Will you date a divorcee...?

• NeverSayGoodBye

  17 Jun 08, 15:01

  .....not only he/she was divorced, but got kids too

• Ferret

  17 Jun 08, 15:02

  Yeah. Kids come free. How fantastic. 

• QX179R

  17 Jun 08, 15:03

  well, if you really love that person then you shouldn't mind his/her past..

• SBS7484P

  17 Jun 08, 15:05

  with the right thinking, yes by all means.

  he/she had some reason to divroce, right.

• Gosu.

  17 Jun 08, 15:15

  She's gotten her alimony as well as kid-upbringing cost coverage. She's rich! But yea, seriously it's up to your feelings. They all want a second shot at love too.

   

• angel7030

  17 Jun 08, 16:34

  3 in 1, good mah,

   

  those married sg uncles also date divorcee PRC gals mah...it getting complicated

• NeverSayGoodBye

  17 Jun 08, 16:39

  Originally posted by Gosu.:

  She's gotten her alimony as well as kid-upbringing cost coverage. She's rich! But yea, seriously it's up to your feelings. They all want a second shot at love too.

   

  
  .....say, she got kids, most likely her priority will be her kids. Can you accept to be her second priority..?

• NeverSayGoodBye

  17 Jun 08, 16:41

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  3 in 1, good mah,

   

  those married sg uncles also date divorcee PRC gals mah...it getting complicated

  
  .....will you date a male divorcee? Not uncle, but still quite young...?

  There are a lot of male single parent these days...

• iceFatboy

  18 Jun 08, 03:58

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....say, she got kids, most likely her priority will be her kids. Can you accept to be her second priority..?

  if her 1st priority is her kids, why would she even bother to look for guys?

  I find a female is more sensible in these relationships issues. If she can open up to guys, I believe the lady has given the guy a chance. And for that matter, never a question of priority.

• iceFatboy

  18 Jun 08, 04:02

  be it a male/female divorcee, i think U need to evaluate how you feel about him/her? whether U can see your future together.

  With kids, things will get interesting in that,now, U got a few more people in ur r/s. Are U ready for them?

  I feel alot of people getting into these r/s are also worried about the stigma of "step" where in the past, people associate "step-" with torture, abuse. (step means step dad or step mum).

  Now, people I feel are more ready to accept based on fact, they are more sensible & educated.

   

• jojobeach

  18 Jun 08, 04:03

  Will you date a divorcee with kids.

  And she also tells you she no longer wants anymore kids ?

  That means if you marry her.. you will be a stepfather.

• xavier1979

  18 Jun 08, 07:54

  Been there, done that.

• nehpyh

  18 Jun 08, 08:23

  OMG....dating someone only think until like that?!!

   

  Why, you are a saint har?

   

  Not worth it la...for the ger to consider you!

• mistyblue

  18 Jun 08, 11:00

  date only. Don't think so far unless thedate/you had hinted you want to go long term. Then its something else.

• newcomer

  18 Jun 08, 11:01

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  Yeah. Kids come free. How fantastic. 

  
  y? can't make yer own?

• gasband

  18 Jun 08, 11:02

  if that divorcee is Diana Ser, i would not mind. In fact, who minds?

• fairlady_xoxo

  18 Jun 08, 11:02

  Dating is ok...unless you are looking forward to marrying him/her then its another thing...

• xavier1979

  18 Jun 08, 11:51

  There are many divorcees not because they are unfaithful, but it is their Significant Other who has betrayed their trust.

  I guess the Asian mindset is still relatively conservative, especially our parents.

• Inexperience01

  18 Jun 08, 14:16

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....not only he/she was divorced, but got kids too

  
  A gal who is not married but has had many relationships versus a gal who only had sex experience with her one n only husband, which one will you accept? I just don't understand is it signing of that piece of paper so important. To me, it is still doing 'that thing in bed'. So what you actually mind about a divorcee? Can enlighten me?

• Lefti68

  18 Jun 08, 14:49

  If u like her, u shld not mind her past as long as she remains true n faithful 2 u now & 4ever.

  Yesterday is history.

  Tomorrow is a mystery.

  Today is a gift.

  

• Hanagata

  18 Jun 08, 14:50

  buy one get one leh notch bad purchase

• Inexperience01

  18 Jun 08, 14:55

  Originally posted by Lefti68:

  If u like her, u shld not mind her past as long as she remains true n faithful 2 u now & 4ever.

  Yesterday is history.

  Tomorrow is a mystery.

  Today is a gift.

  

  
  you say only and it is easy to say than done. i don't believe a couple won't quarrel. When quarrel, those past will be dig out and it is like pouring kerosene to fire. it is either to keep quiet about the past and how many sex partner one had b4 marry, if not when the imagination gone wild, even just talk about holding hands with guys will also make one jealous, let alone the bed part.

• Ferret

  18 Jun 08, 15:04

  Originally posted by newcomer:

  
  y? can't make yer own?

   

  not interested.

• Ferret

  18 Jun 08, 15:05

  and it would be a bonus if the kids turn out to be cute and sweet

• Gosu.

  18 Jun 08, 15:10

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....say, she got kids, most likely her priority will be her kids. Can you accept to be her second priority..?

  Good question posted here, I guess this is situational - whether you love her more than she loves you or vice versa; but definitely her kids would be a factor when considering a re-marriage.

   

  Originally posted by Inexperience01:

  
  you say only and it is easy to say than done. i don't believe a couple won't quarrel. When quarrel, those past will be dig out and it is like pouring kerosene to fire. it is either to keep quiet about the past and how many sex partner one had b4 marry, if not when the imagination gone wild, even just talk about holding hands with guys will also make one jealous, let alone the bed part.

  
  You obviously are inexperienced as your nick suggests and haven't been in a matured relationship. If your partner is willing to commit as of now and have evidently worked for the relationship; it is sufficient. Surely it will infiltrate the minds once in a while, but instead of avoiding it; it would be better to have a heart-to-heart talk. Firstly to be honest with your past and secondly to reassure his/her dedication to the partner.

  When a quarrel occurs, only the immature/woman(for having no more points to argue with - I'm kidding ;D) will bring up the past, which has NO relation to the reason of argument.

  Thankfully my girlfriend and I, our angry confrontations often ransom an explanation and that once said is deemed fit enough for forgiveness and understanding.