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New here,but i got a few questions that i need to ask.
Recently got together with a girl,well,kind of stole her from another guy la,but she loves me too,that's why i decided to ask her to be my Gf. To some of the ppl out there,she only agreed to be my gf after she broke up with her ex,we were together maybe a few days after she broke up with him.so that's why i said (kind of stole). I didn't really steal her.I went the "legal" way...
Her (ex)bf and her were having communication problems and she decided that he cudn't give her enough freedom in her life,she's in uni,(i'm her classmate now.)so we're quite young,he's working(he's much older than her) but he wants to meet her almost everyday, they have been together for less than a year but should have gone through a lot of things together more than any of her previous ones,she was really devoted to him even though they had people objecting them to be together. So for now basically she thinks that he's a bit controlling her although he loves her a lot plus always shower her with gifts and romantic surprises that she likes.And so they had a big quarrel and split up. That was when me and her started.By that time we had known each other for maybe 3plus weeks only and i did express my thoughts about her to her.But i feel that i like her a lot and that she likes me too.So i asked her to be my gf after she broke up with him and she accepted,so,we've been together for maybe one month?We've been quite happy together going out after classes or weekends,other than the fact the ex keeps on msging her ,still calling her by her very intimate names and sending her gifts,flowers.Infront of me she never or hardly replies him la,i dun question her,but i know she sometimes,sometimes only ah,does reply him when we are not together.
There was one time maybe a couple of weeks after we were togther,that she went to meet him to have a talk,they spoke for a while.The ex didn't scold her or anything,instead did the unexpected and treated her like very well.Bought her even more things and doing heart touching things only the two of them understand,somethings that involved only their memories,so i didn't really probe.Sigh~~I think she even cried...Don't ask me how i knew what happened la,i know it happened.Just like how i know things about them that happened before,my sources are kept private.
After that day,things slightly went back to normal for us,lotsa lotsa classes and projects.I was happy.She was happy,i think. Cause her ex still msg her everyday,wanting to meet.She ignored him whenever possible and told him she was too busy to meet.She also told him she loves me a lot and just want to be friends with him for now.However,i can't help having a nagging feeling that she feels she owes him and that she is or will be regretting what happened between them one day.
Then recently days back,they met up to go out for dinner.She did tell me she was meeting him,and i was pretty ok with it la.I was not really upset or anything.I don't really know what they did,but i'm pretty sure her ex still treats her like as if they were still together.I trust her but i don't know about the other guy.He might still try to get touchy feely with her.And i think he has no intention of letting her go.My friends all tell me that the way me and her started wasn't a normal way to start a relationship and that i should really be wary of them going out.Especially when they always only go out alone.Although i know they won't do anything everytime they meet.Maybe hugs at the most,like goodbye hugs,he holding her waist ,then try to hold her hand like that. Like normally how us guys try to take advantage of girls.=)Confirm nothing more physical though.
So i got a few questions.
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
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Originally posted by Sailinna:
New here,but i got a few questions that i need to ask.
Recently got together with a girl,well,kind of stole her from another guy la,but she loves me too,that's why i decided to ask her to be my Gf. To some of the ppl out there,she only agreed to be my gf after she broke up with her ex,we were together maybe a few days after she broke up with him.so that's why i said (kind of stole). I didn't really steal her.I went the "legal" way...
Her (ex)bf and her were having communication problems and she decided that he cudn't give her enough freedom in her life,she's in uni,(i'm her classmate now.)so we're quite young,he's working(he's much older than her) but he wants to meet her almost everyday, they have been together for less than a year but should have gone through a lot of things together more than any of her previous ones,she was really devoted to him even though they had people objecting them to be together. So for now basically she thinks that he's a bit controlling her although he loves her a lot plus always shower her with gifts and romantic surprises that she likes.And so they had a big quarrel and split up. That was when me and her started.By that time we had known each other for maybe 3plus weeks only and i did express my thoughts about her to her.But i feel that i like her a lot and that she likes me too.So i asked her to be my gf after she broke up with him and she accepted,so,we've been together for maybe one month?We've been quite happy together going out after classes or weekends,other than the fact the ex keeps on msging her ,still calling her by her very intimate names and sending her gifts,flowers.Infront of me she never or hardly replies him la,i dun question her,but i know she sometimes,sometimes only ah,does reply him when we are not together.
