Do you agree that Sg guys and girls are having a hard time?

• CrabbyShaSha

  28 Aug 08, 01:41

  Singaporeans are generally complacent. The danger of this is that it affects us not only in our career advancement, but also in terms of our romance i.e. our bgr.

  Example:

  In the world of work, a lot of big companies lose their competitive edge that comes from hard work, research, planning, taking risks, because they become too comfortable and and stop looking for innovative ways to stay ahead of competition.

  In a relationship, a couple loses that spark they get when they first started off a romance because they get too comfortable as time goes by. They stop wanting to get to know each other better and stop trying out new things, hence their relationship stale and instead of looking into their relationship, they mistakenly think that the "pasture is greener on the other side." Therefore, the vicious cycle of unfulfillment no matter what relationship they land themselves in.

   

  Do you agree?

• youyayu

  28 Aug 08, 01:45

  * during school they teach don't have relation*
  
  so in work place.. also same mind set..
  
  so lol...

• airgrinder

  28 Aug 08, 02:18

  not necessary sg people only ah, other country people also mah

• methanol

  28 Aug 08, 02:39

  Humans in general are always complacent. When we're young, we rush at breckneck speed into the future, as we get older and time goes by, it's gone and replaced by the regret of adulthood.

• BadzMaro

  28 Aug 08, 05:55

  Taiwan also.. dun worry. hahaha

   

• parn

  28 Aug 08, 07:29

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  * during school they teach don't have relation*
  
  so in work place.. also same mind set..
  
  so lol...

  
  Don't you realise that it's all reverse psychology?

  Reverse psychology are best known to use for encouragement.

   

  So when they say don't, you will subconsciously be encouraged to have relationships.

  What took you this long to figure it out?

   

• parn

  28 Aug 08, 07:36

  Originally posted by CrabbyShaSha:

  Singaporeans are generally complacent. The danger of this is that it affects us not only in our career advancement, but also in terms of our romance i.e. our bgr.

  Example:

  In the world of work, a lot of big companies lose their competitive edge that comes from hard work, research, planning, taking risks, because they become too comfortable and and stop looking for innovative ways to stay ahead of competition.

  In a relationship, a couple loses that spark they get when they first started off a romance because they get too comfortable as time goes by. They stop wanting to get to know each other better and stop trying out new things, hence their relationship stale and instead of looking into their relationship, they mistakenly think that the "pasture is greener on the other side." Therefore, the vicious cycle of unfulfillment no matter what relationship they land themselves in.

   

  Do you agree?

  
  That's only valid if Singaporeans understands the meaning of love.

  Would you like to do this interesting and shocking survey by asking Singaporeans what do they think is the meaning of their "love"?

  I guaranteed you will be laughing till you will be falling over your chair.

   

• d3rF

  28 Aug 08, 10:58

  Originally posted by CrabbyShaSha:

  Singaporeans are generally complacent. The danger of this is that it affects us not only in our career advancement, but also in terms of our romance i.e. our bgr.

  Example:

  In the world of work, a lot of big companies lose their competitive edge that comes from hard work, research, planning, taking risks, because they become too comfortable and and stop looking for innovative ways to stay ahead of competition.

  In a relationship, a couple loses that spark they get when they first started off a romance because they get too comfortable as time goes by. They stop wanting to get to know each other better and stop trying out new things, hence their relationship stale and instead of looking into their relationship, they mistakenly think that the "pasture is greener on the other side." Therefore, the vicious cycle of unfulfillment no matter what relationship they land themselves in.

   

  Do you agree?

  I think in many things in life... it's quite similar also rt?

  E.g. 1 - New job: first few months, very on the ball. After a while, slack. Years later, backside itchy & look for new job.

  E.g. 2 - New car: first few months up to a year, every day sayang car. Check for scratches every day. Some time later, sian liao... wanna change car.

  Of course, some things are more impt than others. In a relationship, the challenging part is to rekindle the relationship with new excitement. Can u think of any examples?

• youyayu

  28 Aug 08, 11:45

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  Don't you realise that it's all reverse psychology?

  Reverse psychology are best known to use for encouragement.

   

  So when they say don't, you will subconsciously be encouraged to have relationships.

  What took you this long to figure it out?

   

  do you really think.. that singaporean mindset will have a reverse psychology effect?
  
  and its most likly becos of females that is so demanding in their "bf" pay, looks and personality... thats y the females of this generation is gone case..
  
  we look for gf easy.. don't need so smart. no need so pretty.. don't be so fat.. can liao lor...
  
  girls side.. fat ugly and digusting still want find good husband.. some times i really want to laugh at them..

• FireIce

  28 Aug 08, 12:12

  wat makes u think ppl in other countries are having it good?

• Hwaimeng

  28 Aug 08, 14:29

  our love life is exciting too wat (- -)

  maybe its yr mind set id different ????

  and when love is concent it also depends on yr mind set

   

  some scarly 1 "when is i cannot have u , other also cant have u"

  ever country also have this kind of love

• fymk

  28 Aug 08, 20:20

  Originally posted by CrabbyShaSha:

  Singaporeans are generally complacent. The danger of this is that it affects us not only in our career advancement, but also in terms of our romance i.e. our bgr.

  Example:

  In the world of work, a lot of big companies lose their competitive edge that comes from hard work, research, planning, taking risks, because they become too comfortable and and stop looking for innovative ways to stay ahead of competition.

  In a relationship, a couple loses that spark they get when they first started off a romance because they get too comfortable as time goes by. They stop wanting to get to know each other better and stop trying out new things, hence their relationship stale and instead of looking into their relationship, they mistakenly think that the "pasture is greener on the other side." Therefore, the vicious cycle of unfulfillment no matter what relationship they land themselves in.

