I need advice
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Okay i like a girl from a different level and i do not know her. So the first step will be to get her contact and such.
I have a friend who know her but i plan to approach her directly and ask face to face as she will know who am i and it seems more sincere.
But here is the problem. I do not know what to say as this is my first time.
Should i say:
Hello, i want to get to know you better and be friends, can i have your contact number?or
Hello, i want to know you more. Are you free to chat? After that know each other better than ask for number.
Any other suggestions?
Also will i scare her if i approach her and leave her speechless, its too sudden and she may refuse to give me her contact. I mean she probably need time to think. So will it be better if i give her my number and allow her to consider before she text me her answer?
Many thanks and all reply will be appreciated.
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Well, I'm not a girl...but there're a million ways to approach one.
Usually, I'd go up to her and introduce myself. From observing that first few seconds of noticing you approaching and initiating contact, you'll pretty much know your chances.
By first introducing yourself, she'd also be less "shocked" and not take you for some freaky stalker.
Avoid telling her that you know her friend immediatedly, because she'd associate him with you. And most guys are childish jerks in school.
Good luck!
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Approach her with your friend, can't be too direct like that ...
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Originally posted by XxYaNxX:
Approach her with your friend, can't be too direct like that ...
Maybe I'm wrong...care to elaborate? Judging the behaviour of most school boys nowadays, it's best not to associate with one of the many jerks.If I'm a girl and a guy dare to approach me while I'm with my friends, I'd think he's sincere and courageous unlike others. If she shows no interest in you, it doesn't matter if you approach her with your friend or not.
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Originally posted by asharae:
Maybe I'm wrong...care to elaborate? Judging the behaviour of most school boys nowadays, it's best not to associate with one of the many jerks.If I'm a girl and a guy dare to approach me while I'm with my friends, I'd think he's sincere and courageous unlike others. If she shows no interest in you, it doesn't matter if you approach her with your friend or not.
If a random guy came to me with this pick up line, " Hello, i want to get to know you better and be friends, can i have your contact number?" i wouldn't think he is sincere. If Ts friend knows her well, get to know her though him/her. -
Hey thank you. So what do your think i should do instead? My friend is not very close with her just that they happen to be in the same class for a year.
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Well, I agree that TS's line is pretty bad. However, approaching her with your friend might be a double edged sword.
Anyway, don't girls subconsciously think of a group of guys as a pack of wolves and naturally avoid them?
Me and a friend did some experiments before in a few bars just for fun. We'd sit by ourselves at the bar counter facing away from the dance floor and just drink quietly. In one night, we'd have at least 2-3 women approaching us to chat...
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1) be confident
2) be genuinely yourself
3) smile and spark an interesting conversation then transition to conveying your traits/experiences to her.
4) try to get her to share something about herself. she will most likely reciprocate.
5) look into her eyes
6) look at her beyond her looks and look for characteristics that you like about her
7) compliment her
Girls feel much more comfortable and better when we are complimented about our interior selves, that we are liked for being who we are not about how we look. What I rarely find is a man that can bring out the real selves about them. Be willing to make a fool of yourself and DO NOT use lines and you'll be fine. To me, humour is attractive!
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Originally posted by sweetevil:
1) be confident
2) be genuinely yourself
3) smile and spark an interesting conversation then transition to conveying your traits/experiences to her.
4) try to get her to share something about herself. she will most likely reciprocate.
5) look into her eyes
6) look at her beyond her looks and look for characteristics that you like about her
7) compliment her
Girls feel much more comfortable and better when we are complimented about our interior selves, that we are liked for being who we are not about how we look. What I rarely find is a man that can bring out the real selves about them. Be willing to make a fool of yourself and DO NOT use lines and you'll be fine. To me, humour is attractive!
looks like one of those tips from dating websites.. some are gd, but don't just follow wholesale blindly, some steps are too "over"
eg. (5), (6), (7) >> shldn't try those, esp a newbie like u
but dun worry, having a mutual fren will make things much easier
essentially, it's all abt breaking that ice:
(1)try to get some eye contact with her, if she notices you just smile at her ... don't rush, yr aim is to make yrself a familiar face to her
(2)when she has noticed u enough to return u a smile(most likely after a few times of u taking note of her), only then can u approach her, and be confident!!
(3)tis the time to start yr convo >> "going for yr class??", "u know so and so??" type of opener, casual w/o sounding too despo
openers like "u free to chat" will most likely scare her off, so don't use it
***once u hav broken the ice, it'll be much easier for u to start convo nxt time, strongly advise u not to get her no yet, 1st meeting too abrupt
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i agreed on you sweetevil..
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Wow thank you sweetevil and 00king00. Greatly appreciated,helped me a great deal.
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how do you like a girl if you dont even know her? infatuation?
ok anyway good luck and all the best, do keep us updated ya?