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  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
    • Need some advice on this....

      Well i've been single and neva end up in any relationship before....have attempted to get serious to one or two...but i was neva even close to being BF/GF as i was somehow being toyed with and found out the girl i am dating was double timing...T-T.

      I moved on with my life....trying to find some interest and focus on other stuff rather than on relationship....(have passion to play guitar)....but...the feeling of loneliness usually surface from time to time...and i hate it..

      I dun dare to know any other girls out there for fear that i am being toyed with again...but whenever i see my friends how they move on with their life with their girlfriends...really envy them and the darn feeling of loneliness resurface...how i wish to be so blessed and fortunate...

      Just need some advice...how to overcome the loneliness...totally...hate it every moment...if anyone goes thru the same too and get out of the lonely phase please let me noe how to get over it....thanks ^-^

  • 00king00's Avatar
    158 posts since Jun '08
    • dun giv up and live yr life to the fullest, go out wif frens, play, meet ppl, and most importantly, do well in yr studies/career, it'll giv u a much greater sense of satisfaction as opposed to having a gf and failing everything else in yr life

      stay strong, stay available, and flirt if u muz!!

  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
    • haha... thanks 00king00...i will go forth with my studies and career definately....well as for flirting, i am very afraid to do that..i m very afraid to tok to girls...as i m afraid of what they think of me...the previous 2 failures left me wondering am i even good enough for anyone....haiz...totally depress when i come to think of it...T-T

  • rey619's Avatar
    289 posts since Feb '08
    • Originally posted by Fan87:

      haha... thanks 00king00...i will go forth with my studies and career definately....well as for flirting, i am very afraid to do that..i m very afraid to tok to girls...as i m afraid of what they think of me...the previous 2 failures left me wondering am i even good enough for anyone....haiz...totally depress when i come to think of it...T-T

      join the army

      HOO RAH! RANGERS LEAD THE WAY!

  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
    • Currently serving NS..but definately won't sign on and be regular....confirm no life like tat....then even more worse...get more lonely.

  • rey619's Avatar
    289 posts since Feb '08
    • Originally posted by Fan87:

      Currently serving NS..but definately won't sign on and be regular....confirm no life like tat....then even more worse...get more lonely.

      ignorant fool

  • Agenda's Avatar
    6,240 posts since Jan '06
    • The problem with guys is that they want good looking girlfriend. But good looking girls usually don't go with handsome guys for security reasons.

      Guys need to understand, good looking girls are only good for sex, good personality girls are for life.

  • dumbdumb!'s Avatar
    12,024 posts since Jan '03
    • Originally posted by Agenda:

      The problem with guys is that they want good looking girlfriend. But good looking girls usually don't go with handsome guys for security reasons.

      Guys need to understand, good looking girls are only good for sex, good personality girls are for life.

      =)

       

      TS, learn to be whole first, before you find a life partner. if you enter a relationship without being whole, there will be alot of problems. your needs will suffocate her, and vice versa.

  • FusionWave's Avatar
    28 posts since Jul '08
    • Well, this kinda thing is part and parcel for life. your friends must have tried hard to get their girls. but for now it'll always be good to focus on other things and when the time comes, ur right girl will come along.

      Everyone will be lonely from time to time. Maybe ur right girl now is feeling lonely too until u pop up ard the corner. =D

      My dad said, once u are like in the working world. it'll be girl's turn to chase guys cos they scared they can't marry.

      btw how old r u?

  • Agenda's Avatar
    6,240 posts since Jan '06
    • Originally posted by FusionWave:

      Well, this kinda thing is part and parcel for life. your friends must have tried hard to get their girls. but for now it'll always be good to focus on other things and when the time comes, ur right girl will come along.

      Everyone will be lonely from time to time. Maybe ur right girl now is feeling lonely too until u pop up ard the corner. =D

      My dad said, once u are like in the working world. it'll be girl's turn to chase guys cos they scared they can't marry.

      btw how old r u?

      If you got money, they'll start chasing you from right now.

  • ~b1RD_m4N~'s Avatar
    289 posts since Jun '08
    • Originally posted by Agenda:

      The problem with guys is that they want good looking girlfriend. But good looking girls usually don't go with handsome guys for security reasons.

      Guys need to understand, good looking girls are only good for sex, good personality girls are for life.

      thats an insult to good looking girls that have a good heart!

  • ~b1RD_m4N~'s Avatar
    289 posts since Jun '08
    • life isnt just about bgr.  single people can be happy also.  play ur guitar, form a band.  and when the time comes, there will be the right one for you!

  • rey619's Avatar
    289 posts since Feb '08
    • Originally posted by ~b1RD_m4N~:

      thats an insult to good looking girls that have a good heart!

      LIFE IS ABOUT THE ARMY

      LEAN MEAN GREEN

      HOO RAH! RANGERS LEAD THE WAY!