   

  Do you agree?

  Happens everywhere in the world dude. Not only  in Singapore.

   

   

• 00king00

  28 Aug 08, 21:23

  me life hard too, no break at all, so tired

• CrabbyShaSha

  29 Aug 08, 00:51

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  wat makes u think ppl in other countries are having it good?

  Why not have it better for ourselves? By examining core issues and working on ourselves.

   

   

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  That's only valid if Singaporeans understands the meaning of love.

  Would you like to do this interesting and shocking survey by asking Singaporeans what do they think is the meaning of their "love"?

  I guaranteed you will be laughing till you will be falling over your chair.

   

  So everyone, what is the meaning of love to you?

   

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  do you really think.. that singaporean mindset will have a reverse psychology effect?
  
  and its most likly becos of females that is so demanding in their "bf" pay, looks and personality... thats y the females of this generation is gone case..
  
  we look for gf easy.. don't need so smart. no need so pretty.. don't be so fat.. can liao lor...
  
  girls side.. fat ugly and digusting still want find good husband.. some times i really want to laugh at them..

  You sure all guys as easy-going as you?

• FireIce

  29 Aug 08, 00:53

  have u checked out our speakers corner?
  i think u can find ur circle there.
  relli.

• CrabbyShaSha

  29 Aug 08, 01:04

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  do you really think.. that singaporean mindset will have a reverse psychology effect?
  
  and its most likly becos of females that is so demanding in their "bf" pay, looks and personality... thats y the females of this generation is gone case..
  
  we look for gf easy.. don't need so smart. no need so pretty.. don't be so fat.. can liao lor...
  
  girls side.. fat ugly and digusting still want find good husband.. some times i really want to laugh at them..

  Pardon me (my next few questions might be thought-provoking), so does this also mean an ok-to-do gf means an ok-to-do relationship? In time, when passion dies down, will you accept it as an 'ok' process instead of truly examining why? Will you try your ass off to re-ignite the fire or would you think it's silly to even try any 'antics' at all because it has never been heard of and will make you look funny? Do you think the girl you like would want to have such an 'ok' relationship?

  And when an 'ok' relationship is not 'ok' (we all know that it's common for men and women to have differences and conflict), are the men and women going to have roving eyes for other people out there, extreme dissatisfaction in a relationship, unexplainable anger and boredom at each other, even without physically straying away from the relationship?

• CrabbyShaSha

  29 Aug 08, 01:05

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  have u checked out our speakers corner?
  i think u can find ur circle there.
  relli.

  Actually, this post was first posted under the chit-chat thread. Maybe cause I was also talking about love, hence it found its way here

• FireIce

  29 Aug 08, 01:07

  u think tt only love issues are agonising?
  
  u relli think so?

• CrabbyShaSha

  29 Aug 08, 01:15

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  u think tt only love issues are agonising?
  
  u relli think so?

  Love is the reason for our existence :) Love of course includes family, siblings, friends and even country love and pride.

   

• CrabbyShaSha

  29 Aug 08, 01:32

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  u think tt only love issues are agonising?
  
  u relli think so?

  Oh, btw, love also means forumnite love.

  i lurb you

• parn

  29 Aug 08, 07:11

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  do you really think.. that singaporean mindset will have a reverse psychology effect?
  
  and its most likly becos of females that is so demanding in their "bf" pay, looks and personality... thats y the females of this generation is gone case..
  
  we look for gf easy.. don't need so smart. no need so pretty.. don't be so fat.. can liao lor...
  
  girls side.. fat ugly and digusting still want find good husband.. some times i really want to laugh at them..

  
  So you don't mind if your son/daughter ends up looking like you+your no need so pretty wife?

  So you don't mind if their intelligence ends up equalling like you+your don't need so smart wife?

  Are you trying to comfort yourself or you are just plain selfish?

   

• youyayu

  29 Aug 08, 07:34

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  So you don't mind if your son/daughter ends up looking like you+your no need so pretty wife?

  So you don't mind if their intelligence ends up equalling like you+your don't need so smart wife?

  Are you trying to comfort yourself or you are just plain selfish?

   

  SEE!!! this is what i mean..
  
  so what they are not good looking? at least they are not - arm - legs -eye -nose..
  there are alot of people outside there.. brought into the world with Aids, Lost of 1 legs or arm.. or borned mentally retarded
  
  Clever or not is depend on the person.. how the parents taught the kids to grow up..
  
  if you have the mind set of what u haven written is totally wrong.. and has even failed as a parents without being one.

  
  so next time u have a ugly kid are you going to kill them?

• parn

  29 Aug 08, 07:47

  Originally posted by youyayu:

  SEE!!! this is what i mean..
  
  so what they are not good looking? at least they are not - arm - legs -eye -nose..
  there are alot of people outside there.. brought into the world with Aids, Lost of 1 legs or arm.. or borned mentally retarded
  
  Clever or not is depend on the person.. how the parents taught the kids to grow up..
  
  if you have the mind set of what u haven written is totally wrong.. and has even failed as a parents without being one.

  
  so next time u have a ugly kid are you going to kill them?

  "Clever or not is depend on the person.. how the parents taught the kids to grow up.." --------> Don't be naive can or not?

  Nobody is born with equal intelligence, do you need to seek a second opinion to agree?

  At least it seems to me that you have a higher possibility to have ugly kids as of this moment.

• thoughts123

  29 Aug 08, 09:02

  I also believe that one person need to step out of his/her comfort zone to experience breakthroughs. Therefore it is the mindset of the person that determines that future

• newcomer

  29 Aug 08, 09:05

  girls at least still can run helter skelter to the ang mohs.