Dunno what to do
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My bf has kidney disease & oni 35% of his kidney is functioning. The cause is unknown but may need dialysis in future.
He earns more than me but every month, without fail, he will borrow money from me.
Recently, we had a big fight. He used $200+ to buy gameboy for his niece on her birthday. He had no money to pay for his medical checkup and tests. I had to loan him $500 and yet he used he can buy the gameboy! Another thing I am angry is that he only celebrates his family members' birthday. He will go for a meal with the family & buy presents for them. But as his gf for more than 5 yrs, he oni sms to wish me happy birthday. I really dun understand y different treatment between his family & me.
Sometimes, I really think
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Remember...There is a quote..."A Good son & a good husband will never be the same person" Seem like time to get him know better....!! U need to find out he really love u or not....!! Put some slight test..like u go between his family n him....search the result...!!! I meant SLIGHT test...not a true opposing....!! Try it wise....!! If there will be unexpected results for u....don`t be surprise...!! He surely is sth...!! N check whether he got other girls or not....!! Be Wise.....!!
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leave him, get a guy with good kidneys, otherwise you may regret in with a 35% function kidneys, especially in bed.
I alway look for able good healthy guy who know how to take care of his body and health, u should do the same.
To have good healthy Love, u need healthy body and mind. If not, many problems arises
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I duno whether u r in agony becos ur bf is havin kidney disease or he doesnt treasure u more than his family.
If it's the former, does it matter anymore tat who does he treasure more since he is oready in such a state? It shld probably be his family who wll b takin care of him if his illness is gettin serious whereas u, are onli his gf - no sense of security for him when he's sick.
If it's the latter, i think u shld somehow ask urself y r u even his gf for 5 years when obviously ur bf's main problem rite now is his illness & his family is naturally the one whom he shld care abt..(refer to above statement)
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He had two-timing me before. I had forgiven him but I really cannot help to wonder if he is doing it again.
I really sometimes wonder if he is using me as a ATM machine and a free maid. His dad is old & needs his mother to take care of him. His siblings all married with kids. So, whenever he admitted to hospital, he will indicate me as his next of kin, pax to call in event of emergency.So, if he really tinks I am his next of kin, then y he dun treat me like one?
I really want to give up but still hv feelings for him
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It takes two hands to clap. U cant let go & thus he can keep makin use of u. It's ur choice now..
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from what you mentioned, he's not someone worth spending the rest of your life with.. a two-timing bastard.. don't even have the basic sense to spend money (not his) wisely.. treats you like a nobody.. what makes him think that he deserves you? heck, he don't even have a proper set of kidney.. seriously.. you either go through this with her together, try to change him.. or leave him.
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Originally posted by furball:
He had two-timing me before. I had forgiven him but I really cannot help to wonder if he is doing it again.
I really sometimes wonder if he is using me as a ATM machine and a free maid. His dad is old & needs his mother to take care of him. His siblings all married with kids. So, whenever he admitted to hospital, he will indicate me as his next of kin, pax to call in event of emergency.So, if he really tinks I am his next of kin, then y he dun treat me like one?
I really want to give up but still hv feelings for him
Did u just say u want to give up..?? DID U sAY..?? O_o Ok..if u want to cut..i`ll give u a knife...!! What u need to do is...u need to give him a reason n refuse to give him money....at the most critical moment that he need money...!! u need to try this within a month...!! First u need to tell him ...u gonna use something big amount within this month for some trustable( he need to believe this) fact ...!! n let him see the money....but at the critical moment...u just withdraw all ur money n keep it at home as cash...!! N show him that account...!!Two or three times only u need to do it...!! Then u will see his complete figure...!! If he will throw more temper on u more than before...., Yes u r right..u r his atm only...!! If he still ok..n care...then u just forget to cut off...!! He loves u...but he got obstacles on the way to u...!! Just wait him ok...!!
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maybe he dono how to express his feeling to u or maybe he's just taking u for granted
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Takes your money , doesn't buy you a present for your birthday ... sounds like he doesn't appreciate you.
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i dont tink he treasure u.
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Does ur bf has saving ?
No savings. How to get married ?
You need to address your concerns.
He need to learn to manage his finance wisely.
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excuse me, furball.
its obvious that he is taking advantage of you and taking you for granted.
i cant believe you are still able to 'still hv feelings for him'.
you must be blind.
MOVE ON! BREAK UP!
EVEN IF HE BEGS YOU TO STAY! DONT CARE!
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Base on only your side of the story.
I think he is taking advantage of you.
And you allow him to take advantage of you.
1. You pity him. 2. You don't want to let go.
He feels he is going to die. He is concentrating on his immediate family. He realise he may not be around for long.
You are a convenience. You are not part of him, yet. Up to you to want to make sacrifices for him.
If you can't stand it. Quit
If you have the heart to stay. Don't complain.