There was one time maybe a couple of weeks after we were togther,that she went to meet him to have a talk,they spoke for a while.The ex didn't scold her or anything,instead did the unexpected and treated her like very well.Bought her even more things and doing heart touching things only the two of them understand,somethings that involved only their memories,so i didn't really probe.Sigh~~I think she even cried...Don't ask me how i knew what happened la,i know it happened.Just like how i know things about them that happened before,my sources are kept private.
After that day,things slightly went back to normal for us,lotsa lotsa classes and projects.I was happy.She was happy,i think. Cause her ex still msg her everyday,wanting to meet.She ignored him whenever possible and told him she was too busy to meet.She also told him she loves me a lot and just want to be friends with him for now.However,i can't help having a nagging feeling that she feels she owes him and that she is or will be regretting what happened between them one day.
Then recently days back,they met up to go out for dinner.She did tell me she was meeting him,and i was pretty ok with it la.I was not really upset or anything.I don't really know what they did,but i'm pretty sure her ex still treats her like as if they were still together.I trust her but i don't know about the other guy.He might still try to get touchy feely with her.And i think he has no intention of letting her go.My friends all tell me that the way me and her started wasn't a normal way to start a relationship and that i should really be wary of them going out.Especially when they always only go out alone.Although i know they won't do anything everytime they meet.Maybe hugs at the most,like goodbye hugs,he holding her waist ,then try to hold her hand like that. Like normally how us guys try to take advantage of girls.=)Confirm nothing more physical though.
So i got a few questions.
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
Rebound guy.
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thru out the whole story, i dun see anything agony abt ur r/s lei...
i think main thing is the sense of security u both are giving to each other... i tink u dun feel secure every time she meet her ex... but u duwan to voice out..
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This looks like a case of "She will go back to her ex" type situation.
Give it a few more months.
Confirm.
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why u so stupid, go and kio sai
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I got a friend like you, went with another person's GF, then end up the girl very confused and stop contacting BOTH guys, another guy came in and comforted her, he didn't jio her, he just talk to her and listen to her... end up the girl fell in love with the one who came in, but the guy say needs time and need to slowly develop their R/S.
I feel this is what you should do... instead of going in and exploiting the fact that they just quarreled and R/S is abit unstable, you should be there for her, talk to her and be there for her.. girls don't love people when they're in such situation, they're just looking for someone to hold on to.
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Originally posted by charlize:
This looks like a case of "She will go back to her ex" type situation.
Give it a few more months.
Confirm.
Actually,right now i feel we are quite stable already,she has already said she just wants to be friends with him for now. Although she had agreed to meet him every now and then, I don't see her really bothering herself with him anymore. So i don't think ("She will go back to her ex" type situation.") will happen right? She does not look like those type.
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Originally posted by gigabyte14:
why u so stupid, go and kio sai
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Originally posted by Sailinna:
New here,but i got a few questions that i need to ask.
Recently got together with a girl,well,kind of stole her from another guy la,but she loves me too,that's why i decided to ask her to be my Gf. To some of the ppl out there,she only agreed to be my gf after she broke up with her ex,we were together maybe a few days after she broke up with him.so that's why i said (kind of stole). I didn't really steal her.I went the "legal" way...
Her (ex)bf and her were having communication problems and she decided that he cudn't give her enough freedom in her life,she's in uni,(i'm her classmate now.)so we're quite young,he's working(he's much older than her) but he wants to meet her almost everyday, they have been together for less than a year but should have gone through a lot of things together more than any of her previous ones,she was really devoted to him even though they had people objecting them to be together. So for now basically she thinks that he's a bit controlling her although he loves her a lot plus always shower her with gifts and romantic surprises that she likes.And so they had a big quarrel and split up. That was when me and her started.By that time we had known each other for maybe 3plus weeks only and i did express my thoughts about her to her.But i feel that i like her a lot and that she likes me too.So i asked her to be my gf after she broke up with him and she accepted,so,we've been together for maybe one month?We've been quite happy together going out after classes or weekends,other than the fact the ex keeps on msging her ,still calling her by her very intimate names and sending her gifts,flowers.Infront of me she never or hardly replies him la,i dun question her,but i know she sometimes,sometimes only ah,does reply him when we are not together.
