wat gal can ask frm guy??
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i've been with him 4 few yrs alreadi..i tink i'm nt those askin-too-much gal loh..nv ask him 2 buy anythin special 4 mi..but recently keep quarrel over all those things..feel so sian..wanna noe if i really askin too much frm him..
4 the past few yrs,he always buy those little bear2(nt those big can baobao 1,can onli 4 display) and perlini silver 4 mi..ocatianally,he'll buy flower(those 3 roses)..i aso feel happy..
last yr was my 21th bday..but he was in ns.of course no $$..wanna him bought smthin special(mayb diamond,gold or..smthin can keep 4 very long time 1 loh)..end up quarrel 4 almost 1 wk..then i gaveup.i said myself dat no all those aso nvm..tot he'll bought different flowers,at least bigger tis time..but nope.he didnt even bother 2 chose the flowers himself as a special present 4 my 21th bday..i really feel beri dissap loh..still those small 3 roses..sigh..
recently.it's our 5yrs anni.over the phone,i ask him wat he get 4 mi.he said nothin.he doesnt noe wat he wanna get 4 mi..i really feel beri dissap..he's nt happy over tis..he always say i force him 2 buy present 4 mi..
but he's goin 2 change his hp 2 the newest model of samsung(nt sure wat model is dat)..he said he prefer mi dun buy anthin 4 him but save the $$ 2 buy smthin 2 eat on dat day...he isnt happy over tis..
sigh..he's typical sg unromantic guy!! am i askin 2 much??wat i can do?? -
i guess love shouldn't expect too much bah...
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Hahah agonising over the size of roses. What if he didn't even get you any?
How about you just go out and buy the present you want and get him to pay for it. -
Is happiness getting what you want or wanting what you already have? Be contented with what you have, maybe he's a little unromantic but gifs/presents are not important, the person is.
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Well, 1stly got to mentionthis, not all guys are like tt...Originally posted by ~ little child ~:i've been with him 4 few yrs alreadi..i tink i'm nt those askin-too-much gal loh..nv ask him 2 buy anythin special 4 mi..but recently keep quarrel over all those things..feel so sian..wanna noe if i really askin too much frm him..
4 the past few yrs,he always buy those little bear2(nt those big can baobao 1,can onli 4 display) and perlini silver 4 mi..ocatianally,he'll buy flower(those 3 roses)..i aso feel happy..
last yr was my 21th bday..but he was in ns.of course no $$..wanna him bought smthin special(mayb diamond,gold or..smthin can keep 4 very long time 1 loh)..end up quarrel 4 almost 1 wk..then i gaveup.i said myself dat no all those aso nvm..tot he'll bought different flowers,at least bigger tis time..but nope.he didnt even bother 2 chose the flowers himself as a special present 4 my 21th bday..i really feel beri dissap loh..still those small 3 roses..sigh..
recently.it's our 5yrs anni.over the phone,i ask him wat he get 4 mi.he said nothin.he doesnt noe wat he wanna get 4 mi..i really feel beri dissap..he's nt happy over tis..he always say i force him 2 buy present 4 mi.. but he's goin 2 change his hp 2 the newest model of samsung(nt sure wat model is dat)..he said he prefer mi dun buy anthin 4 him but save the $$ 2 buy smthin 2 eat on dat day...he isnt happy over tis..
sigh..he's typical sg unromantic guy!! am i askin 2 much??wat i can do??
Its been 5 yrs into ur relationship, some things may haf changed without u noticing it.... Ur bf may get too busy and tired in army and so doesnt haf time for other things.. but this is no excuse....
Hes in some way wrong... but ppl do change.. whether it is to the better or for the worse... I mean u shld accept him for who he is and not try to change him in a way... and also like wise he shld acceot who u are... and try to make up to u in ways possible...
In a relationship, when quarrels take place its 2 ppl at fault.. not one... Cos it takes 2 hands to clap not one.... I suggest u think carefully over the relationship and mayb tok to him abt it.... If there is a communication prob, solve it...
