It's not gonna be easy to just pack and go.
I can't just suddenly disappear from her life and give no appropriate excuse for that.
sucks to be two timed. well, just choose a day, sit her down and ask her just one question, do you have anything you want to tell me?
Ghast. Thanks man.
I guess I'll do that when the time comes after I get enough of this.
Originally posted by Misogynist:Hey guys. I need some advice. I've been seeing this girl called XY for awhile now. Recently, we just officialized our status as gf and bf. But the thing is, I found out through my sources is that she's acutally attached to 30 year old guy called C. But C isn't in Singapore for the next 6 months.
Also, she's staying at his place for now. And when I confronted her about this, she said that's the ex-bf and she's renting a place from him. Although she said this was her ex-bf, I received news that they were actually planning to head to ROM end of this year.
So right now, she thinks I'm completely unaware of the fact that she's two-timing me and she doesn't know that I'm aware of the ROM. My issue is how am I'm gonna put it across to her so that she becomes completely honest with me.
The world has changed alot indeed, nowadays gf and bf status can be "officialized"?
Anyway.....
Misogynist, you must know that even though you have "officialized" your status as gf and bf, IT doesn't empowers you with any special rights or authority over your gf. If you can't understand and respect that, then you are just another possessive bf. And I will not have any pity for you cos any girls who ends up as your gf will ended up getting hurt and their innocent destroyed.
Do you really love her in the first place? Why do you even want to trick her to go into a relationship with you? Is there even a need to "officialized" your relationship status between the both of you? What are you afraid of? Are you telling us that your gf is NOT ALLOWED to leave you? Why are you even plotting how you are going to trap and force her to stay in a relationship with you? What does this relationship means to you? Why do you strongly believed in your sources but not your own gf? -> How can you say she's committing infidelity when she's not even married to you and you don't even own her like her parents?
All these questions are valid and they are also important for not just you, but for all the guys out there.
Lastly, what is love to you? If love can be reasoned in a relationship, then love will no longer be precious cos YOU have already given love a value/price in your relationship.
Think carefully before you do something that you will regret forever for the rest of your lives. Don't make the same mistakes that alot of guys have done in their relationships. Cos you definitely do not want to be one of them, and you are definitely not going to be one of them.
You can make the right decision on your relationship, think about the reason why you want to love your gf in the first place.
does it really matter? can't stand it, leave.. can stand, then play on.. don't get why ppl bother with revenge n e likes...
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Have lots of sex with her. Then walk away. If you're not even getting any, then walk away immediately.
Ah Gong, are u dealing with a PRC gal?? if so, better hands off now.
Local lah Local..
Trust? Everybody lies.
for cheating bitches like this .... you're better off walking away ...
think of it this way ... she cheated on you .... but she's also cheating on her other, long time boyfriend too, neh ? ....
count your lucky stars you're not the one stuck with such a woman .... and feel sorry for the other chap instead .... for somewhere along the line, he may get to wear the green hat again ...
Well. At least I'm not kept in the dark.
Ya. The other chap's doesn't even know, which might be why their relationship will work out.
Ignorance is bliss, that's why the idiots are always happy.
Just make her a fuckmate. Enough for a punishment to a dumb women. Or your sources might be people who wanna sabo her? Who knows. Test the hole yourself, if the hole bleeds, go point middle finger at your sources.
O.o
give her a taste of her own medicine?
you just cont. 2 be with her while you have other r/s also =D
Originally posted by Misogynist:Well. At least I'm not kept in the dark.
Ya. The other chap's doesn't even know, which might be why their relationship will work out.
Ignorance is bliss, that's why the idiots are always happy.
Maybe the bf is having his fun somewhere!!!!!
Frankly, no offence to all the peeps who ask you to go ahead and 'play' her this and that....are you even listening to the advises? Really lstening and internalising it???
Common, everyone is telling you to be a bastard! Yada yada about the can't-win-the-fight-join-em crap....
Deep inside, you made this post cos you are afraid of being hurt and might have already felt hurt from your 'discovery'....
But if you play her, you are admitting that you are done in, resorting to being more discpicable, and outright immoral.
Now, if what i said is true, you deserve what the girl is doing to you....
Think harder...morality is not based on what others do to you...it's based on what you do to others...
Originally posted by nehpyh:Think harder...morality is not based on what others do to you...it's based on what you do to others...
dis type of girl even wif the other guy in d end wil stil break....dis type of girl is like prostitute,who $ more go whre..
it is not getting you anywhere. gf only.. ask her to make a decision , if not walk away.
Originally posted by parn:Do you really love her in the first place?
I guess this is the key. Or rather, it takes a backseat to all other emotions of TS'. E.g. anger, indignant etc etc.
then what are you waiting for? piak her until song song and dump her lor
What I'm trying to say is, perhaps the problem already existed at the beginning of the relationship? I mean, what sort of mentality did he carry at the inception of the rs? What is he truly in for? Example: companionship, hence didn't really work at the emotional understanding of partner?
Originally posted by Misogynist:Recently, we just officialized our status as gf and bf.
My question here is: is this a hurried process or is the TS eager to hurry this process so as to "chop" (booked) her?
More haste, less speed. Sigh... the problem of a fast-paced world. Relationships cannot be hurried. Intimacy cannot be rushed.
Originally posted by Karma88:Ask her to move out of the place .
And move in with you .
Then at least when shes staying with you u could see wats she doing day in day out .
And then find out the real truth .
Even if one is staying with you, you can't help it when one choose to two-time the other. "there is a will, there is a way", if the girl really want to find other guys while with you, there is no way you can do to try to avoid it.
One advice. "Let go."
Cheers.
You have to let dump her or let go.
You could enjoy sex with her until you get tired of it and confront her with the situation and demand a break up. Or just confront her now and break up. Either way, she's definitely not for a long term r/s and is not worth it for you.
And do wake up. Girls these days are not gentle, naive sheep. There are many manipulative vixens in sheep's clothing. When it comes to manipulation, whatever men can do, women can do it better.
Originally posted by Sakuraflower:it is not getting you anywhere. gf only.. ask her to make a decision , if not walk away.
nabei dig 2mths ago old thread .. lol