There was one time maybe a couple of weeks after we were togther,that she went to meet him to have a talk,they spoke for a while.The ex didn't scold her or anything,instead did the unexpected and treated her like very well.Bought her even more things and doing heart touching things only the two of them understand,somethings that involved only their memories,so i didn't really probe.Sigh~~I think she even cried...Don't ask me how i knew what happened la,i know it happened.Just like how i know things about them that happened before,my sources are kept private.
After that day,things slightly went back to normal for us,lotsa lotsa classes and projects.I was happy.She was happy,i think. Cause her ex still msg her everyday,wanting to meet.She ignored him whenever possible and told him she was too busy to meet.She also told him she loves me a lot and just want to be friends with him for now.However,i can't help having a nagging feeling that she feels she owes him and that she is or will be regretting what happened between them one day.
Then recently days back,they met up to go out for dinner.She did tell me she was meeting him,and i was pretty ok with it la.I was not really upset or anything.I don't really know what they did,but i'm pretty sure her ex still treats her like as if they were still together.I trust her but i don't know about the other guy.He might still try to get touchy feely with her.And i think he has no intention of letting her go.My friends all tell me that the way me and her started wasn't a normal way to start a relationship and that i should really be wary of them going out.Especially when they always only go out alone.Although i know they won't do anything everytime they meet.Maybe hugs at the most,like goodbye hugs,he holding her waist ,then try to hold her hand like that. Like normally how us guys try to take advantage of girls.=)Confirm nothing more physical though.
So i got a few questions.
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
My 1st relationship was like urs. I got him from another gal when the gal controlled him too much. We broke up for other reasons la.I feel that ur girl knows what she wants. But sometimes things can be out of control. I remembered once the gal threathened to cut wrist if he wants to be with me n make a big fuss at our BBQ gathering.
The 1st u need to ask urself , do u trust her?
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
U are normal.
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
No need to worry. bu shi ni de jiu bu shi ni de. shi ni de jiu pao bu diao.
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
This is a valid reason in all relationship! Trust n Respect. Dun give freedom due to no trust.
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
View out our concern nicely to her, u dun mind her to meet him but u also will get jealous. Let her know your thoughts.
Can she also take it if u go out alone with ur gals' friend?
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
That depends on how well u know her. There will be a reason behind if she leaves u soon, right?
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
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I would like to say she is screwing with you and great for you but....ex bf getting some poontang how can lielat???
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Originally posted by Sailinna:
Actually,right now i feel we are quite stable already,she has already said she just wants to be friends with him for now. Although she had agreed to meet him every now and then, I don't see her really bothering herself with him anymore. So i don't think ("She will go back to her ex" type situation.") will happen right? She does not look like those type.
You obviously don't know what girls want.
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Originally posted by Short Ninja:
I would like to say she is screwing with you and great for you but....ex bf getting some poontang how can lielat???
Say like this very bad leh -
Originally posted by charlize:
You obviously don't know what girls want.
Can explain?
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Dun say like this la.. charlize.. he he
Not all women want what we think they want. LoL. They may want what we think they dont want but want what they think we think they want what we think they dont want.
Thats just how it is.. its one big ass constant course correction when u captain that boat with her on board.
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Girls are fickle-minded. And, I think you should be on your guards.
We won't know what her ex-bf will do to her. Be it hug or goodbye hug, it's not that nice.
That EX got the upper hand, He knows that your gf will meet up with him. Even when you are with her. That's why, he don't feel upset at all.
And, Why would you gf meet up with him still? ( A big question mark)
You need to learn how to pamper girls if you really wanna keep the r/s going.
