Just need some advices..
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i..kinda broke up with my gf today...I dont even know what i have done. I treat her nice,i make her happy i love her so much. Then one day she just told me she's thinking about her ex bf and said to me she misses him. I really dunno what to say..i felt so sad.
Sometimes i really wonder whether am i just a stand-in for her ex bf...she always said to me she love me the most and would never leave me. But today when i ask her whether what she had said in the past is true,she just told me she love me now as a friend and would never abandon me..im really confused..i dont know what is she trying to say..
sometimes,she compares me with her ex bf and say i should change and stuff..she..always talk abt the bad points in me...like if i have some pimples,she would say why i didnt take care of my face and everything. But if she got a pimple..i ignored it and pretend its not there...she never talk about my good points...i nvr once heard her say i dress nicely(even though i had alr tried my hardest to dress my best) or say im good looking,kind caring and everything...only when i ask her then she would say..
when we first got together,she was so....sweet and everything..but now,she has changed...so fast...we were once so loving..i dunno...should i blame myself or blame her..i really dont wan this relationship to end,but she said she still likes her ex bf..i really really really dont know what to do anymore..
parn,hurry and tell me what to do..haha ur advice can be quite..useful sometimes..haha..));
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Simple solution to a simple problem.
Move on, it was never yours to begin with.
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Originally posted by Detached:
Simple solution to a simple problem.
Move on, it was never yours to begin with.
its easy for u to say...its really easy for ppl to tell other ppl to move on when they broke up...but its really hard to do so...i just love her so much..i would do anything for her..even die for her..its very very hard to move on..i just feel so lost now...when im still with her..i would msg her every single day and chat abt everything..now to think of spending the rest of time not chatting with her..its...like so..unknown...so new...so strange..strange like she would not be there anymore when i need someone to talk to...
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Originally posted by Maith:
i..kinda broke up with my gf today...I dont even know what i have done. I treat her nice,i make her happy i love her so much. Then one day she just told me she's thinking about her ex bf and said to me she misses him. I really dunno what to say..i felt so sad.
Sometimes i really wonder whether am i just a stand-in for her ex bf...she always said to me she love me the most and would never leave me. But today when i ask her whether what she had said in the past is true,she just told me she love me now as a friend and would never abandon me..im really confused..i dont know what is she trying to say..
sometimes,she compares me with her ex bf and say i should change and stuff..she..always talk abt the bad points in me...like if i have some pimples,she would say why i didnt take care of my face and everything. But if she got a pimple..i ignored it and pretend its not there...she never talk about my good points...i nvr once heard her say i dress nicely(even though i had alr tried my hardest to dress my best) or say im good looking,kind caring and everything...only when i ask her then she would say..
when we first got together,she was so....sweet and everything..but now,she has changed...so fast...we were once so loving..i dunno...should i blame myself or blame her..i really dont wan this relationship to end,but she said she still likes her ex bf..i really really really dont know what to do anymore..
parn,hurry and tell me what to do..haha ur advice can be quite..useful sometimes..haha..));
How long have you been taking her for granted? Like living and making your relationship with her into a DAILY ROUTINE?What you think you have done for her in your mind/heart may not be what you have REALLY achieved together with her in your relationship.
Taking care the fire burning in the relationship is your duty as the guy in the relationship, and you should not have noticed it only when the fire is gone and the relationship is cold.
Maybe this is the lesson that you need to learn it through the hard way.
So do you know what you need to do?
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Originally posted by Maith:
its easy for u to say...its really easy for ppl to tell other ppl to move on when they broke up...but its really hard to do so...i just love her so much..i would do anything for her..even die for her..its very very hard to move on..i just feel so lost now...when im still with her..i would msg her every single day and chat abt everything..now to think of spending the rest of time not chatting with her..its...like so..unknown...so new...so strange..strange like she would not be there anymore when i need someone to talk to...