  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
    • Well, this kinda thing is part and parcel for life. your friends must have tried hard to get their girls. but for now it'll always be good to focus on other things and when the time comes, ur right girl will come along.

      Everyone will be lonely from time to time. Maybe ur right girl now is feeling lonely too until u pop up ard the corner. =D

      My dad said, once u are like in the working world. it'll be girl's turn to chase guys cos they scared they can't marry.

      btw how old r u?

      ^-^ 20 yrs old...gonna be 21 after oct...

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    parn's Avatar
    3,952 posts since May '03
    • Originally posted by Fan87:

      Need some advice on this....

      Well i've been single and neva end up in any relationship before....have attempted to get serious to one or two...but i was neva even close to being BF/GF as i was somehow being toyed with and found out the girl i am dating was double timing...T-T.

      I moved on with my life....trying to find some interest and focus on other stuff rather than on relationship....(have passion to play guitar)....but...the feeling of loneliness usually surface from time to time...and i hate it..

      I dun dare to know any other girls out there for fear that i am being toyed with again...but whenever i see my friends how they move on with their life with their girlfriends...really envy them and the darn feeling of loneliness resurface...how i wish to be so blessed and fortunate...

      Just need some advice...how to overcome the loneliness...totally...hate it every moment...if anyone goes thru the same too and get out of the lonely phase please let me noe how to get over it....thanks ^-^

      Fan87, don't think of loneliness, never for once allow that thought to seep into your mind. You are never alone, you have your family who loves you and relatives around you who cared for you.

      You think of what you are feeling now, you can decide what you want to be feeling right now.

      And there's nothing wrong with girls out there :p, girls are also like guys....we're humans too you know. 

      I would suggest you to step into a church on a Sunday and you will feel blessed and fortunate that you took this step to break away from your Sunday routine.

      Your life will never be the same again, and it is up to you to make your life exciting, sexy, comfortable, challenging, righteous...and mostly importantly fun and original. :)

       

  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
    • Thanks ~b1RD_m4N~.....yeah currently continuously practising guitar....waiting to form a band but difficult to find...but first i wanna get better with the ax first :D

  • Fan87's Avatar
    21 posts since Jul '08
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    21 posts since Jul '08
  • Fantagf's Avatar
    2,752 posts since Jun '08
    • Originally posted by Fan87:

      Need some advice on this....

      Well i've been single and neva end up in any relationship before....have attempted to get serious to one or two...but i was neva even close to being BF/GF as i was somehow being toyed with and found out the girl i am dating was double timing...T-T.

      I moved on with my life....trying to find some interest and focus on other stuff rather than on relationship....(have passion to play guitar)....but...the feeling of loneliness usually surface from time to time...and i hate it..

      I dun dare to know any other girls out there for fear that i am being toyed with again...but whenever i see my friends how they move on with their life with their girlfriends...really envy them and the darn feeling of loneliness resurface...how i wish to be so blessed and fortunate...

      Just need some advice...how to overcome the loneliness...totally...hate it every moment...if anyone goes thru the same too and get out of the lonely phase please let me noe how to get over it....thanks ^-^


      No venture, no gain.    Understand that males don't cope that well with loneliness as compared with females.    Go clubbing, do sports, go gym, chat on line, go movies, reading, so many things you can do to pass time.  

  • mancha's Avatar
    3,027 posts since Sep '04
    • 99.99% of the time we are thinking I this, and I that. Why me, and such. " I "  all the time.

      When your thoughts are focused on yourself, and only yourself, very soon your brains will feel stuffed. Think out. Focus away from yourself, your guitar, your duties, your subordinates. Be helpful to others.

      As for relationship, let them come, when they come. No one is pressing you on this, except yourself.

  • gigabyte14's Avatar
    18,036 posts since Jul '06
    • 2 ways la

      1) humans are solitary creatures, they have the instince to live alone

      or if u really want a companion

      2) if u like someone, don't dilly dally and daydream

      got try is better than no try

  • MooKu's Avatar
    33,833 posts since Dec '02
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    91 posts since Jun '08
  • Yohoro's Avatar
    56 posts since Mar '07
    • Being single is like so cool la. I just broke up recently. Can't say that I am not sad but when you are single comes freedom and more time to do more things and go out with more friends. Making new friends is important. Most of the stuff I learnt like diving la cello la is all when I just broke up then faster go learn de.

      but if you really wanna get a girlfriend, dont be afraid, just wait for the right one to come and then slowly make you way up from as simple friends then close friends etc.

      When you feel lonely be like me. I will go for a 15km run. Force yourself to finish and then you all not have anymore energy to think somemore le. Hope it helps.

  • angel7030's Avatar
    8,328 posts since Jul '07
    • lonely ah!!! come come to my joo chiat pub occasionally ya, i make sure u get no lonely no more .

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