Originally posted by =-Noelle-=:my opinion is that it wouldn't be fair to your girlfriend of a few years if you chase this girl..when i was reading your post, at the beginning, it feels like a love story then when i finish reading![]()
plus she has a boyfriend too..do you have feelings for this girl? anyway my thinking is that, we shouldn't built our happiness on others'..
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what about your feelings for your girlfriend?Originally posted by sonic_seed:It's a feeling that has been brought back. In my mind recently that...I have missed my chance way back then and I'm regretted. Also she didn't show any negative signs of me approaching her despite no contact after so long.....these 2 times I went out with her..the feeling is of those experienced in courtship...n too i believe she may somehow or rather felt it too.....it's those times that when she message me stuffs that I felt .. u know those type of feeling of chasing after someone..
then the overall?Originally posted by sonic_seed:My relationship with my girl...occasionally would cold war cox she keeps on keep tab on me...like I go to jb for a spin even though I go after meeting her n sending her home...she would give me those really black face n ignore me...I know she cares but can't I have some space...sometimes I fell very cramp up...it's worse last time......
in fact we nearly broke up bout a yr ago...
When you decide to contact her, it already signal your unconscious desire to have a little break through from your current attached situation. Probably you may feel that after you got attached, old friends are forgotten - but since you mentioned that you regret upon the fact that you could have a chance back then - you are eating 'old grass'.Originally posted by sonic_seed:Recently I've manage to contact a long lost friend (bout 5 yrs) since we met.
Initially I sms her and then started calling. It's been awhile since I had a
wonderful chat (about hr plus) as I don't really like to chat long on the phone.
So during the conversation I asked her how is she now and say how much I wanted to see her.
And so opportunity came and we meetup. I went to pick up her up after her work and I'm really
happy to see her. We went for a dinner on my bike and she placed her hands on my hips. To me,
I guess if it's normal friend, one would probably place on the rider's shoulder even if she's
not a regular pillion, so why would she do that
Anyway, we had a nice chat at a small resturant and sometimes she would give me those droopy
eyes expression which I really adore. I sent her home thereafter. When I got home...I sms her
telling that how happy I am to see her and she replied she is happy too.
The next day she sms me what I'm doing and have I eaten....in my mind I was thinking....what
prompt her to message me....is it something positive....And so I gave her a call at
night and we chatted for quite awhile
Came day five since our first contact...I asked her if she wanted to come out for a supper.
She replied ok. Around night time..she asked if it's ok to see a show as it's been awhile
since she saw one. I said ok and I went to pick up again. In the cinema..occasionally we
sat quite close to each other sometimes shoulder touching...and I steal glances at her
sometimes too, but not sure whether she noticed that.
During the journey....I patted her on both her hands to signal to her whether she felt
cold or not... I did twice...but I'm wearing my gloves....is this okI mean in her
mind will something spark her mind from me? When reached her block I opt to accompany her
to her level after some pursuassion as it is way past midnight. She said ok
Ok...now here comes a problem.
1) She has a BF (a few months)
2) I have a GF (a few years)
3) She says she keeps her option open
4) I've teased her that what if I chase after U. she said I won't as I'm
good.
5) Occasionally I can feel that I regretted not grabbing my chance 5
yrs ago when I thought of her. Now...that feeling is greater..........
What should I do...
Honey Moon would always be over... Probably nobody would gets to live in honey and see a full moon forever...?Originally posted by sonic_seed:It's a feeling that has been brought back. In my mind recently that...I have missed my chance way back then and I'm regretted. Also she didn't show any negative signs of me approaching her despite no contact after so long.....these 2 times I went out with her..the feeling is of those experienced in courtship...n too i believe she may somehow or rather felt it too.....it's those times that when she message me stuffs that I felt .. u know those type of feeling of chasing after someone..
Originally posted by Yunhaier:Hi I'm glad to hear alot of views as well as from urs. Your views are great and really make a good guidance for me. U see, I always believe it takes two hands to clap. When I asked her out, it was a positive reply. Ok, even if it's for sake of meetup after so long didn't contact....I guess one would usually not meetup for the second time. When we chat with each other, I would have the feeling of gf n bf, cox sometimes when we talk, the distance quite close. It's not that I'm seeking a new direction but...why i would get that feel?
When you decide to contact her, it already signal your unconscious desire to have a little break through from your current attached situation. Probably you may feel that after you got attached, old friends are forgotten - but since you mentioned that you regret upon the fact that you could have a chance back then - you are eating 'old grass'.The dates, the conversation and all the seemingly beautiful events that took place are all illusions of 'love' - [b]what not yours is always charming and alluring - especially when regrets are concerned.
