feel so sad. dont know what to do. Cant sleep. Hope someone can advise me how to console my mum. Her leg very pain since one week ago... now only can walk short distance. Went polyclinic and was given appt to see doc at SGH. She is preparing for the worst and tells me to take care of my sister and dog when she not ard. I just cried with her on the phone. I am married with kids already.

Worried she may have to amputate her one leg. Not sure if the cancer got spread? feel so scared now. Cant sleep. Anyone know more of bone cancer? Can treat?

Sorry for ranting all my worries here..

spend more time with her.. chat with her.. and let her know u are with her on this battle..

hope she recovers soon..

Have the doctor done any test yet? What did the doctor say?

My aunt's leg was shivering for some days and cant really walk... than she went to see doc and was told suspected Parkinsons disease...

Its still too early to say for sure if its cancer... have faith...

Im not a doctor... cant help much... sry

Thanks for yr replies. we suspected is bone cancer as she every had leg pain. But not so severe. Since last week, she wakes up every morning hoping that the pain can go off.. but still its there... constant pain on and off. Yesterday, she tried to walk two three blocks away to have dinner and coffee shop with my step father, she realises she has difficulty also... very pain. And she experience slight numbness at lower leg, which I check in internet may be some tumor in spinal.. dare not tell her what I suspect also.. she'll cry more.. just now talk to her, both of us crying on the phone.. now dare not call her. but miss her alot. I love my mum. *cries

Go have a check up first.. nothing is confirm yet.. U are the onli mental support your mum have.. Be brave..

plan for the worse, hope for the best.

even cancer also got chance for recovery.

just be there when ur mum needs you...

Originally posted by ComputerM:

feel so sad. dont know what to do. Cant sleep. Hope someone can advise me how to console my mum. Her leg very pain since one week ago... now only can walk short distance. Went polyclinic and was given appt to see doc at SGH. She is preparing for the worst and tells me to take care of my sister and dog when she not ard. I just cried with her on the phone. I am married with kids already.

Worried she may have to amputate her one leg. Not sure if the cancer got spread? feel so scared now. Cant sleep. Anyone know more of bone cancer? Can treat?

Sorry for ranting all my worries here..

hi computerm,

sorry to hear about your mom. hey don't imagine the worst at this point. make the trip down to SGH with her and find out as much as you can. chances are your mom is shit scared about this now and so is everybody else. if i were you i'll avoid crying and showing too much fear. be strong. be the one to lighten things up. be cheerful around your mom. emotions are contagious. so be positive about this and so will she. :)

Originally posted by ComputerM:

Thanks for yr replies. we suspected is bone cancer as she every had leg pain. But not so severe. Since last week, she wakes up every morning hoping that the pain can go off.. but still its there... constant pain on and off. Yesterday, she tried to walk two three blocks away to have dinner and coffee shop with my step father, she realises she has difficulty also... very pain. And she experience slight numbness at lower leg, which I check in internet may be some tumor in spinal.. dare not tell her what I suspect also.. she'll cry more.. just now talk to her, both of us crying on the phone.. now dare not call her. but miss her alot. I love my mum. *cries

There are lots of reasons that cause pain in the legs so it may not necessarily be cancer or bone cancer.  Just wait for the test results.

So when is your mum's appointment?   

Recently one of my colleagues suddenly suffered from numbness at lower leg when he was walking to work.  His wife took him to the doctor at the clinic and after having a look at him, the doctor just referred him to emergency at the hospital right away.  It turned out that he had a aneurism behind his knee and require by-pass operation immediately. 

If you're really worried about your mum, perhaps just take her to the emergency straight away.  Every minute matters.

Take care and good luck!

err, i dont know, but funnily, more people think that their pain or lumps or whatever is linked to cancer

i think we are at the age where the hospitals are just door steps away, so just go for check up and worry afterwards

Im not very sure abt cancer in tat way..But leg pains & numbness can mean many things too, not necessarily cancer.  Before the doc finds anything cancerous, B POSITIVE!!  Ur mum is ignorant of the facts & not fully clear abt cancer, tat's why she has such fears.  But u too??  Please buck up, & b strong.  Nothin has been confirmed yet, u are scaring sh!t outta urself & ur mum.

Bone cancer, if im not wrong, can b cured with donation of the rite marrow. 

Again, i have to say...BE POSITIVE, nothing has been confirmed by the doc yet.

