I hate my ex gf
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actually, i still keep in touch with her after break up
but recently she called me quite often, then we talk on phone and go out..initially it was just normal, i already gotten over her
then now she also have bf liao whereas i am still single
then she kinda keep showing me their photo
this makes me feel uneasy, i dont know how to explain the feeling
is it jealous? or wat? but i thought i already gotten over her liao
can u ppl here tell me wat to do? -
i scare i might fall for her again that now we contact quite frequently..
How how how? -
then u contact her so frequently for wat?
if u want her back, chase her back (might be unethical to some), if not then i'm SURE there are heaps of other friends that u can relate to and be close to.
i'm not saying u can't be friends with her, but wat's the purpose? anyway i'm not a person that believes in platonic friendship between exes after the break up. sure i'm "friends" with my exes, if u consider one sms per month, 2 five-minute icq chats per month, and seeing each other once a year, for her wedding. -
wad's her motive for calling u up so often...Originally posted by soulness:actually, i still keep in touch with her after break up
but recently she called me quite often, then we talk on phone and go out..initially it was just normal, i already gotten over her
then now she also have bf liao whereas i am still single
then she kinda keep showing me their photo
this makes me feel uneasy, i dont know how to explain the feeling
is it jealous? or wat? but i thought i already gotten over her liao
can u ppl here tell me wat to do?
n wad's with the pics?? tryin 2 spite u? who dumped who??
Anyway, if im u, i would still feel uneasy cus afterall this was some1 u had loved before or at least someone whom u had a relationship with... it doesnt have 2 mean tt u are jealous n not over her... -
she called me more than i call herOriginally posted by jOhO:then u contact her so frequently for wat?
if u want her back, chase her back (might be unethical to some), if not then i'm SURE there are heaps of other friends that u can relate to and be close to.
i'm not saying u can't be friends with her, but wat's the purpose? anyway i'm not a person that believes in platonic friendship between exes after the break up. sure i'm "friends" with my exes, if u consider one sms per month, 2 five-minute icq chats per month, and seeing each other once a year, for her wedding.
she is the one who initiate it...at times, i do call her that is becoz she called me when i am busy, then i told her that i get back to her shortly..
i never thought of chasing her back or wat. and i also never done gestures that would be misunderstood -
that time , i was dumped by her...Originally posted by *evanesence*:wad's her motive for calling u up so often...
n wad's with the pics?? tryin 2 spite u? who dumped who??
Anyway, if im u, i would still feel uneasy cus afterall this was some1 u had loved before or at least someone whom u had a relationship with... it doesnt have 2 mean tt u are jealous n not over her...
and now it is her who keep contacting me
i dunno wats her motive... -
i'm sure if u really wanted to distance urself a little, you'd be able to do it and she'll get the hint.
but of course, u wanna be there as much as u can for her, for watever reason. but i think u should be looking out for urself, since u're the one that's not at peace at the moment. (look at ur topic title)
if she really needs someone to chat with and to help her, she has already chosen a good guy, and that's her bf. if he's not good enuff for her, then that's her problem. she dumped u, remember? -
but if i do that, then i might just lose a friend just like that!..
im in dilemma now, as i also don want to lose a friend like that -
but like tat u will feel worse mah, jz distance yourself bit by bit lor, n keep in mind to avoid contacting her if possible lor.Originally posted by soulness:but if i do that, then i might just lose a friend just like that!..
im in dilemma now, as i also don want to lose a friend like that -
i was wondering if it is just a transition periodOriginally posted by BrUtUs:but like tat u will feel worse mah, jz distance yourself bit by bit lor, n keep in mind to avoid contacting her if possible lor.
after a while i will get used to it.. not sure...
any comments? -
Originally posted by soulness:
Neither can we be sure if it's only a transition period? It's no perfect world. You take some, you lose some. If not? You take CHANCE.
but if i do that, then i might just lose a friend just like that!..
im in dilemma now, as i also don want to lose a friend like that
i was wondering if it is just a transition period
after a while i will get used to it.. not sure...
any comments? -
She just wants the best of both worlds....
If you want to get hurt again, continue contacting her. If you want to move on with your life, then just do NOT contact her or reply to her sms or answer her calls for a period of time. Give yourself a few months, and when you are ready, you can start keeping in contact with her again if you feel like it.
How will you know that you have gotten over her? Well, one day, when you are doing something, and she suddenly pops into your mind (rather than now, where you are constantly thinking about her), you will know you have moved on.... -
Originally posted by soulness:actually, i still keep in touch with her after break up
but recently she called me quite often, then we talk on phone and go out..initially it was just normal, i already gotten over her
then now she also have bf liao whereas i am still single
then she kinda keep showing me their photo
this makes me feel uneasy, i dont know how to explain the feeling
is it jealous? or wat? but i thought i already gotten over her liao
can u ppl here tell me wat to do?
Your jealousy doesn't comes from liking her and now, she being in other's arms, the feelings brews from within. Rather, this isn't jealousy at all. To be precise, its just an unexplained feeling that crops up because she has moved on in life better than you and you feel awkward and probably uneasy because of that.
I advice you to maintain a little distance with her and continue your life. Keep your friendship, no doubt, but anything more than that, just forget it. There is much to do in life than to ponder and hang around people of the past. She has moved on, have you?
Cheers -
u r probably right, i might juz be feeling uneasy that she has moved on and i have not.
i guess will have to stop contact her for the time being before i fall into the trap again!