What you receive here may simply be words, but the advice forumers give, are not without shadows of their own past, no?
I know that losing the one thing your heart desires is painful and personal, but since this is her decision, just learn to respect it and let go. Make new friends. Work your ass off. Keep busy. Let time do its work. You'll be fine even though you may not believe it yet. Cheer up.
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Originally posted by parn:
How long have you been taking her for granted? Like living and making your relationship with her into a DAILY ROUTINE?What you think you have done for her in your mind/heart may not be what you have REALLY achieved together with her in your relationship.
Taking care the fire burning in the relationship is your duty as the guy in the relationship, and you should not have noticed it only when the fire is gone and the relationship is cold.
Maybe this is the lesson that you need to learn it through the hard way.
So do you know what you need to do?
i have try everything..and i really mean everything..but as times past,she become more and more distant from me...this began around the last two weeks..i was talking to her and just suddenly told me she misses her ex...
i just dunno why was she thinking abt him..when she is alr with me...i really dont get it..why cant she just let him go..forget the past and think abt the future instead...im really confused...);
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Originally posted by Maith:
i have try everything..and i really mean everything..but as times past,she become more and more distant from me...this began around the last two weeks..i was talking to her and just suddenly told me she misses her ex...
i just dunno why was she thinking abt him..when she is alr with me...i really dont get it..why cant she just let him go..forget the past and think abt the future instead...im really confused...);
You may be trying in the wrong direction. It would help if you can tell us how you tried?Even if she is with you or you're with her, it doesn't means that if both of you don't bother to do anything for each other, your relationship will just remained the same as before.
Being together with each other is the reason why you should be doing something for each other, cos you need to be together first to be able to start doing something for each other.
NO? Am I wrong or you don't realised it?
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Originally posted by parn:
You may be trying in the wrong direction. It would help if you can tell us how you tried?Even if she is with you or you're with her, it doesn't means that if both of you don't bother to do anything for each other, your relationship will just remained the same as before.
Being together with each other is the reason why you should be doing something for each other, cos you need to be together first to be able to start doing something for each other.
NO? Am I wrong or you don't realised it?
i canot rmb the things i did..im not in e state of mind now to think abt all this..somehow i think she is the one who created all this..
I once asked her whehter she still loves me and she would she dont ask me this ok. The other time i called her and ask her to choose between me and her ex..she just said dont do this ok.
Somehow i just feel like she is trying to escape from the situation...i really wan t osettleeverthing..but she's the one who keeps delaying things and making it worse..am i wrong to think like this..?
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爱情是开始的很甜蜜
结�的没��
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Originally posted by Maith:
i have try everything..and i really mean everything..but as times past,she become more and more distant from me...this began around the last two weeks..i was talking to her and just suddenly told me she misses her ex...
i just dunno why was she thinking abt him..when she is alr with me...i really dont get it..why cant she just let him go..forget the past and think abt the future instead...im really confused...);
Clearly u and her are on the diff frequency... -
Originally posted by Maith:
i canot rmb the things i did..im not in e state of mind now to think abt all this..somehow i think she is the one who created all this..
I once asked her whehter she still loves me and she would she dont ask me this ok. The other time i called her and ask her to choose between me and her ex..she just said dont do this ok.
Somehow i just feel like she is trying to escape from the situation...i really wan t osettleeverthing..but she's the one who keeps delaying things and making it worse..am i wrong to think like this..?
Do you believe me if I tell you things would've turned out to be alot better if you have done your duty?As the guy in the relationship, don't you think you should be carrying a greater responsiblity and blame for the failure of this relationship?
I can't imagined how you can tell me you want to settle everything? What do you want to settle?
It's not like she is owns by you even though she was your girlfriend.
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Originally posted by Q.C.Pak:
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爱情是有时间性的。
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1. Take one of this
2. Hit her repeatedly until she becomes like this.
3. ????
