i want to know
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i would like to hear especially the opinions of guys.
what's your take on someone who went all the way to where you live to meet you once, but converse not regularly over the months thru sms and msn, who told you that he's obviously attracted to you and that "i shd know", one who articulates well, has experiences of friends to share, one who says he didn't like to be contacted via phone calls due to the nature of his prev job where he had to be on phone for long hours and that his health "suffers", but ask "why didn't you call?" on the topic of "women have needs too", asks me whether it would be the last time he sees of me, yet never set a date & time to ask me out.
Though he did once out of a sudden sms, ask me to go along with him the next day for something he needs to handle & due to the confusion of all these mixed signals, i didn't reply. And hours later he suddenly told me that he couldn't make it either. Days after, he told me he had gotten his stuff done already. And when i assume that he had forgotten all abt wanting to meet me for the 2nd time, he gets offended and said dun ever think that he's forgotten abt it all. He sometimes takes hours to reply a sms and sometimes never replying at all. After several weeks of non-contact, he initiated contact thru sms passing on a forwarded joke when he had previously told me he's not one into such impersonal stuff as he "type all the messages personally" himself. And then after some exchange, he sms "not to expect anything from you but you have not been forgotten".
Tell me, what kind of guy do you see here?
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come on...
why do u focus ur time on only one guy?
haha...
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a lone ranger / a hermit
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Originally posted by hiphop2009:
come on...
why do u focus ur time on only one guy?
haha...
haha true. delete him! Yay..
but i still curious larh.. need more opinions so that I can differentiate who are the ones in future worth my brain cells thinking abt.
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a bit of common sense larrrhhhh....
eh...those who wont say MIA jiu MIA lo....
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he's not clear on what he wants. leave it to him
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indecisive and weird man.
not sincere at all..
he is definitely one who loves mind games..
definitely one who is unsure of himself.
jerks!!
mixed signals..
hate it..
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he is trying to be all cool and mysterious !
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issit the same guy u are referring to in whinehouse? haha..
what i think of such a guy?
he needs to sort himself out.. lol.. he's messed up, really.. confused..
after he's done and knows what he wants, he'll thank you for it..
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Originally posted by purpledragon84:
issit the same guy u are referring to in whinehouse? haha..
what i think of such a guy?
he needs to sort himself out.. lol.. he's messed up, really.. confused..
after he's done and knows what he wants, he'll thank you for it..
how and why would he thank me?
well... the one in the whinehouse was because of another reason which i'm not going into right now... just that taking the above account as it is, i want to know what do you guys think?
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lets just put it this way.. u wun want to be going into a relationship with a guy who doesn't even know what he wants..
look at his responses.. hours to reply sms, weeks of non-contact, seldom initiate a date(or is it "never"?)
if one day he wakes up his idea and realises u are not the one for him, both are gonna suffer.. so might as well nip this in the bud.. or rather, dun even start it altogether..
before i go on.. what do YOU think of such a guy? sometimes it's better to trust your own feelings than ours..
tell him what you think of his weird attitude.. and if he's really keen on having a r/s with you, he should get his ideas together and not be such an ass about it..
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i wanted to get to know him as a friend first but looking at it, i think it's hard.
i just wanted a more objective view from everyone so that i may know what i may have overlooked and to remind myself what to look out for in future.
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Lets just say that someone whom's interested would not act like this.
Forgive me, but I'd say that you might have his interest once, considering how he went all the way to meet you and even expressed his interest! But he probably lost interest halfway, and didn't know how to properly bail instead of leaving things hanging.
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He is an extremely busy man. ;p
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haha.. this guy has succeeded in making u wonder about whether he likes u anot, to the extent that u will seek the opinions of others. so therefore, i think this guy knows how to get in girls' good books. probably a successful player.
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a self centered guy thinking that the wwhole world revolves around him and him only doing things as he deems fit.
ignore such a guy else take him as a normal friend will do.