Wishing you all the best (:
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Its very hard to judge from your 1sided story.
Be it whatever, you dont have a good position or good stand from what you mention.
1st, your relationship with her is not really stable, the way it started all this. The love you all built it's not strong at all, compared to your gf and her EX. They still go out equals to she had not got over him. That's what i think from the actions she did.
Do you still want to continue on? I believe the answer is yes, if i were in your shoes, i will try to walk down the path i guess. Even though its so dark..
Try talking to her, ask her to make a decisions. Tell her you dont see a need that she meet her ex so often, or go with her to meet her ex.
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I had an experience like yours too.
New here,but i got a few questions that i need to ask.
Recently got together with a girl,well,kind of stole her from another guy la,but she loves me too,that's why i decided to ask her to be my Gf. To some of the ppl out there,she only agreed to be my gf after she broke up with her ex,we were together maybe a few days after she broke up with him.so that's why i said (kind of stole). I didn't really steal her.I went the "legal" way...
Same thing, i thought it was 'legal' too. But apparently, she couldn't let go of her ex.
Her (ex)bf and her were having communication problems and she decided that he cudn't give her enough freedom in her life,she's in uni,(i'm her classmate now.)so we're quite young,he's working(he's much older than her) but he wants to meet her almost everyday, they have been together for less than a year but should have gone through a lot of things together more than any of her previous ones,she was really devoted to him even though they had people objecting them to be together. So for now basically she thinks that he's a bit controlling her although he loves her a lot plus always shower her with gifts and romantic surprises that she likes.And so they had a big quarrel and split up. That was when me and her started.By that time we had known each other for maybe 3plus weeks only and i did express my thoughts about her to her.But i feel that i like her a lot and that she likes me too.So i asked her to be my gf after she broke up with him and she accepted,so,we've been together for maybe one month?Same, she wanna meet up with her ex almost everyday too.
We've been quite happy together going out after classes or weekends,other than the fact the ex keeps on msging her ,still calling her by her very intimate names and sending her gifts,flowers.Infront of me she never or hardly replies him la,i dun question her,but i know she sometimes,sometimes only ah,does reply him when we are not together.
Yeah, this situation was the same as mine. She replies him, but refuses to tell me.
There was one time maybe a couple of weeks after we were togther,that she went to meet him to have a talk,they spoke for a while.The ex didn't scold her or anything,instead did the unexpected and treated her like very well.Bought her even more things and doing heart touching things only the two of them understand,somethings that involved only their memories,so i didn't really probe.Sigh~~I think she even cried...Don't ask me how i knew what happened la,i know it happened.Just like how i know things about them that happened before,my sources are kept private.
Oh yea, this sounds familiar.. For me, after she met up and cried, I gave up totally. There's no point continuing anymore, she couldn't be happy.
After that day,things slightly went back to normal for us,lotsa lotsa classes and projects.I was happy.She was happy,i think. Cause her ex still msg her everyday,wanting to meet.She ignored him whenever possible and told him she was too busy to meet.She also told him she loves me a lot and just want to be friends with him for now.However,i can't help having a nagging feeling that she feels she owes him and that she is or will be regretting what happened between them one day.
Lies, lies, lies. She can't let go. I feel that she probably treats you as a rebound guy.
Then recently days back,they met up to go out for dinner.She did tell me she was meeting him,and i was pretty ok with it la.I was not really upset or anything.I don't really know what they did,but i'm pretty sure her ex still treats her like as if they were still together.I trust her but i don't know about the other guy.He might still try to get touchy feely with her.And i think he has no intention of letting her go.My friends all tell me that the way me and her started wasn't a normal way to start a relationship and that i should really be wary of them going out.Especially when they always only go out alone.Although i know they won't do anything everytime they meet.Maybe hugs at the most,like goodbye hugs,he holding her waist ,then try to hold her hand like that. Like normally how us guys try to take advantage of girls.=)Confirm nothing more physical though.
Gone le, you know if you still have feelings for someone, the more you see that person, the more you can't let go?
