Coping with death
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I need some consultations here.
My cousin passed away about 8 months ago. But I find it very hard to accept the fact tht she is gone. She died in a car crash, maybe that is the reason why IÂ’m like this.
I canÂ’t concentrate at work. I canÂ’t sleep at night. I lose my appetite. I miss her very much.
I tried to occupy my self with something else. At first, it works, after few days, those memories just come back to me.
I know I should move on. But itÂ’s just so hard.
Any advice? -
I'm not a Buddhist but I do hope that your agony is lifted and may God bless you and sustain you in your moments of sadness.
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Thank you.Originally posted by LazerLordz:I'm not a Buddhist but I do hope that your agony is lifted and may God bless you and sustain you in your moments of sadness.
I still blindly hope that somewhere, she is still alive. -
I personally believe that our souls live on even after we have left this world.Originally posted by virce:Thank you.
I still blindly hope that somewhere, she is still alive. -
My condolences to the passing of your cousin.Originally posted by virce:I need some consultations here.
My cousin passed away about 8 months ago. But I find it very hard to accept the fact tht she is gone. She died in a car crash, maybe that is the reason why IÂ’m like this.
I canÂ’t concentrate at work. I canÂ’t sleep at night. I lose my appetite. I miss her very much.
I tried to occupy my self with something else. At first, it works, after few days, those memories just come back to me.
I know I should move on. But itÂ’s just so hard.
Any advice?
I would like to refer you to this link: http://www.buddhanet.net/r_booksd.htm It is a treasure cove of articles that assist us in dealing with death and bereavement. These articles helped me a great deal when my father passed away.
May all beings be at peace. -
My condolence to you too... I find this book very helpful: http://www.amazon.com/Death-Fear-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1573223336. Can be found in major bookstores like Kinokuniya and also library (availability: http://vistaweb.nlb.gov.sg - search 'Thich Nhat Hanh')Originally posted by virce:I need some consultations here.
My cousin passed away about 8 months ago. But I find it very hard to accept the fact tht she is gone. She died in a car crash, maybe that is the reason why IÂ’m like this.
I canÂ’t concentrate at work. I canÂ’t sleep at night. I lose my appetite. I miss her very much.
I tried to occupy my self with something else. At first, it works, after few days, those memories just come back to me.
I know I should move on. But itÂ’s just so hard.
Any advice?Amazon.com
And it's not just fearing for your own death but also very much on how to deal with the death of your loved ones.. by realising their deathless nature.
Thich Nhat Hanh always invites us to look deeply, and he does so once again in No Death, No Fear. Recognizing interconnections, Nhat Hanh brings us to beginnings, how they depend on endings, and how they are but temporary manifestations. Everything endures, he says, but in different forms. And this isn't just a palliative to make us feel better for a while--Nhat Hanh's philosophy of Interbeing takes the long view, challenging us to open our eyes to subtle transformations. He shows how extraordinary things happen when we are fully present with others and at peace with ourselves, both of which require openness and deep looking. In his bestselling style of easy prose, compelling anecdotes, and pragmatic advice, Nhat Hanh gradually drains the force out of grief and fear, transforming them into happiness and insightful living. Death doesn't have to be a roadblock, and in No Death, No Fear Thich Nhat Hanh shows us the way around. --Brian Bruya --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
There's a video by Thich Nhat Hanh that can be viewed online for free: http://buddha-inside.us/ - go down to the Thich Naht Hanh video - Birth and Death are Just a Game of Hide and Seek -
i think prepararation have to be done as soon as possible. Buddhist's teaching help us to be mentally prepare for such things even before it happen. they sure to happen to a person. after it happen then cure, a bit difficult. it's the same as illness. prevention is the best cure for illness.
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Try Focusing on good things like future or life after death.They may lead a better life then now like in Bleach?Hobo?
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During the time of the Buddha, there was a mother who carried her dead child to everyone asking for a elixir or medicine to restore the child back to life, someone pitied her and told her to consult the Buddha.Originally posted by virce:I need some consultations here.
My cousin passed away about 8 months ago. But I find it very hard to accept the fact tht she is gone. She died in a car crash, maybe that is the reason why IÂ’m like this.
I canÂ’t concentrate at work. I canÂ’t sleep at night. I lose my appetite. I miss her very much.
I tried to occupy my self with something else. At first, it works, after few days, those memories just come back to me.
I know I should move on. But itÂ’s just so hard.
Any advice?
When she told the Buddha her sad story, he told her to go to any household and get mustard seeds, but the household must not have anyone who have had passed away. every househould she went and enquired all have someone near and dear to them passed away.
she enquired from many households, true to form, she realises death comes to all and no one can escape from death. she understood what the Buddha was conveying the message to her, she buried her child and came back to the Buddha, asking for ordination. her name was kisa gotami i think. -
Ajahn Brahm said this is life. life is like that, and death comes to all, young, old, healthy or sick, rich and poor.
know this is life, after many existences in this samsara, would you not seek the light and seek an end to existences? -
if you believe in god, then you should ask god why he wanted to claim your cousin. or rather why god created death, sicknesses, wars, natural disasters?
some babies were born with a defect, god didnt do his QC when he created the baby? -
Hi, sorry to hear your loss. This is life, everyone will died one day and some might have to leave this world earlier or later.. nevertheless, nothing last forever and so is ur sadness. It takes time to heal and to let go but u will be strong again and perhaps will even learn to appreciate life and the people around more... Take heart =]
May you be well and happy -
did it happen in brunei?