ALl the best and jia you!!!
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Love is the greatest gift of all...
What's material stuff when compared to love??
Not all guys are born romantic..try to understand this...
Just be satisfied you have him with you by your side on that special day....
Im the kind of girl who gets what I want with my own ability...
If I want him 2 buy something for me, say for a special occasion, I would tell him what I want & if the price is reasonable... else I would get it myself...
Sometimes Im just happy to enjoy his company & have a simple celebration... -
sibey materialistic leh
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ur nick suits u...
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i tink u all quite bad to little child ..
diff ppl hv diff ways of showing n receiving love ..
her bf is that type sibeh unromantic n that celebrating brithdays anniversary is nuthing to him so anyhow do ..
she is that type like to celebrate n make it special one .. its not the gift that matters to her but the effort .. dat fella nvr put in effort mah, so she disappointed, she not materialistic la..
can tell, cos she say he dun even bother to choose the flowers himself ..
little child, i tink u either get used to this fella, or u better sit him down n talk to him abt what u tink n wat u're like ..
obviously he dun understand that not every1 is the same n dat not every1 takes anniversaries n celebrations lightly like him ..
ha ha i understand becos i m also such a person n i m a guy .. haaa. -
well,he's not romantic,but then have u tot 4 him?is he very bz?maybe he's 2 stressed?at least u r better than mi...i celevrated my 21st bd last sat wif my family...n i was suan bu all my cousins n aunties...coz my bf bought a heart shaped cake n carved the words,happy 21st bd to my sweetheart,n frm him
...u noe how paiseh i was...sometimes it's better if they r not romantic lor... -
hai ya...he ns lah...no money is acceptable one lah...
dun expect too much lor
romantic most of e time needs money or effort or even both...
army personel where got such time n money to spare....
talk to him lah...do it in a peaceful manner....
guys hate to be pressured to make a decision. -
hmmm, i guess u are already considered lucky to haf a bf who buys for u roses and small gifts..
as a matter of fact, my bf doesnt! Hahaha..n i used to envy those girls who haf bfs that shower them with small gifts and suprises occasionally. But now, im already used to it ..... Hahhaha
Some Guys usually prefer their gfs to save the $$ rather than spending it to buy gifts for them. I dont koe why, but this is the fact la.
Ur bf might be kinda stressed in NS, so if possible dont pick quarrels over this issues. Coz they might not haf the patience to listen or even try understanding how u feel, or what u want. Serious! (Speaking frm expirence) -
Haaa . . . .To be honest . . guys are really miserable when in army. Can you imagine . . how are you going to survive with just $240 allowance previously for 9 months. currently $320 start off. Come'on dont compare with those Sergents and Officers they are getting definately at least 3 folds of allowance.
I'm the unlucky one that have to toggle money between self-paid meals(army dont provide free meals), transport and gal fren. What's more would you take hard earned money from parents? Nope i wont!! (Some lucky guys, parents would give them $1K allowance for them to spend.) Its isn't easy, almost wipe out my savings earn during school days part time to cover the LIMITED allowance given.
Today, which guys dont want to get their latest electronic gadgets like phones, etcs . . Me want that too . . but i still have to get something special for my gal once awhile like anniversary and Birthday to make her happy. I've given up the ideas of buying new gadgets like other friends do during Army days. Poor me!!
I'm luncky to have a gal fren who isn't a demanding person. phew!!
Inconclusion:
Gals : Army is the difficult times for we guys to manage our financial. Please spare some thoughs. A little understanding on the guys side will make him spare some thoughs for you too.
Guys : Women are creatures who loves surprises . . . perhaps a little dose of surprises each time will make her world spins. -
u love him
not his ability to buy nice and meaningful presents -
5th yr anniversary:
gal: dear, buy me a 21st bday cake
bf: ok lah, 20 bucks nia..can afford.
gal: thanx..ur not that unromatic after all
6th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me 100 roses
bf: wat? so many? wat for? aiyah, ok lah, just buy for u lah
gal: thanx..hmm u need to improve on your romance pts
7th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me this 1k necklace
bf: r u nuts? spending 1k on this small piece of jewellery?
gal: so stingy...ur not as romantic as some other guys i know of..
