Is this truth or just a myth...?
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....."Love is giving 100% and expect nothing in return."
Heard this on the radio two days ago. The Dj was asking this couple how they keep their relationship together and one of them said the above ....
If one person gives and gives and nothing is reciprocated, one day sure run out of thing to give right...?
...... thought love is 50/50 or maybe 60/40......?
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expect nothing in return. it's a two way street, in reality, if you get it right, mathematically it'll be 50/50 because you'll both be giving everything you have - but you can't give 50% of yourself and call it love, gotta give it all ;)
the point is really that there'll always be times that you think the other person isn't quite giving everything or is doing something wrong by you at some point, but if you really love them then you'll still give them everything and trust that they're doing the right thing and support them regardless etc
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not a myth..
if both parties abide by the 'theory', then, 100% A give, 100% B accept.....100% B give, 100% A accept!
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Hmm i think it's a myth. I'm a cynical person and i think there's always something we want in return. Say for example u are nice to somebody. That's becuz u want that somebody to treat u better. Or maybe u love a dog very much. Maybe u would expect the dog to listen to u or to keep u company when u are lonely in exchange for the love and care u shower for the dog. Or u love a person deeply. Then he/she did something that hurts u badly. Why would u feel hurt? Becuz u expect him/her not to hurt u since u love him/she so deeply. We always treat others by how we want others to treat us. Perhaps it's just me but i truely find it hard to believe that humans are altruism creatures. Only humans...
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that love goes against the grain doesn't make it impossible... how often do you see people get hurt and go back for more? they don't want to be hurt again... if you give yourself 100% you're a bit screwed if they hurt you, you're kinda stuck... which is why the biggest element of love is trust. you can't truly love someone if you don't trust them.
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If everyone gives 100% in love then it is going to be dead boring.Love needs drama sometimes to keep the flame burning.
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Originally posted by Short Ninja:
If everyone gives 100% in love then it is going to be dead boring.Love needs drama sometimes to keep the flame burning.
yea..so u mean must hav 3rd party huh?haha
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I forbid the third party thingy but if the wife turns out to be a fuckin bitch then bring out the balloons and buffet table ... organize a sex party>LOL
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Originally posted by Short Ninja:
I forbid the third party thingy but if the wife turns out to be a fuckin bitch then bring out the balloons and buffet table ... organize a sex party>LOL
Hello, why must it always be the wife?? And the true is husbands are mostly the one who turn out to be the f**k corking cockerels, then brings out the chopper, let have a chopping competition.
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Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:
....."Love is giving 100% and expect nothing in return."
Heard this on the radio two days ago. The Dj was asking this couple how they keep their relationship together and one of them said the above ....
If one person gives and gives and nothing is reciprocated, one day sure run out of thing to give right...?
...... thought love is 50/50 or maybe 60/40......?
What pple said are just their expression, everyone of us express our love differently ok. Like in your case, love means never say good bye. And as for me, love is just love, no percentage involved. And for some Ninjas, love like a farking bitch, sad.
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Subjective from couple to couple...different people handle relationships differently...some may expect to give all the way...some may expect to receive all the way...yo can't control that...only the couple know better about their relationship...either way...they will make it work...one way or another...or even according to their way...
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Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:
....."Love is giving 100% and expect nothing in return."
Heard this on the radio two days ago. The Dj was asking this couple how they keep their relationship together and one of them said the above ....
If one person gives and gives and nothing is reciprocated, one day sure run out of thing to give right...?
...... thought love is 50/50 or maybe 60/40......?
U never see newspaper meh, some give n give until they go bankrupt and the wife say this guy useless n run away with other guy. Communication is 2-way traffic, if the other keep quiet, u better also keep quiet. So i think it should be 50/50 especially when comes to $. Love is when 2 person works towards a goal that both desire. Without the same goal, it is just a matter of time they pack up n split.
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Originally posted by Jezmeister:
expect nothing in return. it's a two way street, in reality, if you get it right, mathematically it'll be 50/50 because you'll both be giving everything you have - but you can't give 50% of yourself and call it love, gotta give it all ;)
the point is really that there'll always be times that you think the other person isn't quite giving everything or is doing something wrong by you at some point, but if you really love them then you'll still give them everything and trust that they're doing the right thing and support them regardless etc
.....you speak from experience? -
Originally posted by Stoics:
Hmm i think it’s a myth. I’m a cynical person and i think there’s always something we want in return. Say for example u are nice to somebody. That’s becuz u want that somebody to treat u better. Or maybe u love a dog very much. Maybe u would expect the dog to listen to u or to keep u company when u are lonely in exchange for the love and care u shower for the dog.
Or u love a person deeply. Then he/she did something that hurts u badly. Why would u feel hurt? Becuz u expect him/her not to hurt u since u love him/she so deeply. We always treat others by how we want others to treat us.Perhaps it’s just me but i truely find it hard to believe that humans are altruism creatures. Only humans…
.....so, there is no such thing as giving 100% right? Human beings are a selfish lot -
Originally posted by Jezmeister:
that love goes against the grain doesn’t make it impossible… how often do you see people get hurt and go back for more? they don’t want to be hurt again… if you give yourself 100% you’re a bit screwed if they hurt you, you’re kinda stuck… which is why the biggest element of love is trust. you can’t truly love someone if you don’t trust them.
