How should I address my ex-hubby's parents?
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I've divorced for a few years. Whenever I see my ex-hubby's parents, I still call them Pa & Ma. My friends were surprised when they knew about it. But I think its nothing wrong since we've gone through the chinese customary last time, though we are divorced now. I have a boyfriend currently and he wasn't very happy about it too. He thinks that I should address them as auntie and uncle now, as to make it clear that I'm not their daughter-in-law anymore. Should it be in this way? Any advice?
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ask ur ex-hubby parents if it is okay for u to call them ma & pa.
if ok, den if you want, u can continue.
if not, den change lor.
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Ask yourself if you're only addressing them as 'Pa' & 'Ma' out of respect and courtesy; if you're still treating them as your in-laws then keep addressing them that way... Nothing wrong...
But from a personal point of view,
You've been divorced a few years now, with a new guy around you.. It may be good to draw the line clearer
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y u divorced wif ur husband?
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Originally posted by newcomer:
y u divorced wif ur husband?
haha.. i think.. that qn won't help... her problem.
hmm, i think it doesn't matter.. what u address them with. the issue is your new bf.. let him understand that u're doing it out of loving kindness lor. i think this kinda issue is like those.. gf go out dinner with other guys, or also very friendly with them, and the bf feels uneasy etc.
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just treat them like a normal god pa or god mum, nothing wrong wif the address issue anyway.
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im very irritated by the irrational behaviour of ur current bf..
do what u think is right.. if he cant even accept that, u know the rules..
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i think i will address them as pa and ma also..
u and ur ex hubby 缘尽 doesn't mean u and his parents 缘尽 also.
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I will address pa and ma also. Dont worry about it, its been so long, the feelings is rooted. Even not being together, i also will address pa ma..
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Its difficult to change the way you address them, esp if you have been doing so for years.
Just leave it as it is, a form of respect to them.
I would think that you can tell your bf there is no reason for this to cause any threat or discomfort to ur current relationship.
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Wats wrong with calling them pa or ma ?
It`s just a name .
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y u stil c dem so often leh?
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can do it, until you get remarried
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You decide for yourself. Personal preference.
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change to gan ma gan pa
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why do you even need to be in contact with them at all ? ...
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Originally posted by Fatum:
why do you even need to be in contact with them at all ? ...
wah.. if one day your relationship with kitty goes sour, u will burn bridges ah. =x
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'Pa' and 'Ma' is ok what, if it's me, i'd also like that
agree with bbb's 2nd line
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although me and wife are separated,we still call each other parents as pa and ma. personally, it very hard to put an end in a relationship. i stil regard them as my pa and ma for trusting me with their daughter, though we fail.
thus out of respect, moral aspect, name never change.
i also give angbao, birthdat present to them.
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shld be ok to address them pa ma out of respect... but soon you are going to have another pair of in-laws, so how?
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Its ok....just continue......keep calling ma and pa......trust me...its not nice to change it....
When u get married again...also keep it.....its ok what......u can call them ma and pa, and the new parents-in-law, also as ma and pa.
I think u can explain abit to ur BF, he will understand.....this is normal...as a preservation of family relations....
Meat Pao.
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what's wrong with calling them pa and ma?
its fine wad.
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i will not call them pa ma
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dat's y me say u ppl duno.
u call dem pa & ma, u tink they happy ah.
yesh, mabbe they wil tink dat u're "so guai".
bt they wil oso fil bad coz they tink "my child has let u dwn.".
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Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
dat's y me say u ppl duno.
u call dem pa & ma, u tink they happy ah.
yesh, mabbe they wil tink dat u're "so guai".
bt they wil oso fil bad coz they tink "my child has let u dwn.".
hmm a break up may not be because the son let the girl down. could be.. the girl let him down? or maybe they both felt they weren't suited for each other?