8th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me this subaru car
bf: sorry, other things i can afford, but i dun have the money to buy u a car
gal: *&&%^^*ur not romantic at all! I go find another bf(a rich one at that)...
moral of the story: Some gals are like black holes..don't play the game if you can't afford it -
10z veri much bronco!!u r e one who really can understand wat i realli mean..Originally posted by bronco:i tink u all quite bad to little child ..
diff ppl hv diff ways of showing n receiving love ..
her bf is that type sibeh unromantic n that celebrating brithdays anniversary is nuthing to him so anyhow do ..
she is that type like to celebrate n make it special one .. its not the gift that matters to her but the effort .. dat fella nvr put in effort mah, so she disappointed, she not materialistic la..
can tell, cos she say he dun even bother to choose the flowers himself ..
little child, i tink u either get used to this fella, or u better sit him down n talk to him abt what u tink n wat u're like ..
obviously he dun understand that not every1 is the same n dat not every1 takes anniversaries n celebrations lightly like him ..
ha ha i understand becos i m also such a person n i m a guy .. haaa.
10z 4 ur comments aso...
actuali he isnt realli dun care..but he said he cant do anythin at it!cox when we start goin steady..i always mention 2 him dat i'm realli lookin 4word 4 my 21th bday..and he didnt bear in mind as well..okay..4yrs later..he start complainin dat i'm aso ask 4 smthin he cant afford..halo..
i realli noe dat he's nt those rich guy...i really dont ask 4 anythin durin these 5yrs..onli ask 4 1 time--my 21th bday present. TAT'S IT!
normally we go out,depend on who has $$ who pay.but smtimes he feel paise if i bought present/paid the bill...then we'll quarrel over tis aso..
now everythin is $$..sian...actually the onli prob is onli $$...
(ahe's those will pay everythin 4 wat he wan..but things 4 mi??hav 2 think bt it 1st)
but smtimes..he'll still get smthin 4 mi... -
wat do u mean dat u hav a gal fren who isnt a demandin person??tell mi lei..realli wanna noe..Originally posted by Coolz:Haaa . . . .To be honest . . guys are really miserable when in army. Can you imagine . . how are you going to survive with just $240 allowance previously for 9 months. currently $320 start off. Come'on dont compare with those Sergents and Officers they are getting definately at least 3 folds of allowance.
I'm the unlucky one that have to toggle money between self-paid meals(army dont provide free meals), transport and gal fren. What's more would you take hard earned money from parents? Nope i wont!! (Some lucky guys, parents would give them $1K allowance for them to spend.) Its isn't easy, almost wipe out my savings earn during school days part time to cover the LIMITED allowance given.
Today, which guys dont want to get their latest electronic gadgets like phones, etcs . . Me want that too . . but i still have to get something special for my gal once awhile like anniversary and Birthday to make her happy. I've given up the ideas of buying new gadgets like other friends do during Army days. Poor me!!
I'm luncky to have a gal fren who isn't a demanding person. phew!!
Inconclusion:
Gals : Army is the difficult times for we guys to manage our financial. Please spare some thoughs. A little understanding on the guys side will make him spare some thoughs for you too.
Guys : Women are creatures who loves surprises . . . perhaps a little dose of surprises each time will make her world spins.
p/s: his pay is more than tat. ard 500. -
Originally posted by Syusaku:5th yr anniversary:
gal: dear, buy me a 21st bday cake
bf: ok lah, 20 bucks nia..can afford.
gal: thanx..ur not that unromatic after all
6th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me 100 roses
bf: wat? so many? wat for? aiyah, ok lah, just buy for u lah
gal: thanx..hmm u need to improve on your romance pts
7th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me this 1k necklace
bf: r u nuts? spending 1k on this small piece of jewellery?
gal: so stingy...ur not as romantic as some other guys i know of..
