What will u do if third party is cause of breakup??
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For me, I would definitely have extreme hatred for them inititially....but after some careful thoughts.... will have to look at circumstances....
1) Have I done anything wrong to the relationship that gave the third party a chance to strike?
2) Are both myself and my loved at fault for not maintaining the relationship strong enough for the third party to come in?
3) Is my loved one too frivolous and looking for another 'fresh change' in a relationship even though I have done my best to maintain a strong bond between us? -
go up to the third party when he is with friends and loudly thank him for stealing my gf... then cool off n 4get bout everything...
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Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again.Originally posted by Ric_Ong:For me, I would definitely have extreme hatred for them inititially....but after some careful thoughts.... will have to look at circumstances....
1) Have I done anything wrong to the relationship that gave the third party a chance to strike?
2) Are both myself and my loved at fault for not maintaining the relationship strong enough for the third party to come in?
3) Is my loved one too frivolous and looking for another 'fresh change' in a relationship even though I have done my best to maintain a strong bond between us?
I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
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Yo, learn to forgive and forget. Force to carry on a blend relationship will have no results. If the girl really love the other guy, let her go. I will respect her and wish her the best. Just remember there isn't just a tree in the entire jungle, don't give up the jungle for a tree.
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wow...you lose alreadi not happi...maybe do some soul searching and u know why ur gf left u for someone else...If I were the third party...I probably say u are most welcome cos I will treat her better than wat u have...Originally posted by weidev:go up to the third party when he is with friends and loudly thank him for stealing my gf... then cool off n 4get bout everything... -
steadi...dats the way to goOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again. I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
Cheers
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again. I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
Cheers
so tarching
so....... emotional
eh this is a suaning post... the rest pls ignore
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KILL HER!
hahaah....joking.....
u oni have urself to blame if u can't keep ur gf/bf by ur side
if he/she is the one who strays.....u can oni say u haf made the wrong choice..... -
Liang Jing Ru has song call "Third party".In the lyrics,it mention problem in the r/s exist before the third party comes into the pic.I quite agree with this statement.Honestly,such situation really sucks personally.Just forget abt the other party.As Yunhaier correctly points out,"She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me." There's other girls outside waiting for me....
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/me carries two huge buckets.Originally posted by kopiosatu: so tarching
so....... emotional
eh this is a suaning post... the rest pls ignore
eh~ your tears!
/me pour all over kopi.
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Hmm ... (personally) just feels that there's no reason for a breakup to be caused by a third party. Anyone who gets involved with the third party actually causes harm to all three persons, rite? Unless the person is a darn a$$ who only care abt himself/ herself, then only those who loved him/ her gets hurt.
Personally I have seen a few cases. From these cases, all the three persons suffer. Sometimes it ends well, mostly it doesn't. But then ... its hard, very hard esp when your r/s is going all the way down hill ...
. I know cos I been there, and sort of still there ... ... For me, I am still trying to forget someone while working out my r/s. Although I dun know how the other party feels abt me, I guess it is best to leave the stone unturned. Dun want to bring misery yet to another person. Hee, as if the person will like me like that, ha (- a sad attempt to cheer myself).
Anyway, back to the topic ... I would be very upset (well, if the r/s is still good). However, should be able to get over it someday, soon. I feel that I shouldn't want to waste my time on someone who turns his/ her back on me.
If it had happened to you, please get over it. Move on with your life ... You will see the sunshine after the rain. -
Probably does something that a normal guy won't do...
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yeah in my perspective, I cant stop what my partner wants to do. I can only ensure that I am not the one creating the relationship crack. I can only control my own actions, not my boyfriend's.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again. I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
Cheers
And I will never return to the same guy who has decided to dump me.
not long ago, i was almost a 3rd party...luckily I stopped immediately with the infatuated guy....if not his gf now wife will not be wearing her wedding ring today and go for her honeymoon just recently. -
Hmm...Originally posted by fumih_81:yeah in my perspective, I cant stop what my partner wants to do. I can only ensure that I am not the one creating the relationship crack. I can only control my own actions, not my boyfriend's.
And I will never return to the same guy who has decided to dump me.
not long ago, i was almost a 3rd party...luckily I stopped immediately with the infatuated guy....if not his gf now wife will not be wearing her wedding ring today and go for her honeymoon just recently.
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well, it happened to me too. still happening actually. In my case, I believe my gf is not to be blamed, She needed someone to be there, and I was not, I can only blame myself. The third party is just lucky to strike at the right time and makes things complicated for me trying to get my gf to understand why I wasn't there. I hate him more. I think all third party are a$$hol3s and deserves to die a horrible death.
of course every case has it's uniqueness. -
I will juz remain cool, nv CRY, coz the more u cry the gal/girl will be more arrogant, this bitches n bastard-they suck big time.....
Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, one man's food is one man's posion
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can u really keep a cool when u noe ur gf is stolen by others? are u really tt unemotional?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again. I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
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!!!!TRUE!Originally posted by Yunhaier:Regardless of whoever my gf is, if she were to leave me for another guy, I will NOT do anything to stop her. I will not hate her, rather I will respect her decision, though firmly mark in my mind this girl can no longer return to me ever again. I gain from this: She has lost a guy who loved her and me, lost a girl that doesn't love me.