4. Profit!
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Originally posted by parn:
Do you believe me if I tell you things would've turned out to be alot better if you have done your duty?As the guy in the relationship, don't you think you should be carrying a greater responsiblity and blame for the failure of this relationship?
I can't imagined how you can tell me you want to settle everything? What do you want to settle?
It's not like she is owns by you even though she was your girlfriend.
i wan to settle the things between me and her ex. I wanted her to make the choice,but she kept avoiding it. what can i do..i just wan to know her decision,why is it so hard...
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Originally posted by quag.Mire097:
爱情是有时间性的。
�得太早，或太晚，都�行。
结�的��其实很简�。
爱情其实都没有对或错。�有误会...
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ups for u
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问世界情为何物。。。
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ups for you
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Maith,
There is something you lack and it is possibly your biggest FLAW. This flaw will plague all your future relationship if you continue to not do something about it.
You may have everything on the outside.
But you don't know how to make your girl feel SPECIAL.
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Sorry bro, but u shld move on, seems shes made her choice loud and clear.
REM this: It takes 2 to tango, its BOTH your and her responsibility to make the relship work. Its never a point where u guy u work and keep the fire or vice versa. A relship is called such becos 2 parties work on it. And case in point, if someone is in love w u, u would not be compared w any other person (granted girls like to improve their man, but this is different).
BEING A STAND-IN SUCKS, BUT STAYING ON A,B,C,D,E,(?)...UCKS
Sorry bro, but the truth heals as well as it hurts.
Take the route of "i can find better love since i alr can love so well" :) Be confident man, rem, a relship is for the long term.
I'm a much much happier man now since I took my own advice.
To Maith's gf (or ex) if u r reading this, im responding to his thread in this manner cos thats the side of the story i have, but if u truly love this man u r with now, time to sit down and work things out. :)
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sigh...nvm after 3 cups of vodka plus 7up,my head is completely cleared. I know what to do now. thanks for all ur advices,including some nonsense ones *hint hint at fatone* .
:D
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Originally posted by Maith:
sigh...nvm after 3 cups of vodka plus 7up,my head is completely cleared. I know what to do now. thanks for all ur advices,including some nonsense ones *hint hint at fatone* .
:D
WTF
my advice was excellent man.
so did you hit heR?
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Originally posted by Maith:
its easy for u to say...its really easy for ppl to tell other ppl to move on when they broke up...but its really hard to do so...i just love her so much..i would do anything for her..even die for her..its very very hard to move on..i just feel so lost now...when im still with her..i would msg her every single day and chat abt everything..now to think of spending the rest of time not chatting with her..its...like so..unknown...so new...so strange..strange like she would not be there anymore when i need someone to talk to...
So you're the only one who seen heartaches? And your pain is greater than the rest of us?Seriously, time for some self-reflection.
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Originally posted by CQ:
Sorry bro, but u shld move on, seems shes made her choice loud and clear.
REM this: It takes 2 to tango, its BOTH your and her responsibility to make the relship work. Its never a point where u guy u work and keep the fire or vice versa. A relship is called such becos 2 parties work on it. And case in point, if someone is in love w u, u would not be compared w any other person (granted girls like to improve their man, but this is different).
BEING A STAND-IN SUCKS, BUT STAYING ON A,B,C,D,E,(?)...UCKS
Sorry bro, but the truth heals as well as it hurts.
Take the route of "i can find better love since i alr can love so well" :) Be confident man, rem, a relship is for the long term.
I'm a much much happier man now since I took my own advice.
To Maith's gf (or ex) if u r reading this, im responding to his thread in this manner cos thats the side of the story i have, but if u truly love this man u r with now, time to sit down and work things out. :)
A,B,C,D,E,(?)...UCKS? haha dont really understand this part. But i know what u're trying to say,thanks anyway. (:
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Originally posted by fatone:
WTF
my advice was excellent man.
so did you hit heR?
yes,i did! i smashed her head inside out with a sledge hammer! -.- happy now?