I don't know what to think of this
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Originally posted by Jessica fann:
I am staying in the same house with my boyfriend. Came home one day early from work and entered the bedroom only to catch my boyfriend with his pants down. Not with another woman but instead masturbating himself while watching porn over the internet.
I felt so upset. Shouldn't I be the only one he finds desirable? Why should he be doing this while looking at the naked body of some other girls?
I don't know if it is right for me to feel upset or am I just being too sensitive?
think of it this way.would you prefer him to find a hooker or someone else ( other than you alone) to satisfy his sexual urges, or masturbating to pornographic materials?
which is more dangerous and traitorous?
everyone has varying degree of sexual needs.... and usually, men have higher amount of those than their female counterparts.
as long as your bf does not betray you in real life, there's little wrong with him masturbating to himself. pornography is probably just an external stimuli employed to enhance his sexual fantasies/pleasure.
please look at him as a whole, and not just pick on his "bad" points. i'm sure overall, he's a nice guy, or you wouldn't have been with him.
overlook his little shortcomings. embrace his greater goodness. then your life will be happier.
cheers! :D
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Originally posted by Jessica fann:
But fantasising is just a small step away from actually carrying out the action itself, isn't it?
No.
I think everyone of us did fantasize about other people (celebrities, pornstar, whatever) as well, even though we have our own mates. I think it's perfectly fine.
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He is "hungry". Are you willing to give it to him whenever he needs it? No right? coz you'll tell him you are too tired, no mood, etc... If thats so, what is he going to do with his urge? Recite buddha scriptures ah? Of coz the easiest way is to wank it out lor.
If you dont want that to happen, maybe you can watch a porn flick yourself and find out what your bf likes.
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Are you serious!? I wonder what's his reaction... I probably think he couldn't wait. Maybe.
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Originally posted by tiera:
i feel sad for ur bf. i really do.
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hi jess,
I understand that u are hurt. Every women wants their bf & hubby to be devoted to them. Catching him doing this kind of stuff makes u feel that he is not 100% in love/devoted to u. . He can be doing it & fantasing of someone else does not make him more prone to cheat on u. Fantasing is healthy. Every one does that. One day u will too. I'm sure he is still v much in love with u, and finds u very attractive.
So don't feel hurt. Even u are Miss world , etc, u will still catch him musturbating !
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Originally posted by Jessica fann:
I am staying in the same house with my boyfriend. Came home one day early from work and entered the bedroom only to catch my boyfriend with his pants down. Not with another woman but instead masturbating himself while watching porn over the internet.
I felt so upset. Shouldn't I be the only one he finds desirable? Why should he be doing this while looking at the naked body of some other girls?
I don't know if it is right for me to feel upset or am I just being too sensitive?
There's actually no right or wrong in this kind of scenario.It all depends on you actually. If you really mind and felt uncomfortable about your bf's masturbation, then please let your bf know and your bf should respect you and stop this kind of activities at once if he really cared about your feelings.
Some girls mind, while others tried to act like open-minded and doesn't mind. But this is a subjective issue and the right answer for your scenario lies within what you felt when you caught him masturbating.
It's as easy as you don't like him to have piercings in his body and it's as easy as he doesn't like you to wear super revealing top.
Just let him know...and don't listen to all those masturbation supporters cos they are probably masturbaters themselves. And don't listen to those open-minded aunties cos they are not YOU and will never understand how comfortable you are feeling and experience what you are going through.
Decide for yourself and let your bf know about your uneasiness regarding his masturbation.
But let us know the outcome ok?
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You can't meet his needs.
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I see him do that I will come and watch the video together with him
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It is the guy's freedom to do his things.
The gal does not own the guy and the guy is not her slave or kid.
They are both adults and they have the freedom to decide what to do with their bodies.
If the gal is upset that the guy will stray, then the gal basically have no trust in the relationship.
If the guy want to stray, she can do nothing about it and the act of masturbation is not a sign.
If she cannot stand the idea of the guy having another gal in his mind, then she better be a nun cos it will never happen unless the guy is a gay.
It have nothing to do with love.
The gal just have to get her concept of love right in her mind and not from some drama and romance books.
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so susah for what? mail order a cuckold cage and lock him up whenever ure not around. habis cerita.
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sometime maybe we perfer a 5 min self making out
rather than a 1/2 to 1h performing exhaused body energy wastage making out (- -)
maybe he just wan a fast break ..........
we cant eat "bun all the time"
we need other souce of "food" also .....
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consider urself lucky he use masturbate as a method to relieve his lust instead of going to other gals
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why u never give him sex?
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I agree with some replies. Its better he masturbate rather than having sex with other girls. If lets say he need sex twice per day, are u willing to give it to him? If you don't, where u expect him to 'release' ? Or maybe you're too 'holy'? From what i know, After marriage, Wife doesnt give husband enough sex and thats where geylang comes along with broken families.(NOT blaming women. Man also at fault sometimes.) So cant entirely blame him. You need a pair of hands to clap. Sit and talk with him. You could have missed out something important of his needs. Or maybe he warming up waiting for you to come home only? lol