i so sad
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8th of june, a friend of mine (which i got feelings for her) birthday. I call named her H, then she got a good friend, also a friend of mine. I call her S.
On last wednesday, i received a call from S that she wants to celebrates H birthday on her actual birthday itself. Upon hearing this, i was thinking what to buy. S sugguest me buying a doremon bear for her. but for me, i was pondering that it is too common. So i abandoned this doremon. I am heading for something special and new. I want to buy her a pair of hamsters. So i ask S what type of hamster H like. S just bring me to a particular shopping center in the north and show me which one. (H and S often go out together, it happens that one day they walk past this shop, H saw this hamsters and love it very much. almost wanted to buy). WHen S told me which type of hamster, i was reluctant to buy it. coz kinda Xs! But S say that H love this very much and she say that since i wan to woo her, maybe i should buy for her this. Upon thinking. on the same day, i reserved this hamster specially for her. Hoping to make a good impression on me and i can slowly develope feelings to her.
On the same day (2 days before her birthday), i went to buy the various accessiories for the hamsters. I bought a "condominium", its king coil bed, first class food, and the biggest bathtub for the hamster. Than on the actual day i go and buy those 2 hamster which i reserved de day before...
Moreover, on the few day before which i decided to buy a hamster. i deliberately go and do research on how to take care of hamster and designed it as a mini webby format. This i took serverally night to do it. mostly do until 3am plus. and finally i completed the "project" and i give it to her on the actual day. (A CDs with a birthday annimation. hamster infomations etc... which is to be completed within 3 days)
So on the birthday party, i really wish to chat with her for more than anyone chatting with her. but than, no chance at all. She was chatting happyily with a guy. This guy, i suspect that is her bf-to-be. So i send a spy to find the truth. indeed, from S info, S admited that he is H bf-to-be. When my spy come back and report to me. i was so sad and angry. Why?
Because S did not tell me that she have a stead-to-be already and bluff me that she dun have anyone wooing her and even make used of my feeling to her, buying her de hamster beast. Until when i fouind out, it was too late. i really so regretted buying her such thing... she make use of me, cheat and make use of my feeling to H. I so sad... anyone please step into my shoes... please tell me what will you do??
Should i continue to woo H or completely give up on her.
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hmm..dun tin u should continue lor..it all depends on how much u love her...n if u mind dem cheating u..if u reali mind..den go n look 4 another new spring of yours..i'm also beri sad over 1 guy i lurve.. haix..
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Depend lor. If you really like her, then try harder. You still stand a chance.
But if I were in ur shoes, I give up coz I don't want to be involved in 3 party relationship.
Hmmm maybe S is the one who is interested in the Hamsters
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First, I would like to comment: S is quite lame.Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:8th of june, a friend of mine (which i got feelings for her) birthday. I call named her H, then she got a good friend, also a friend of mine. I call her S.
On last wednesday, i received a call from S that she wants to celebrates H birthday on her actual birthday itself. Upon hearing this, i was thinking what to buy. S sugguest me buying a doremon bear for her. but for me, i was pondering that it is too common. So i abandoned this doremon. I am heading for something special and new. I want to buy her a pair of hamsters. So i ask S what type of hamster H like. S just bring me to a particular shopping center in the north and show me which one. (H and S often go out together, it happens that one day they walk past this shop, H saw this hamsters and love it very much. almost wanted to buy). WHen S told me which type of hamster, i was reluctant to buy it. coz kinda Xs! But S say that H love this very much and she say that since i wan to woo her, maybe i should buy for her this. Upon thinking. on the same day, i reserved this hamster specially for her. Hoping to make a good impression on me and i can slowly develope feelings to her.
On the same day (2 days before her birthday), i went to buy the various accessiories for the hamsters. I bought a "condominium", its king coil bed, first class food, and the biggest bathtub for the hamster. Than on the actual day i go and buy those 2 hamster which i reserved de day before...
Moreover, on the few day before which i decided to buy a hamster. i deliberately go and do research on how to take care of hamster and designed it as a mini webby format. This i took serverally night to do it. mostly do until 3am plus. and finally i completed the "project" and i give it to her on the actual day. (A CDs with a birthday annimation. hamster infomations etc... which is to be completed within 3 days)
So on the birthday party, i really wish to chat with her for more than anyone chatting with her. but than, no chance at all. She was chatting happyily with a guy. This guy, i suspect that is her bf-to-be. So i send a spy to find the truth. indeed, from S info, S admited that he is H bf-to-be. When my spy come back and report to me. i was so sad and angry. Why?
Because S did not tell me that she have a stead-to-be already and bluff me that she dun have anyone wooing her and even make used of my feeling to her, buying her de hamster beast. Until when i fouind out, it was too late. i really so regretted buying her such thing... she make use of me, cheat and make use of my feeling to H. I so sad... anyone please step into my shoes... please tell me what will you do??