So i got a few questions.
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
Yeah, it's not normal. How could someone go into a relationship so fast after she broke?
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
Be wary, being upset is normal and a sure thing.
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
I guess she had felt that she couldn't continue with her ex anymore (maybe cos of the communication problem?) , then it just happens you were there.This happened to me too. I had the same thought as you too.
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
There's no choice, you're stuck. Even if you don't let her go out with her ex, she has her own freedom to choose, and if you don't let them go out, she will feel that you aren't giving her enough freedom. That'll be a good reason for you two to quarrel over, if she treats you as the rebound guy.
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
This, i'm not sure. But for me, i left her. I couldn't continue with it, she just couldn't be happy in the relationship anymore. A person is supposed to be happy in a relationship isn't it? If she's happy with her ex, then let her be. I left her, and she went back to her ex.
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
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I got to say....rather matured of u to leave her...instead of trying to mess them up.....no point hanging on to her i must say.....wonder why the working guy would be going after her though.....
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I got to say....rather matured of u to leave her...instead of trying to mess them up.....no point hanging on to her i must say.....wonder why the working guy would be going after her though.....
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women are good in manipulating men when in r/s
they can control you whenever they want
so, yeahhhhhhhhh
please dont kio sai, cos they will usually use you as a lifeboat, a temporary shelter, so that they will 75% run back to the previous grass where they had grazed
there is a certain forumer who has done that, but will be classified info, hur hur hur
no offense to the females, but a lot of them does this
like talking simi lanjiao still havent get over
so the guys, dont heart itchy itchy go and take the opportunity to eat some tofu, cos will not work 1
aim for some spinster who want 30k ring, hohoho
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Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:
I had an experience like yours too.
New here,but i got a few questions that i need to ask.
Recently got together with a girl,well,kind of stole her from another guy la,but she loves me too,that's why i decided to ask her to be my Gf. To some of the ppl out there,she only agreed to be my gf after she broke up with her ex,we were together maybe a few days after she broke up with him.so that's why i said (kind of stole). I didn't really steal her.I went the "legal" way...
Same thing, i thought it was 'legal' too. But apparently, she couldn't let go of her ex.
She told me she had let go already,that's why she agreed to be with me.
Her (ex)bf and her were having communication problems and she decided that he cudn't give her enough freedom in her life,she's in uni,(i'm her classmate now.)so we're quite young,he's working(he's much older than her) but he wants to meet her almost everyday, they have been together for less than a year but should have gone through a lot of things together more than any of her previous ones,she was really devoted to him even though they had people objecting them to be together. So for now basically she thinks that he's a bit controlling her although he loves her a lot plus always shower her with gifts and romantic surprises that she likes.And so they had a big quarrel and split up. That was when me and her started.By that time we had known each other for maybe 3plus weeks only and i did express my thoughts about her to her.But i feel that i like her a lot and that she likes me too.So i asked her to be my gf after she broke up with him and she accepted,so,we've been together for maybe one month?Same, she wanna meet up with her ex almost everyday too.
Nope,different here.It was him who wants to meet everyday not her.
We've been quite happy together going out after classes or weekends,other than the fact the ex keeps on msging her ,still calling her by her very intimate names and sending her gifts,flowers.Infront of me she never or hardly replies him la,i dun question her,but i know she sometimes,sometimes only ah,does reply him when we are not together.
Yeah, this situation was the same as mine. She replies him, but refuses to tell me.
She did tell me that he does still sms her a lot but even if she does reply,the messages that she replies are short and innoculus.What he wants to send,she cannot control,but she can decide what she wants to send.
There was one time maybe a couple of weeks after we were togther,that she went to meet him to have a talk,they spoke for a while.The ex didn't scold her or anything,instead did the unexpected and treated her like very well.Bought her even more things and doing heart touching things only the two of them understand,somethings that involved only their memories,so i didn't really probe.Sigh~~I think she even cried...Don't ask me how i knew what happened la,i know it happened.Just like how i know things about them that happened before,my sources are kept private.