Cheers
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Originally posted by shaunlaw:can u really keep a cool when u noe ur gf is stolen by others? are u really tt unemotional? Leo personality will 'drama' the situation and even if I seemed to be affected - at the end of the day, when she left me and walk the field, in the end, she will eventually come to regret (in some ways I believe.)
In the first place, I think highly of my own relationship - I doubt that would happen and even if it does - rather to keep a woman that doesn't appreciate/love you, I rather she channel that affection to someone else that she feels better with. If she THINKS that she is BETTER OFF with him - I rather she go, but of course, once she go, the chapter closed. There is simply no room to retrace her route when she feel insecure in her new venture.
Its has nothing to do with unemotional; when you widen your vision in theories of love - the things you wanna possess, you free them. You release them. Generally, people holds it. Paradoxically, holding them, sure you could make them stay? and me setting them free, sure they would fly away?
P.S: I know I will be married; the difference is about the ultimate end person.
I don't believe in loving-too-much-cannot-lose-the-person, loving-too-much-until-cannot-be-with-the-person AND loving-too-much-cannot-be-friends-with-the-person. Superficial love - we are all too self absorbed in our ways - question shouldn't revolve about what we can gain from the relationship, rather what kind of influence and impact could you impart to one another, so that your partner can GROW and GAIN from the relationship. Noticed, I mentioned nothing about myself because actually from this process, I have already benefited.
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I dun agree with wat u say cos i believe humans have emotions and no matter how composed u may be or how much ur think may be, u are just toking on paper. when it comes to real, i believe all of us will have some sort of emotions.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Leo personality will 'drama' the situation and even if I seemed to be affected - at the end of the day, when she left me and walk the field, in the end, she will eventually come to regret (in some ways I believe.)
In the first place, I think highly of my own relationship - I doubt that would happen and even if it does - rather to keep a woman that doesn't appreciate/love you, I rather she channel that affection to someone else that she feels better with. If she THINKS that she is BETTER OFF with him - I rather she go, but of course, once she go, the chapter closed. There is simply no room to retrace her route when she feel insecure in her new venture.
Its has nothing to do with unemotional; when you widen your vision in theories of love - the things you wanna possess, you free them. You release them. Generally, people holds it. Paradoxically, holding them, sure you could make them stay? and me setting them free, sure they would fly away?
P.S: I know I will be married; the difference is about the ultimate end person.
I don't believe in loving-too-much-cannot-lose-the-person, loving-too-much-until-cannot-be-with-the-person AND loving-too-much-cannot-be-friends-with-the-person. Superficial love - we are all too self absorbed in our ways - question shouldn't revolve about what we can gain from the relationship, rather what kind of influence and impact could you impart to one another, so that your partner can GROW and GAIN from the relationship. Noticed, I mentioned nothing about myself because actually from this process, I have already benefited.
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what abt libra...how will a typical libra react to such? hehehe
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Originally posted by shaunlaw:I dun agree with wat u say cos i believe humans have emotions and no matter how composed u may be or how much ur think may be, u are just toking on paper. when it comes to real, i believe all of us will have some sort of emotions. Everyone have emotions no doubt, yes, you will be down for a moment - but you are the one who controls the timing you want to feel this way. Furthermore, its she who doesn't want me, not vice vista. IF I AM THE ONE WHO causes the destruction of the relationship - yes, it goes a long way on my emotions. Long memories, lots of unspoken feelings and forever it will retain in me. It did happened and the effects remains very much. Maybe you feel that it's very easy to post something like that; anyway I am just sharing few cents worth of myself in this topic. In real life, I behave this way.
P.S: If I can't attain and shape a perfect love for myself, the very least I will do next is to hang around in AA under this pen name and post my sh|t forever to people who needed it.
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Originally posted by fumih_81:what abt libra...how will a typical libra react to such? hehehe Not too sure; aiya, I am a werido leo lar.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: If I can't attain and shape a perfect love for myself, the very least I will do next is to hang around in AA under this pen name and post my sh|t forever to people who needed it.
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I think no matter what, i will not just let her go without giving effort to make her stay.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Everyone have emotions no doubt, yes, you will be down for a moment - but you are the one who controls the timing you want to feel this way. Furthermore, its she who doesn't want me, not vice vista. IF I AM THE ONE WHO causes the destruction of the relationship - yes, it goes a long way on my emotions. Long memories, lots of unspoken feelings and forever it will retain in me. It did happened and the effects remains very much. Maybe you feel that it's very easy to post something like that; anyway I am just sharing few cents worth of myself in this topic. In real life, I behave this way.
P.S: If I can't attain and shape a perfect love for myself, the very least I will do next is to hang around in AA under this pen name and post my sh|t forever to people who needed it.
Cheers What about thinking, why doesnt she like you already?
Since you already mention there will be a long term memory and unspoken feelings, den why let her go so easily? Is trying effort to keep her so difficult?
I dunnoe, i just feel that if relationship just involved letting ur partner leave just like that, then that's something really disappointing about