Should i continue to woo H or completely give up on her.
You probably have two choice - one is fight until she becomes attached - or to move on before more losses. Standing on poor grounds for advancement - my advice would be retreat and learn from this.
Reasons being:
I) A bf to be - I percieve this as someone she liked and likes in returned. You can't seduce a perfectly satisfied woman - art of seduction. This is very weak ground for advancement.
II) You hope to leave good impression and develop better feelings after this: This means that you are just like a normal casual friend lar? Fighting a war with untrained troops - disadvantage.
P.S: In the end: Listen to yourself.
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Well... i wouldnt advise u to carry on leh... i had tis experience b4 also and my best choice is to... give up...
Not worth to go into a going to be relationship... but, if its real difficult for u, then would advise juz treat her as a friend.. ur fren S is sme1 who will spoil ur relationship w any1.. beware.. dun trust ppl so much in this world... believe in ur own actions and heart... 
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I only want to knock ur head for buying hamsters for S!!!!
Sorry, but buying a pet for someone, n not knowing whether that person can take care of it is irresponsible of u. A pet is a lifetime commitment. It maybe cute n nice n draw squels from the girl, but after the die-down, will she continue to care for the hamsters? It's a living creature. Sorry what i am saying is not really the topic.
Anyway about S, hey... like that wanna retreat? Haven cross swords with the other guy, u are retreating already? Wah lau.... try man!
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eh kinda blur here.. do u noe S well? is S such a person? or S is trying to let u have a chance at least to fight it out with the guy? is S such a despicable person who make use of ppl? hmm...maybe she trying to give u a chance to fight it out with the guy?
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=====================================================Originally posted by dunch^noe:hmm..dun tin u should continue lor..it all depends on how much u love her...n if u mind dem cheating u..if u reali mind..den go n look 4 another new spring of yours..i'm also beri sad over 1 guy i lurve.. haix..
thanks, i give up on H liao.. but i never tell them that about this problem. Coz scare hurt them. i dun mind get hurt but dunwan my friends (be it male of female) to be sad... -
=====================================================Originally posted by ashgoh:Depend lor. If you really like her, then try harder. You still stand a chance.
But if I were in ur shoes, I give up coz I don't want to be involved in 3 party relationship.
Hmmm maybe S is the one who is interested in the Hamsters
Thanks, i already give up on her on the same day at my own beach (beach of sorrow)
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
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First, I would like to comment: S is quite lame.
You probably have two choice - one is fight until she becomes attached - or to move on before more losses. Standing on poor grounds for advancement - my advice would be retreat and learn from this.
Reasons being:
I) A bf to be - I percieve this as someone she liked and likes in returned. [b]You can't seduce a perfectly satisfied woman - art of seduction. This is very weak ground for advancement.
II) You hope to leave good impression and develop better feelings after this: This means that you are just like a normal casual friend lar? Fighting a war with untrained troops - disadvantage.
P.S: In the end: Listen to yourself.
Cheers [/b]
Thanks, i already given up on her already. i do not want to send my recruit to war. just wish her happy loh. most important is she found her 100%. She is a nice girl "in my eyes" except for S. -
=====================================================Originally posted by smurfer:Well... i wouldnt advise u to carry on leh... i had tis experience b4 also and my best choice is to... give up...
Not worth to go into a going to be relationship... but, if its real difficult for u, then would advise juz treat her as a friend.. ur fren S is sme1 who will spoil ur relationship w any1.. beware.. dun trust ppl so much in this world... believe in ur own actions and heart...
ya! i learn a lesson thru this incident. infact, i dun mine emotion hurt. So long as my friends is happy.. my sad or happy dosn't matter to mi... i just wan to do everything for my friends... be it they want to cheat me or anything? all i know that i did my part can already... Thanks.. I will be careful next time.. expecially on financial subject.. lol! -
=====================================================Originally posted by MetalGear:I only want to knock ur head for buying hamsters for S!!!!
Sorry, but buying a pet for someone, n not knowing whether that person can take care of it is irresponsible of u. A pet is a lifetime commitment. It maybe cute n nice n draw squels from the girl, but after the die-down, will she continue to care for the hamsters? It's a living creature. Sorry what i am saying is not really the topic.
Anyway about S, hey... like that wanna retreat? Haven cross swords with the other guy, u are retreating already? Wah lau.... try man!
'Nothing is worse than failing than not trying at all!'
"ouch" I buy the hamsters for H and not S. Its H birthday party. S is H best friend. S just open a celebration chalet for H only.
