ass... Its a matter of time that his china mistress will leave him for another richer man...
Just be strong for your children's sake, more important for your sake...
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Originally posted by Elim20:
He did not admit about his affair. He still denying. They have went for trips overseas without my knowledge. But I found the itinerary and hotel receipt. He still denies they slept in the same room. He very cunning and good in twisting words.
I can't proof anything cos there is nothing on the hotel receipt. But when a man and woman travel, what can they do except S**????
He never even brings me for holidays. I have to save every single cent I have to pay off his debts which we have incurred over the years. And he still don't appreciate it! He used to be jobless for a few years, then finally found a job last year. This job pays him quite well, so now he has the $$$ to fool around!
I have been wanting to divorce him since last year, cos of his attitude. He has a attitude problem. Very unreasonable guy. Always thinks he is right. Never care for our daughter. Even though when she is sick, he never bothers to go and see her. Then comes back late at night. I have been tolerating him cos of the kid.
But this time, he too much! He brings the woman back home! I suppose it has been going on for more than 1 year!
That's why i had a talk with him. I told him i want to divorce him, but I want my 2 kids. He will never admit to his affair. Even his family are telling me to close 1 eye. How to????
His family will ofcors tell you to close one eye to his misdeeds. Because they are HIS family, and that's what a family do for each other. So, don't let what his family says affect you.
What is most important now, is YOUR own family. You need support from YOUR own family, not his.
No doubt he has dissapointed you. And no doubt his doings is unfair. It is time you decide what is best for you and your children. Take it that you owe him during your previous life, and now you have repaid your debt.
Divorce is not a means of punishments for his misdeeds, it is a last resort to your own exit from your unhappy marriage to this man.
Remember, it is not wise to poison the children with your hatred for this man.
What is his intention after your confrontation ? Is he still keen on making the marriage work ?
Some times... when a man denies his affairs, he is afraid that if he confesses , he will lose his love ones.
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Originally posted by Elim20:
Its really sad and hurting...
The lawyer says most likely I will get custody of the kids, but i also worry about the outcome. Some of my friends have been telling me they will give 1 kid to each parent. I really worry....
Now the lawyer is giving me time to get the proof. But I really don't know how to go about it. Getting PI is far too ex. And there is no guarantee that they will get the evidence. And also i will need the $$ for my bb...
Why must he do this to me??? All this years of being together, I have never ask him to buy me any thing, not even branded stuff. But he himself is wearing branded!
He will spurge on things he likes, but never buys for me and the kid. I stick to him even thou I know he has no $. Going thru so much with him and yet he do this to me!
Don't believe what friends say, thats not true, the judges usually will not seperate the siblings. Like your lawyer said, chances are you will get custody of the kids since you are the mother, even if you cannot prove he has committed adultery. According to the latest review of the law, you can also apply to stay in your current matrimonial home untill you give up. Check with your lawyer on this.
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she gone out gai gai liao 
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