I have a boyfriend whom we had been together for four years. He met with a PRC lady end of last year and they were together until now. The PRC lady went back to China after her pass exipired but she was back lately to be with my boyfriend. My boyfriend still loves me and love him as well, but at the same time he also love the PRC woman. I suspect that the PRC woman is back in Singapore on a work permit but she is not working at all. Is what she is doing an offence?  

Originally posted by Ace of Passion:

I have a boyfriend whom we had been together for four years. He met with a PRC lady end of last year and they were together until now. The PRC lady went back to China after her pass exipired but she was back lately to be with my boyfriend. My boyfriend still loves me and love him as well, but at the same time he also love the PRC woman. I suspect that the PRC woman is back in Singapore on a work permit but she is not working at all. Is what she is doing an offence?  

care to explain?

Me and my boyfriend were to get married earlier this year but this PRC woman came along and broke our relationship. He initiated a breakoff coz he wanted to be with the PRC woman but I was so in love with him that I refused. We were together until now but with the PRC woman around. The PRC woman returned back to China after her PVP expired. My boyfriend went over to visit her a couple of times when she was there. Recently, she came back to Singapore to look for my boyfriend and living off him. My boyfriend still loves me but he also loves the PRC woman. My boyfriend wants to get married with either one of us but can't decide who... Lately, she had been making noise with my boyfriend when I send him smses and asking him why he did not have a clean break with me. She even send me an sms using his mobile phone. In fact, I suspect that the PRC woman is back on a work permit but is not working at all. Is what she is doing an offence?    

have work permit but not working is ok

dont have work permit but working is not ok

can break up liao. this kind of man no need oso can..let the prc cheat all of his money then see who cry in the end

you already know what to do..

i suggest a break up..

well face the hard fact.. even if it's not prc, ur bf is loving another gal. Not you.

even if u were to get married, can u guarantee that he love you? cause he have another gal in mind.

I wish I would be able to let go of the relationship but it is not as easy as it is... I've tried but had failed.

It sounds crazy but I still love him. He still cares for me and even pick me up from work everyday even though he had to drive 40 over km to get to my workplace.

If the PRC woman really got into Singapore through getting a work permit but not working at ALL, she is not showing respect for the Singapore Law.

do not blame others for the shortcomings of the guy...

and do not blame him if you are unable to walk away...

again, you know what to do...

Attempting to put PRC in the bad light.

Good Job.

whether she has work permit and working or not is not the issue, dont confuse yrself from the real issue u r facing... ......

in this case, faced with a hard decision, think with yr head , not from yr heart, be strong and look forward.......

Ace,

As long as her work permit is not expired, she has the right to stay in Singapore.

Don't expect to use immigration law to get rid of her.

You betta go get yourself a STD test.

You don't know what your boyfriend may have passed to you from other people he slept around with.

PRC or not, his heart is already not there... so, he is really not worth it. not totally the lady's fault. He cant stay faithful. Aren't you glad that it happened before you both married. See it as a blessing in disguise. Good luck. Stay strong.

why do u persist in clinging on...

ur bf is definitely enjoying both side.

seriously, i think this gal is out to cheat his money.

let him get hurt for hurting u this way.

gal, why would u wanna give urself this kind of mental torturement?

im sure u must be living in hell having to share ur love one. its never good to share such thing. i think u must be suffering rite now everyday. its hard on u. but in life, we choose our mood, not anyone else.

this guy definitely not worth it.

think with ur mind, cos its logical.

dun think with ur heart, cos its always tat emotional.

be brave. be strong. take care n god bless..

enjoy both side... this kind of guy wear mask and treat people d.e..

This kind of guy ar... not worth your time.

You are deserve better somebody like him, don't sell yourself low.

Even if you all get married, do you really want to spend the rest of your life on the recieving end of this kind of behaviour? Do you want to be at the mercy of his fickle heart that will leave you there on the shelf as and when he wants it?

There are better guys out there for you...

She didn't put a gun to his head and force him to slow dance around her. You know that.

Love (cliche I know) doesn't have to be peppered with anguish and misery. Don't lose sight of doing right by yourself.

This story sounds familiar. Hmmmm.

I think you should fight for him .

Do your best to get him back . Make him realise that the china gal is out for his money and not for life .

Although this may sound crazy but it`s the right thing to do after all you guys were about to get married .

And even though many people may tell u that it`s not worth it and all . But the fact IS THIS IS NOT THEIR LIFE and they are not going through wat u are going through now so they wont know how`s your feeling . SO the best thing they can do is give u some advise that are usually morally correct . But such advise are usually FAR FROM REALITY .

SO I SAY GO WITH YOUR HEART .

gd luck

Originally posted by Ace of Passion:

I have a boyfriend whom we had been together for four years. He met with a PRC lady end of last year and they were together until now. The PRC lady went back to China after her pass exipired but she was back lately to be with my boyfriend. My boyfriend still loves me and love him as well, but at the same time he also love the PRC woman. I suspect that the PRC woman is back in Singapore on a work permit but she is not working at all. Is what she is doing an offence?  

Ditch him.

You can find someone who will value you for who you are and not some other woman.

Keep him if you want to continually compete but it will wear you out.

Originally posted by Karma88:

I think you should fight for him .

Do your best to get him back . Make him realise that the china gal is out for his money and not for life .

Although this may sound crazy but it`s the right thing to do after all you guys were about to get married .

And even though many people may tell u that it`s not worth it and all . But the fact IS THIS IS NOT THEIR LIFE and they are not going through wat u are going through now so they wont know how`s your feeling . SO the best thing they can do is give u some advise that are usually morally correct . But such advise are usually FAR FROM REALITY .

SO I SAY GO WITH YOUR HEART .

gd luck

LOL go with your heart ...hahaha . Her boyfriend is seeing a girl behind her back and the girl went off . The girl came back and he resumed seeing her. That is a pattern of behaviour.

Let me give you a piece of advice sweetie :

Listen to your head, not your heart. Your heart can be broken but it will mend in time. Your head can be broken but that's the end of you.

try to flirt with other guys in front of him..get him to arouse interest in you again.once he is under u..ditch him for a sweet revenge..jus kiddin

jus leave.u dun wanna leave him cuz u cant let go that someone belongs to u but no longer is now..that is not love. wish him all the best with his new gal( very hard to do) den watch him suffer. and always outlive him in everyway so he dun see that u need him. make him understand he is worse without u..

Hi Ace,

I know what you are thinking. You are together for 4 years and this woman just gate-crashed in. Why should you let her win. You are here to ask for advices on how to get rid of her. Am I correct?

You've mentioned about work permit. It is her employer's responsibility that she is working for the employer and only the job stated in the work permit and nothing else and also the employer's responsibility to cancel the work permit if she is no longer with the employer. You really wanna know more, goto MOM website for more info.

In my opinion, once a guy strays, he is no longer worth it. In your case, he is openly doing it and enjoying his 2 timing. My advise is learn to let go. What's the point of winning? If he can do it now, he can do it again next time. And what's the point of sending her back? You had already mentioned he will just fly over there the meet her.

You are lucky that this happens before your marriage. Let go. there are better guys out there.

BabyRex.

i dun understand. ur bf two timing u, u still dun want to leave him? wait until he get inside ur pants liao den leave u, u will be in more agony.