But then, when you mentioned about 'what if I chase after you...' - you are putting your own relationship at great risk. It may mean nothing, but how sure are you? Let me tell you, everything said or done has a reason behind. When it comes to matters of love: you cannot deny your heart's feel, therefore your actions is difficult to escape the eyes of a third party - Your post suggested risk factor towards your coming love fate. How are you going to lead this fate?
Your latter post suggested some dislike about your current gf - my feel is that, there is nothing major or critical about it. Search your feelings for her and not looking for her flaws - probably you will realise your real answer. You have been together for years - flaws would have become acceptance - this is not the real excuse.You are seeking new direction and breaking through your own routine attached life. This girl served a prefect catalysis to help you achieve it and how sure are you that this illusion will last?
Liking someone and suitability is two different thing. If you are asking me if you should chase someone who has a bf - I would tell you all is fair in love and war - however, you are accountable for your gf as well. Make sure before one new chapter opens, the other must close.
P.S: Never make reckless decision that could ruin yourself. Everyone has transitory love and yours could be one. Use time and self reflection to understand the theory behind.
Cheers [/b]
Hmm... A dreamer...?Originally posted by sonic_seed:Ok..if the suituations becomes like this.....
1) I'm single but she's attached
2) We're both single
3) We're both single but she and I have that bit of interest towards
each other
4) I made it known to her even though she's attached but no sure
whether she have that interest in me too
what will become of it?
Allow me to comment your first paragraph - you think far too much. Remember all these are your impression and preception. What makes you so sure it is something significiant for her as well? Distance closed up and your heart tremble with overflowing emotions - same for her as well? Maybe not 100% applicable. She definitely feel comfortable with you, but that does not equate to love.Originally posted by sonic_seed:Hi I'm glad to hear alot of views as well as from urs. Your views are great and really make a good guidance for me. U see, I always believe it takes two hands to clap. When I asked her out, it was a positive reply. Ok, even if it's for sake of meetup after so long didn't contact....I guess one would usually not meetup for the second time. When we chat with each other, I would have the feeling of gf n bf, cox sometimes when we talk, the distance quite close. It's not that I'm seeking a new direction but...why i would get that feel?
Whether is it worth, I'm not sure cox no one will know...but I do know that if I proceed at least I try.
Ok..if the suituations becomes like this.....
1) I'm single but she's attached
2) We're both single
3) We're both single but she and I have that bit of interest towards
each other
4) I made it known to her even though she's attached but no sure
whether she have that interest in me too
what will become of it?
Originally posted by sonic_seed:Recently I've manage to contact a long lost friend (bout 5 yrs) since we met.
Initially I sms her and then started calling. It's been awhile since I had a
wonderful chat (about hr plus) as I don't really like to chat long on the phone.
So during the conversation I asked her how is she now and say how much I wanted to see her.
And so opportunity came and we meetup. I went to pick up her up after her work and I'm really
happy to see her. We went for a dinner on my bike and she placed her hands on my hips. To me,
I guess if it's normal friend, one would probably place on the rider's shoulder even if she's
not a regular pillion, so why would she do that
Anyway, we had a nice chat at a small resturant and sometimes she would give me those droopy
eyes expression which I really adore. I sent her home thereafter. When I got home...I sms her
telling that how happy I am to see her and she replied she is happy too.
The next day she sms me what I'm doing and have I eaten....in my mind I was thinking....what
prompt her to message me....is it something positive....And so I gave her a call at
night and we chatted for quite awhile
Came day five since our first contact...I asked her if she wanted to come out for a supper.
She replied ok. Around night time..she asked if it's ok to see a show as it's been awhile
since she saw one. I said ok and I went to pick up again. In the cinema..occasionally we
sat quite close to each other sometimes shoulder touching...and I steal glances at her
sometimes too, but not sure whether she noticed that.
During the journey....I patted her on both her hands to signal to her whether she felt
cold or not... I did twice...but I'm wearing my gloves....is this okI mean in her
mind will something spark her mind from me? When reached her block I opt to accompany her
to her level after some pursuassion as it is way past midnight. She said ok
Ok...now here comes a problem.
1) She has a BF (a few months)
2) I have a GF (a few years)
3) She says she keeps her option open
4) I've teased her that what if I chase after U. she said I won't as I'm
good.
5) Occasionally I can feel that I regretted not grabbing my chance 5
yrs ago when I thought of her. Now...that feeling is greater..........
What should I do...
somethings are better left unknown.. just leave it.. no purpose in knowing..Originally posted by sonic_seed:Thanx alot to guys....read bout the advice and thought for awhile...it seems the best thing to do for me is juz carry on my life with my girl and that this friend of mine would juz be another 'friend' that will cherish n be mine in memories.
All this event happen in juz one week...even my buddies told me he can't believe I manage to do all these in a week (get her number talk to her and date her out).
However...wat is going to happen if I were juz to let her know that I've missed her and I actually like her way back then.....