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regarding what maxtor said.. maybe that guy is a player.. trying to use the age-old method of "half cold half warm".. lol..
now i see it does work.. coz like maxtor said, u really have come here ask other ppl opinion..? haha..
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Originally posted by maxtor:
haha.. this guy has succeeded in making u wonder about whether he likes u anot, to the extent that u will seek the opinions of others. so therefore, i think this guy knows how to get in girls' good books. probably a successful player.
That's what I thought too. But because I'm not a guy, I wouldn't know instinctively what a guy is thinking, that is why I have come here to appeal to all the good guys out here to help me decipher, what's a guy's take on such a guy's actions.
I admit it might have work in the past but not on the me now :P
Thank you so much for the above precious opinions generated. I would like to hear from more gentlemen or more imput on this :)
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Originally posted by purpledragon84:
regarding what maxtor said.. maybe that guy is a player.. trying to use the age-old method of "half cold half warm".. lol..
now i see it does work.. coz like maxtor said, u really have come here ask other ppl opinion..? haha..
it only worked because i tot of him as someone caring and responsible already before hand. That is why this "half cold half warm " confuses me. No girls like a downright jerk and no girls like a guy who depend on a girl solely for approval either.
Maybe this guy is really into game-playing (i read somewhere that if you feel like it's a game, it probably is) but i'm not. For game-players, i have this to say, fine if you want to play games and i know some girls do too. But i don't toy with guys looking for sincere relationships or friendships, so go look for players of your own kind.
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does this "guy" get moody once a month?
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just to let you know, this guy is good at playin games, with words, and lettin you wonder, and wonder, and wonder, and wonder.
the health thing is BS
he doesnt know what he wants actually
he might be really busy, and have other girls out there.... so yea. talk bout convenience.maxtor is rightand this sounds like me, minus the forwarded joke, and some little stuffs -
Refer to my previous topic "How do you define a player": http://www.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/310656
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Depending on your intentions.
If you intend to seriously target him, I suggest don't, look for a better person.
If he is to be just an acquaintance, accept him as he is. Towards friends, be forgiving. They come in all manners of shape, size, and personality.
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Originally posted by deluded:
i would like to hear especially the opinions of guys.
what's your take on someone who went all the way to where you live to meet you once, but converse not regularly over the months thru sms and msn, who told you that he's obviously attracted to you and that "i shd know", one who articulates well, has experiences of friends to share, one who says he didn't like to be contacted via phone calls due to the nature of his prev job where he had to be on phone for long hours and that his health "suffers", but ask "why didn't you call?" on the topic of "women have needs too", asks me whether it would be the last time he sees of me, yet never set a date & time to ask me out.
Though he did once out of a sudden sms, ask me to go along with him the next day for something he needs to handle & due to the confusion of all these mixed signals, i didn't reply. And hours later he suddenly told me that he couldn't make it either. Days after, he told me he had gotten his stuff done already. And when i assume that he had forgotten all abt wanting to meet me for the 2nd time, he gets offended and said dun ever think that he's forgotten abt it all. He sometimes takes hours to reply a sms and sometimes never replying at all. After several weeks of non-contact, he initiated contact thru sms passing on a forwarded joke when he had previously told me he's not one into such impersonal stuff as he "type all the messages personally" himself. And then after some exchange, he sms "not to expect anything from you but you have not been forgotten".
Tell me, what kind of guy do you see here?
If u are not sure of him, why not u try to see him out more and understand more of him? Rather than not sure and thinking of jump or not jump?Hint him out for dating. Or MSN him and communicate with him more to understand more of him.
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i dun think u will like playing games but if u think he does and u like him, try this. send him a forwarded good night msg one night. and then for the next few days dun call, sms, meet him. if he sms u dun reply, he call u dun pick up. n if he asks u out just say u're busy ...... try it. it might work.
This is called an eye for an eye .. hehe ......