8th yr anniv:
gal: dear, buy me this subaru car
bf: sorry, other things i can afford, but i dun have the money to buy u a car
gal: *&&%^^*ur not romantic at all! I go find another bf(a rich one at that)...
moral of the story: Some gals are like black holes..don't play the game if you can't afford it
hahaha..dun b so mean lei..i'm nt those type!!i tink i'll get wat i realli wat.. -
10z..i noe...i aso enjoy his company & hav a simple celeb..but smtimes..we'll end up quarrel over wher 2 hav dinner..noe what??i wanna hav smtimes better than fast food and food court..i wanna pay 4 dat..and he'll b veri unhappy and show mi tisOriginally posted by *evanesence*:Love is the greatest gift of all...
What's material stuff when compared to love??
Not all guys are born romantic..try to understand this...
Just be satisfied you have him with you by your side on that special day....
Im the kind of girl who gets what I want with my own ability...
If I want him 2 buy something for me, say for a special occasion, I would tell him what I want & if the price is reasonable... else I would get it myself...
Sometimes Im just happy to enjoy his company & have a simple
celebration...
i always get wat i wan , wont ask him 2 get 4 mi..onli 4 my bday... -
jux i got give him hints dat mayb nt roses again..mayb smtin bigger mah...Originally posted by choco B:Hahah agonising over the size of roses. What if he didn't even get you any?
How about you just go out and buy the present you want and get him to pay for it.
dat's quite impossible loh..actually nt the present but the "xin" u noe?? -
u think money easy to earn huh?!
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[quote]Originally posted by oceanic:
i guess love shouldn't expect too much bah... [/quote
even presents on special occas?? -
if my girl did not get me anything and just spent the day with me, i'd be happier than a bug in a rug...
and if you made him buy something, what would that something mean? to him, it's worse than nothing... something coerced out from him... and after a while, he's going to resent you...
most women accuse men of being "unromantic" without even trying to fathom what goes on in their heads... most women are guilty of this and they don't even know they are the very ones who kill the romance in their menfolk!
what good is something coerced from him?
if he did something out of the love of his heart, because it did not meet your criteria you imagined out of a stupid paperback romance by Bills and Goon, do you shrug it off and say it's nothing?
maybe your guy has been calloused by your insisting on things, "gifts" and "presents" (i use the quotation marks because true gifts and presents are never expected) to be bought for you? so much so that he cannot go and buy something for you because it ceases to be special..
if he is, he's more romantic and heartbroken than you know and you don't even give a damn.... you just want your diamond or whatever... and you are too short-sighted to see his broken heart... and so self-centred that you blame him... and you know what? he'll blame himself too!
in short, you may have abused his trust.. so much that he's become unfeeling...
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realli??yr bf nv buy anythin 4 u??sure ornt??Originally posted by Smooch:hmmm, i guess u are already considered lucky to haf a bf who buys for u roses and small gifts..
as a matter of fact, my bf doesnt! Hahaha..n i used to envy those girls who haf bfs that shower them with small gifts and suprises occasionally. But now, im already used to it ..... Hahhaha
Some Guys usually prefer their gfs to save the $$ rather than spending it to buy gifts for them. I dont koe why, but this is the fact la.
Ur bf might be kinda stressed in NS, so if possible dont pick quarrels over this issues. Coz they might not haf the patience to listen or even try understanding how u feel, or what u want. Serious! (Speaking frm expirence)
i noe i'm nt the worst..
realli??y??smthin small present onli mah...he nv say wanna mi save $$ but he prefer mi save $$ and spend them on makan..haha..funny hor??
he's nt dat bad in ns..dun worry.. : p -
thanz hor!! how abt ur nick??u always disturb ppl or ppl disturb u??Originally posted by alwaysdisturbed:ur nick suits u...