How Close is Too Close
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i need your help guys..im attached to a beautiful girl who looks like an angel.right now i am studying overseas and shes in singapore so its hard for us to meet up often,but i do love her and she loves me.
there is just this one issue.she never goes out with other guys alone,most of her guy friends i have met when i was in singapore and she introduced me to them.but there is this one guy she often meets alone.
she met the guy after getting attached to me only.but they go out like every other week and stuff,which irks me.cause she doesnt go out with even her close guy friends that she knows for years that much.
i can still be ok with that but its the physical contact that she has with the guy that irks me.her best friend,she tells everything to and her best friend also tells me the stuff that my gf tells her.some others i got from reading her blog which she doesnt know i know..
examples of the kind of physical contact that guy has with my gf.
1)her best friend told me how my gf told her once the guy caressed her lips saying how come her lips are so dry..
2)pinched her thigh when she teased him
3)played with her hair n ears
4)pinch her hips
5)once chased her across takashimaya the fountain and carried her over the shoulder and stuff
6)smacked her butt when they were teasing each other
7)recently when the guy was sending my gf back home(my gf usually takes her own transport like mrt and bus home when shes out with her other friends,but the guy always insists that when a girl is out with him,he is responsible for her safety,so he always sends her home by cab)..anyways in the cab ride,the guy was sleeping on my gf's lap..
do you think im just being paranoid?or is this kind of physical contact means something is up..my personal opinion is a girl will never let a guy touch her like that unless shes atttracted to him,but i dont know..any advice guys?
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the girl's double timing you, this is definitely too close.
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oh forgot to add, get some people to give the guy a beating.
fking bastard. -
have u even told her u r uncomfortable with their actions ?
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dats definitely too close. try telling her that you don't like it, like get her to understand that she would also not like you to do such stuff to yr other girl friends. im sure she'll stop if she really gets it
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oh forgot to add..the guy even bite her on her shoulder before leaving a mark..the thing is if i say anything my gf might say the guy is just playful,etc,etc..
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The gf never tried to push him away? I would say that she is enjoying the attention to a certain extent, especially since you are not there to be with her.
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Originally posted by hurtboy85:
oh forgot to add..the guy even bite her on her shoulder before leaving a mark..the thing is if i say anything my gf might say the guy is just playful,etc,etc..
"if"
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the thing is, have you even spoke to your girlfriend about it.
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what i mean by that is, how you feel.
Furthermore, the fact that you being overseas doesnt help.
It would seem that you have been replaced and that she's real comfortable with him to this extent (which is unacceptable to many - traditional asians, modern and open minded asians)
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when people look at them doing their "thang" and you're just standing by, who will they think is her boyfriend? you ought to voice your concerns or opinion or whatever, you can't expect shit to happen just by standing there and do nothing.
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
geez even biting her shoulder? if any bloke tries that on my girlfriend (if i have one
), the next time he tries biting her shoulder there wouldn't even be teeth marks cos he'll have none. -
Originally posted by wonderamazement:
when people look at them doing their "thang" and you're just standing by, who will they think is her boyfriend? you ought to voice your concerns or opinion or whatever, you can't expect shit to happen just by standing there and do nothing.
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
geez even biting her shoulder? if any bloke tries that on my girlfriend (if i have one
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the next time he tries biting her shoulder there wouldn't even be
teeth marks cos he'll have none.x2.
..Geesh, it's a "Hands off my girl approach"
but on the other hand, if she's willing, then that's the other story isn it.
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Originally posted by life-rockz:
x2.
..Geesh, it's a "Hands off my girl approach"
but on the other hand, if she's willing, then that's the other story isn it.
takes 2 hands to clap... the girl also la, tsk tsk. maybe i'll leave the girl with no teeth too. -
The least the Ts could do is to be real angry. or feel real angry now that he wants to confront them
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the thing is he's overseas...
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yea, i know, at least be angry leh, if i am him, i would have been
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take the next plane home...
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probably.
If he and her can be this close now.
Who knows what would happen later?
and she isn clean about this to the threadstarter
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TS got read not... she didn't come clean with you and you only knew of this through a 3rd party... how now?
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I would say - break up.
She had cheated already. there's no point giving her another chance.
if she is not able to wait for you when you are overseas & exercise self control, then what would happen if you and her were to get married
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yea hor, would this be considered as cheating? pft TS reply leh...
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ya..i was extremly pissed when my gf's best friend told me about this and i checked her blog..i told my gf's bestfriend that im gonna bash that guy up..and she was like,the guy is a muaythai practitioner who owns a bodyguard agency or some shit..and she was also like,your gf lets him,so its not the guys fault.haiz..i dunno wat to do..
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what i would suggest.
- Call her
- tell her this issue
- tell her what you know
- see her response.
My bet, "she would say, let's end this relationship" -
Originally posted by hurtboy85:
ya..i was extremly pissed when my gf's best friend told me about this and i checked her blog..i told my gf's bestfriend that im gonna bash that guy up..and she was like,the guy is a muaythai practitioner who owns a bodyguard agency or some shit..and she was also like,your gf lets him,so its not the guys fault.haiz..i dunno wat to do..
it is also true that ur girlfriend did not object. Maybe both of you still too young to want to settle down?
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yo, have fun wearing that green cap.