Oh yea, this sounds familiar.. For me, after she met up and cried, I gave up totally. There's no point continuing anymore, she couldn't be happy.
Girls have sensitive characters,correct?Especially when she expected him to fly into a rage.He ended up doing something opposite,of course she will feel bad and cry at how she had treated him,right?
After that day,things slightly went back to normal for us,lotsa lotsa classes and projects.I was happy.She was happy,i think. Cause her ex still msg her everyday,wanting to meet.She ignored him whenever possible and told him she was too busy to meet.She also told him she loves me a lot and just want to be friends with him for now.However,i can't help having a nagging feeling that she feels she owes him and that she is or will be regretting what happened between them one day.
Lies, lies, lies. She can't let go. I feel that she probably treats you as a rebound guy.
Like i said,she had made it very clear that she really only loves me now,to me and to him.But what i wonder is,if someone thinks that they may regret any of their decisions in the future,does it mean the actually have started regretting it already?
Then recently days back,they met up to go out for dinner.She did tell me she was meeting him,and i was pretty ok with it la.I was not really upset or anything.I don't really know what they did,but i'm pretty sure her ex still treats her like as if they were still together.I trust her but i don't know about the other guy.He might still try to get touchy feely with her.And i think he has no intention of letting her go.My friends all tell me that the way me and her started wasn't a normal way to start a relationship and that i should really be wary of them going out.Especially when they always only go out alone.Although i know they won't do anything everytime they meet.Maybe hugs at the most,like goodbye hugs,he holding her waist ,then try to hold her hand like that. Like normally how us guys try to take advantage of girls.=)Confirm nothing more physical though.
Gone le, you know if you still have feelings for someone, the more you see that person, the more you can't let go?
Well,they have only met up for a talk once and gone out for dinner another time once also only.So not much he can do to affect her right?
So i got a few questions.
1)Was the way we started considered not normal?
Yeah, it's not normal. How could someone go into a relationship so fast after she broke?
Maybe i wud like to ask the girls out there,any opinions on this? End a previous serious relationship and get into another one so quickly? Not those infatuation types,serious relationships.
2)Should i be upset and wary when she goes out with her ex so soon after she just broke up with him this way? Leaving him for me?Although she said that she just wants to be friends with him.
Be wary, being upset is normal and a sure thing.
Another question i need the girls out there to help me on.Sigh~~If you had broken up with your previous boyfriend in this way,would you dare or want to see or agree to go out with him again so soon (one month)?
3)She says i give her the freedom that her ex couldn't give,is it a really valid reason for her to be with me (we know each other not long) or she just wants a way to escape from her boyfriend and i just happen to be there?
I guess she had felt that she couldn't continue with her ex anymore (maybe cos of the communication problem?) , then it just happens you were there.This happened to me too. I had the same thought as you too.
So are you trying to say she fell in love with freedom and not me? That anyone who gave her that,could also be her boyfriend?
4)Should i let them go out again?And if she does go out with him again,how?
There's no choice, you're stuck. Even if you don't let her go out with her ex, she has her own freedom to choose, and if you don't let them go out, she will feel that you aren't giving her enough freedom. That'll be a good reason for you two to quarrel over, if she treats you as the rebound guy.
Well,for this part,i asked,it seems that she had agreed to meet him every now and then.They already arranged their next meeting,but to be confirmed by her due to her busy schedule.As in not everyday or what,but maybe once every one or two weeks.It's ok right,i feel,what harm could come out of one day in 1 or 2 weeks,when i sit beside her almost everyday in school and after school.I have more time with her,so advantage to me?
5)My friend she warned me that she could leave me very soon if the other guy refuses to give up.She said if my gf could leave him so quickly after knowing me for only such a short period of time,it could be just that she found something in me that she wants for now.But will go back to him once she's tired of me.Is it true?What comes fast goes even faster?She will regret breaking with him?Or she already regret?We're still quite happy together now.
This, i'm not sure. But for me, i left her. I couldn't continue with it, she just couldn't be happy in the relationship anymore. A person is supposed to be happy in a relationship isn't it? If she's happy with her ex, then let her be. I left her, and she went back to her ex.