.....love is a high risk game -
Originally posted by Short Ninja:
If everyone gives 100% in love then it is going to be dead boring.Love needs drama sometimes to keep the flame burning.
.....what drama? have a wrestling match or girlfriends' swopping? -
Originally posted by angel7030:
What pple said are just their expression, everyone of us express our love differently ok. Like in your case, love means never say good bye. And as for me, love is just love, no percentage involved. And for some Ninjas, love like a farking bitch, sad.
.....neversaygoodbye is just a nick, nothing to do with love. How far will you do for your love? anything he wants? -
Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:
Subjective from couple to couple...different people handle relationships differently...some may expect to give all the way...some may expect to receive all the way...yo can't control that...only the couple know better about their relationship...either way...they will make it work...one way or another...or even according to their way...
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Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:
.....you speak from experience?Yes.
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Originally posted by Jezmeister:
Yes.
.....it does make a lot of sense. Something to learn. Your partner will be happy to read your above post
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Just need to correct on the definition.
It' is impossible to give 50% at the same time. This is because r/ship is a zero sum game. When you give, the other gain. So technically, the person giving 50% is the a jerk!
Also, when 2 persons are giving, one will give more. Thus, the above.
Just like trading, when you give your love, you expect to receive love (or something back).However, in most r/ship, that will not be true. When you give, you may not immediately received return in kind.
That brings us to the balanced nett return. Will you see a nett return at the end of the r/ship. I cannot answer that but my take is a resounding 'Yes'. Although we do not end our life (naturally) together, the result of the r/ship will have a nett return.
So what does it mean? It means that when you love someone, you give/give up/give in to him/her. You develop the all powerful FAITH that he/she will reciprocate in return. And when the day finally comes, either one will give more than the other, yet the one giving will be feel that he/she is receiving the same in return.
To me, this is true for a pure and honest r/ship.
For young peeps out there, do good and even if the r/ship dun blossom as intended, you will attain a balanced nett return.
Remember, a pure r/ship.....
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Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:
.....neversaygoodbye is just a nick, nothing to do with love. How far will you do for your love? anything he wants?
He should be reason to what he wants, and provided i can do it, on the other hands, he must also do things for my love, in love, both should reciporcate each other to tell ourselves in our small little world of our own that we should built ours relation toward more happiness and lovelyness. It can never be a one way trip. And certainly, I will not fall for a male chauvinist kind of guy. -
Originally posted by nehpyh:
Just need to correct on the definition.
It' is impossible to give 50% at the same time. This is because r/ship is a zero sum game. When you give, the other gain. So technically, the person giving 50% is the a jerk!
Also, when 2 persons are giving, one will give more. Thus, the above.
Just like trading, when you give your love, you expect to receive love (or something back).However, in most r/ship, that will not be true. When you give, you may not immediately received return in kind.
That brings us to the balanced nett return. Will you see a nett return at the end of the r/ship. I cannot answer that but my take is a resounding 'Yes'. Although we do not end our life (naturally) together, the result of the r/ship will have a nett return.
So what does it mean? It means that when you love someone, you give/give up/give in to him/her. You develop the all powerful FAITH that he/she will reciprocate in return. And when the day finally comes, either one will give more than the other, yet the one giving will be feel that he/she is receiving the same in return.
To me, this is true for a pure and honest r/ship.
For young peeps out there, do good and even if the r/ship dun blossom as intended, you will attain a balanced nett return.
Remember, a pure r/ship.....
You need an internal auditor? -
Originally posted by nehpyh:
Just need to correct on the definition.
It' is impossible to give 50% at the same time. This is because r/ship is a zero sum game. When you give, the other gain. So technically, the person giving 50% is the a jerk!
Also, when 2 persons are giving, one will give more. Thus, the above.
Just like trading, when you give your love, you expect to receive love (or something back).However, in most r/ship, that will not be true. When you give, you may not immediately received return in kind.
That brings us to the balanced nett return. Will you see a nett return at the end of the r/ship. I cannot answer that but my take is a resounding 'Yes'. Although we do not end our life (naturally) together, the result of the r/ship will have a nett return.
So what does it mean? It means that when you love someone, you give/give up/give in to him/her. You develop the all powerful FAITH that he/she will reciprocate in return. And when the day finally comes, either one will give more than the other, yet the one giving will be feel that he/she is receiving the same in return.
To me, this is true for a pure and honest r/ship.
For young peeps out there, do good and even if the r/ship dun blossom as intended, you will attain a balanced nett return.
Remember, a pure r/ship.....
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Originally posted by angel7030:
He should be reason to what he wants, and provided i can do it, on the other hands, he must also do things for my love, in love, both should reciporcate each other to tell ourselves in our small little world of our own that we should built ours relation toward more happiness and lovelyness. It can never be a one way trip. And certainly, I will not fall for a male chauvinist kind of guy.
.....Chauvinist guy good right? show that he got lots of confidence