Im 20 this year, and i only have one past relationship. My friends assume im good with girls, having lots of relationships when i only have one girlfriend in the past. Whenever new year comes alone, and all the aunties ask me if i have a girlfriend, i would say no and they would go dont be shy, dont be so humble. What they do not know is that im actually very lonely inside, ive been spending every christmas with guy friends and its frustrating. I have trouble finding a girlfriend. Initially i thought that it was my character, im too confident and arrogant always so full of myself. There was once i chased a girl, and she ended up being with this really ugly guy a total loser. her friends said things like i look like a player, im a playboy, jerk and would play with her feelings. Im not like that at all. Are girls like that, disqualifying themselves if they think that the guy is too good to be true.

so in conclusion u are hamsum la?

NPNT

Originally posted by val.:

Im 20 this year, and i only have one past relationship. My friends assume im good with girls, having lots of relationships when i only have one girlfriend in the past. Whenever new year comes alone, and all the aunties ask me if i have a girlfriend, i would say no and they would go dont be shy, dont be so humble. What they do not know is that im actually very lonely inside, ive been spending every christmas with guy friends and its frustrating. I have trouble finding a girlfriend. Initially i thought that it was my character, im too confident and arrogant always so full of myself. There was once i chased a girl, and she ended up being with this really ugly guy a total loser. her friends said things like i look like a player, im a playboy, jerk and would play with her feelings. Im not like that at all. Are girls like that, disqualifying themselves if they think that the guy is too good to be true.

I'm quite sure you didn't lose out in terms of looks if you self-proclaimed to be good-looking, so you must have lost terribly in terms of your attitude, behaviour, and mentality.

Arrogant is a terrible character-traits to own, nobody will enjoy the company of an arrogant person.

Oh yah....one last thing, don't trust the aunties' opinions, they are always encouraging and it's only polite for them to do so. Trust your peers' opinions.

me ishh like hamsum boyssss

i am ugly.

how come girls don't like me?

Ok from one hansum fella to another *ahem*. Actually last time I also same problem and I also thought that I was quite ok attitude wise so why I no gf etc but luckily I met this girl who was very patient with me and helped me to realise that I actually was a bit problematic in my attitude and ways of relating towards girl. You see sometimes characteristics that maybe appreciated in an all male environment may not be appreciated by girls. So you need to be able to tune yourself to the wavelength of the people you're dealing with. Its not really your fault because I think maybe deep down you're not a bad guy, its just all the emotional baggage and stereotypes that are floating around us in modern society that make good guys have alot of BGR problems. Maybe the girl that ended up with the no good ratbag because the ratbag knows how to press her buttons. I'm not saying be a player, but be more attentive to what the girl wants in a fella. Think of it as saving the girl from her own foolishess LOL!

She is just not the right gal for you.   

I am confused.   Almost every guy tells me he is good looking when some of them can hardly make it.   What is the definition of handsome, good looking to you guys?

Originally posted by frakfrakfrak:

Ok from one hansum fella to another *ahem*. Actually last time I also same problem and I also thought that I was quite ok attitude wise so why I no gf etc but luckily I met this girl who was very patient with me and helped me to realise that I actually was a bit problematic in my attitude and ways of relating towards girl. You see sometimes characteristics that maybe appreciated in an all male environment may not be appreciated by girls. So you need to be able to tune yourself to the wavelength of the people you're dealing with. Its not really your fault because I think maybe deep down you're not a bad guy, its just all the emotional baggage and stereotypes that are floating around us in modern society that make good guys have alot of BGR problems. Maybe the girl that ended up with the no good ratbag because the ratbag knows how to press her buttons. I'm not saying be a player, but be more attentive to what the girl wants in a fella. Think of it as saving the girl from her own foolishess LOL!

It takes skills to get along with opposite sex.   Humility, knowledge, understanding, forgiving, giving in, maturity, wisdom help, too.

me ish 牛头马面。

Originally posted by maurizio13:

me ish 牛头马面。

ha ha, you are made up of bull and horse?   u funny.

pls stop living in denial.

its got to do with over-confidence and your arrogant behavior la.. like how you think that you're very handsome by posting this topic shows that you think to highly of yourself yeah.

unless you post a picture of yourself la.. if handsome then sorry lor i take back my words.

i think its reallythe attitude and how you present yourself. ultimately looks can't last if the internal is shit. all the best.

Originally posted by ghast.:

i think its reallythe attitude and how you present yourself. ultimately looks can't last if the internal is shit. all the best.

dan qiang zi ru.

wad does dat mean

Ts post pic?

My aunties ask me that during CNY and ask me dun paiseh to say also.

But i ish ugly, so the conclusion i can get is that aunties ask that qn to everyone and anyone. Dun read too much into their words.

TS, I have this problem also. Girls thought guys like us are players and they feel very insecure.

You just have to prove them wrong that you are someone above average looking who do not flirt around.

Sometimes other girls are the culprits also, they tend to like to hangout with not bad-looking guys and make them look like players. The girl you like see already and get jealous= gone liao hahaha...

You don't know how to talk lor, maybe you should wear a specs, wear shirt more often. You'll portray a decent image and girls will still fall for you.

Originally posted by val.:

Im 20 this year, and i only have one past relationship. My friends assume im good with girls, having lots of relationships when i only have one girlfriend in the past. Whenever new year comes alone, and all the aunties ask me if i have a girlfriend, i would say no and they would go dont be shy, dont be so humble. What they do not know is that im actually very lonely inside, ive been spending every christmas with guy friends and its frustrating. I have trouble finding a girlfriend. Initially i thought that it was my character, im too confident and arrogant always so full of myself. There was once i chased a girl, and she ended up being with this really ugly guy a total loser. her friends said things like i look like a player, im a playboy, jerk and would play with her feelings. Im not like that at all. Are girls like that, disqualifying themselves if they think that the guy is too good to be true.

1st of all ugly ppl r not losers... 2nd even if u look gd mean gals must be with u? go wake up ur idea kid... r/s is more than jz attraction...

TS be confident to a certain extent and dont go overboard to arrogance.

Next time when you see another girl you like. Have to assure her that she is way better than you, give her confidence.

Actually not all girls go for looks. Character and intelligence also very important.

thank god, gals nowadays are not blind

Originally posted by Evangel:

TS be confident to a certain extent and dont go overboard to arrogance.

Next time when you see another girl you like. Have to assure her that she is way better than you, give her confidence.

Actually not all girls go for looks. Character and intelligence also very important.

I don't think you should let the girl think that she is better than you, that way she will waver and may wait for a better fish.

Just assure that you really like her.

show pic or else how we know u reallly handsome or not

This is called equailty wat .

Ugly girl must go with yan dao guys .

yan dao guys must go with ugly gers .

Since u are so handsome ur i think ur ex must be quite ugly ?