This part,i cannot be sure also,because,i have many surrounding friends telling me different stories and experiences.Some say,she cannot let him go that's why she still agrees to meet him,but i feel that when she's with me,she's happy.She enjoys being with me.I just worry what will happen if the guy continues to stay around.I also wonder why she does not just tell him not to disturb her anymore and to let her be.Sometimes i wonder,under this type of circumstances,is it even wise for them to stay as friends?Won't it be a faster and easier way to cut him off?Any help here?
6)Anyone got any similar stories or experiences to share?
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Originally posted by mightygirl:
Girls are fickle-minded. And, I think you should be on your guards.
We won't know what her ex-bf will do to her. Be it hug or goodbye hug, it's not that nice.
That EX got the upper hand, He knows that your gf will meet up with him. Even when you are with her. That's why, he don't feel upset at all.
And, Why would you gf meet up with him still? ( A big question mark)
You need to learn how to pamper girls if you really wanna keep the r/s going.
Wishing you all the best (:
Why does the EX have the upper hand? She will only meet him every now and then,once maybe every 1-2 weeks,but i meet her almost everyday in school and weekends,shouldn't it be me that has the upper hand?
As for why she wants to meet him,maybe like she says,she still wants to be friends with him? However,i do feel that i am worried not about her intentions but the other guy's motive for still asking her out,i mean if you girlfriend broke up with you this way,you won't want to see her so soon also right?Likewise the girl too,would you dare/want to or even agree to meet up so soon after this type of breakup?So i do feel cutting totally off any contact might be better,but it seems like this never crossed her mind,she wants him to still stay as a friend.Why? I really don't know.
As for the pamper part,the guy is already working,this i might not be able to match him pound for pound now.What he can do,send flowers,expensive gifts and all even after they broke up,i quite unable to do now and as for the way he treats her,it seems that he is very doting on her.
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Originally posted by Sailinna:
Why does the EX have the upper hand? She will only meet him every now and then,once maybe every 1-2 weeks,but i meet her almost everyday in school and weekends,shouldn't it be me that has the upper hand?
As for why she wants to meet him,maybe like she says,she still wants to be friends with him? However,i do feel that i am worried not about her intentions but the other guy's motive for still asking her out,i mean if you girlfriend broke up with you this way,you won't want to see her so soon also right?Likewise the girl too,would you dare/want to or even agree to meet up so soon after this type of breakup?So i do feel cutting totally off any contact might be better,but it seems like this never crossed her mind,she wants him to still stay as a friend.Why? I really don't know.
As for the pamper part,the guy is already working,this i might not be able to match him pound for pound now.What he can do,send flowers,expensive gifts and all even after they broke up,i quite unable to do now and as for the way he treats her,it seems that he is very doting on her.
sailinna,
If your wife sleeps with your every night on the same bed.. is it ok for her to go dating with another man ?
How about you stop behaving like a wussy and start behaving like a real man ?
If you don't like the guy to keep contacting her.. just tell her straight.
If she really loves you.. she will give up the useless "friendship" with her ex.
No wonder you're only qualified to be a "rebound guy".
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It is alrite for her to keep in contact with her Ex including that she has no feeling for him but from the way u put it..i tink she still have some feeling for him.
U either fight back hard to just be friend with her.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
sailinna,
If your wife sleeps with your every night on the same bed.. is it ok for her to go dating with another man ?
How about you stop behaving like a wussy and start behaving like a real man ?
If you don't like the guy to keep contacting her.. just tell her straight.
If she really loves you.. she will give up the useless "friendship" with her ex.
No wonder you're only qualified to be a "rebound guy".
jojobeach,It's not about being a wussy or not behaving like a real man.
Of course i would have expressed my thoughs that i don't really like the idea of them meeting,but if i were to control her now,wouldn't it make me like him? I would be restricting her freedom,which i don't want to and like TalkToTheScreen has said,if i do,it would be giving the other guy a chance,right?