As for buying a hamster for her, i did ponder over this thing.. and have being considering before buying for her. Such a caring gal (H) i am sure she will dote the hamster most. Coz she really love animals (just like me)... I also tell her in my CDs that i specially make on how to take care the hamsters for her liao, saying that, if 1 day, she don't have the time for hamster, set it free to a park or a forest... DO NOT SEND TO SPCA or anywhere... Dun think i never think the escape route for the hamsters.. i did ok..
Well, about cross sword, i myself is not a hunk or what.. ya! maybe in physical i can cross sword with him. (wushu player in singapore) but for relationships, i believe that no use cross sword loh! if the gal really like a guy, no mater a 3 party do, just cannot untie the knot loh! just like a verse says, wads yours is yours, wads not yours is not yours.. its always take 2 hands to clap!..
I know what are u trying to tell me.. ask me to fight for it. I just think i back out loh! Not i ham chee or wad loh. Just that i dun wan to break her happiness... Anyway, i not handsome also.. And mostly gal looks for physical appearence and $$$.. i haf neither.. -
=====================================================Originally posted by Guy23:eh kinda blur here.. do u noe S well? is S such a person? or S is trying to let u have a chance at least to fight it out with the guy? is S such a despicable person who make use of ppl? hmm...maybe she trying to give u a chance to fight it out with the guy?
I know S and H for months only! I dunno what her motive.. maybe i really wrong her. (how i wish i really wrong her) but my feeling give me this impression. I do not know if she is gifing me a chance to fight it out with the guy. But as what i believe.. wad urs is urs, wad not urs, no matter how u fight, also not urs.. even if i manage to grab it. the other party might not b happy.. it always take 2 hand to clap! -
Anyway guys, i feel happy for your responds.. i feel encouraged. Finally i decided to give up. (but to love a person is easy, to forget a person is hard) how shd i do.. hai~ i treasure everyone wor..
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why not jio S instead
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why not jio S instead
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Come on, he like H, but ask him to jio S. Want to break an innocent ger (S) heart mah.
Man, you would try to express your feeling to her, if you know her( H ) well enough. See her reaction and know the answer. U have to try, if fallen then get up and con't with life.
There are lots of beautiful red roses in this world, but beware roses have thorn. -
gt S gt H y no E????SHE!
actualy i tink...if u like tat girl..dn worry abt she gt wat stead or wat..fight till the end lor..bt dn use in correct methods...
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Right advice from "Ah Ma", if they are not offically a couple yet, you still hava a chance loh.
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My fren here... U wldnt wanna believe wat I WOULD DO if I was U... trust me... it hurts... more to them emotionally & mentally...Originally posted by Just_Me_loh:=====================================================
thanks, i give up on H liao.. but i never tell them that about this problem. Coz scare hurt them. i dun mind get hurt but dunwan my friends (be it male of female) to be sad... I can see U r quite self-sacrificing... Dun despair... be patient... somedae a gal who truely loves U will appear... Juz dun be sad... take things in its coz...
As for H & S... leave them... U've learnt a good lesson. Unless U wanna learn more... which I dun see any reason to do so... -
now i agreeOriginally posted by loneryu00:As for H & S... leave them... U've learnt a good lesson. Unless U wanna learn more... which I dun see any reason to do so...
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LOL! U think i so easy ppl mah? if i jiou S.. i wil become a playboy liao!! cannot!Originally posted by Kupo!:why not jio S instead -
Originally posted by MagicOne:
I dun dare to take the risk. I do not wish to break a friendship either. Since she got a bf liao, i only can wait loh! I already used to it le.. i waited for a gal for 5 solid years liao. Just to wait for her to break with her bf *if any*.
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[b]why not jio S instead
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Come on, he like H, but ask him to jio S. Want to break an innocent ger (S) heart mah.
Man, you would try to express your feeling to her, if you know her( H ) well enough. See her reaction and know the answer. U have to try, if fallen then get up and con't with life.
There are lots of beautiful red roses in this world, but beware roses have thorn. [/b]
But 5 years le.. she still happy with him so i gif them their blessing loh -
ya! as i say a lot of time liao, i just dun wish to hurt both of them. I wan my friendship to be always on the SEA. and not on the seabed.. understand or not??? my friend??Originally posted by MagicOne:Right advice from "Ah Ma", if they are not offically a couple yet, you still hava a chance loh. -
Dragon girl.. E is empty ar? lol... no E lah! maybe coming out soon.. lolOriginally posted by Xiao Long Nu:gt S gt H y no E????SHE!
actualy i tink...if u like tat girl..dn worry abt she gt wat stead or wat..fight till the end lor..bt dn use in correct methods... -
aiya H got bf-to-be then what for contiuned chasing whereby she dun seem appreciate what u done for her birthday. This type of gal nt worth lah. And why must be third party of other leh? find other gal lol....