Let her get prayed at Lighthouse?

http://www.lighthouse.org.sg/TEST/Home.html

Polyclinic doctor should have said something.

cannot be just "Ump, I am referring SGH."

What if at SGH the doctor refered to, is at the sports medicine clinic. To treat worn knee cartilage, or split shin?

Tell us what the doctor actually said, not your own wiki suspicions.

Computerm...I sent you a private message.

TS! Fast fast bring your mom to go for second opinion. Don't delay!

Hope for the best .

If got money bring her go tour around places she has never been before.

If not that rich then let her live her rest of her life as happy as possible

Y not wait till is confirmed?

spend time with her! let her knw all of you are there for her, hopefully she will feel much better!  

Be positive too!

it's useless to speculate..

wait for the report to come out.

even if it's really cancer, there's still some hope.. technology is so advance nowadays..

but what she needs most now is family support ba.

Originally posted by Karma88:

Hope for the best .

If got money bring her go tour around places she has never been before.

If not that rich then let her live her rest of her life as happy as possible

Wha lau woei! still not confirm, you ask pple to start preparing..you got siao or not?

On vesak day, let Angel gives a prayer for him.

Hope for the best!

Let me share a personal experience with you.

My aunt was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks ago. When my father broke the news to me. I almost felt like crying my eyes out at the spot, but I stayed strong. In the end, the operation was a success and she was alright after that. She even visited my grandparents and I yesterday to give us something.

So what I'm trying to say is that cancer can be cured, and you should just be optimistic. :)

Originally posted by ComputerM:

feel so sad. dont know what to do. Cant sleep. Hope someone can advise me how to console my mum. Her leg very pain since one week ago... now only can walk short distance. Went polyclinic and was given appt to see doc at SGH. She is preparing for the worst and tells me to take care of my sister and dog when she not ard. I just cried with her on the phone. I am married with kids already.

Worried she may have to amputate her one leg. Not sure if the cancer got spread? feel so scared now. Cant sleep. Anyone know more of bone cancer? Can treat?

Sorry for ranting all my worries here..

Hv she started chemotherapy oredi? Maybe it helps... Then dun hv 2 amputate her leg...

our organisation take care of 600+ cancer patients, maybe you can bring yr mum to join in our activities 

pm me if you wanna know more

My Dad just passed away last month after 8 months of battle with cancer at lymph nodes on his neck.

it all started last April when he showed me an unusual painless ulcer-like patch on his innermost upper mouth plate. After referral by the outpatient doctor upon suspicion of cancer, he went for the biopsy and confirmed the diagnosis. By the time he consult the cancer oncologist in NCC at SGH, it was already stage 4.

Cancer is incurable. Those that survived can maximally make it 5-10 years. It is like a windfall if the lifespan can drag that long, but notwithstanding the possibility of persistent pain, agony and sufferings of the patient. My Dad was on constant pain killer intake after the surgery and the months preceding his end, the prescription of the medicine to ease his pain extended to the most advanced type equivalent to morphine.

Sometimes it is more a solace to see the victim passed off comfortably than to see the tumultous life of physical suffering to go thru. It is not only affecting himself but also the family.

Meanwhile, I suggest you face the fact than to speculate worthless miracles to happen.

Sometimes this kind of dramatic event happened to a family can reveal how caring the members are towards each other.

Some take for granted the loved ones' care and concern when they are in the pink of health. Just as tragedy struck and that loved ones vanished, the feeling of that loss and reminisce can be unbearable.

My Dad used to take care of us closely before he was diagnosed with cancer. Every Friday night before he went to bed, he will definitely enquired (sometimes he would wake up from his sleep and asked if we happened to reach home late on Fri nites) what we wanted for breakfast the next day (Saturday). He will walked the market for my mum and shoulder all purchase of groceries and other errands. We are being very pampered then.

Just when he was bogged down by the disease, he became bed ridden and all these chores then fell on our hands.

Now he was gone. I, as the elder son, will take over him to run these errands thereafter.

It is always the feeling and question to ask, "How much do I care for him?" when that person was no more with us.

Finally, be ready to accept that poignant sight of the once upon a time healthy looking average sized person suddenly reduced to almost a bag of bones and totally transformed character (e.g. In great hallucination due to medicine effect and talking with incognizance) when cancer attacked on its final stage.

Be ready to accept the pain of bereavement!!!