This good good GAL and its just ME
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The situation goes like this:
We went out together with a group of friends, at the eve of this new year to celebrate till dawn. It was the happiest day of the year.. of course.. haha.. First day of new year.. After for not seeing her for two days, I decided to let her know that I like her, although I know that at this moment I was not ready for any relationship..
She did ask me what to do.. so i suggest we see each other more often..
The second time I met her was that she told me she was sick that Monday Morning.. so I accompanied her to lunch and to Doc and send her home... Very nice job.
After that.. things were pretty smooth, we met each other more often and just plain sms/call every day if we didn't meet.
I did let her know that I like her in the form of letters and sms too.. Even told her i like her twice .. The first time.. was late 3am .. after telling her i ran off. Too shy. The other time was in the park. But she changed topic so i accommodate her.
However, after my overseas trip from the Chinese New Year, every thing was not that good..We contact less often.. Its only when I wanted to pass her gifts from overseas then I got another excuse to see her.
There 3 things I feel about her:
1) Everytime I met her, I will feel very happy the whole day.. Whatever thing is good on that day.
2) If she can't meet me due to her busy schedules then I will be sad.
3) When she not around, I tend to think of her.
I had plans to confess this V day but came to know that last Sat night that she was attached as I was with her.
She squabbled with her BF over a small matter so i encouraged her to patch up.. I even encourage her... looking at the bright side of life. She said quite a lot of time the same thing happenned: squabbled and patched.. All her friends around her wants her to break off with this guy as they don't like the way he treat him or whatever stuffs..
During last sat night.. she did asked me what i want to tell her the last time.. i was like .. huh.. my god. How can i say again knowing that she was attached.. She did asked me whether I had any relationship before.. and I said no..haha
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From the way she talked to me, I know that she like her BF very much although they just started two weeks ago.
Therefore.. whatever things i want to say to her are kept deeper and deeper in my heart.
Its like a mixture of happy and sad feeling. Happy for her as she found her Mr Right.. Sad because I haven't even start but lost the courtship. From whatver movie/drame.. the title BF or whatever doesn't means much to me as I feel that as long she's happy and its alright and I will be happy too.
Same like last time.. we just stayed out till day break and I send her home as usual.
This time round ... I wasn't getting that kind of happy feeling back home.. I tried to sleep but the tears just rolled. I don't even want to cry or is just came like the rain. I just felt terrible.
Right now, she said that I will be her good sister, good friend..haha
I think i was like suffering from a curse or some sort..
It always takes me a lot of time to like a gal,, then every time when I want to carry out my plans, she's somebody else.
Then I will continue to spend time holding back to any new chances of relationship for a long long time.. The previous one, I held back for two years before I can move on, although she's single now, we're still friends. Tha's all.
So gals out there, if you want to find your Mr Right, i can try to like you.. 2 years later.. and then .. tada... your Mr Right will come..haha.. jokes aside.
Haha... I want to laugh and cry ...smile and remember and forget
Any comments?
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you should tell her your true feelings. yes she will be upset in the begining, but let her know as long as she is happy with the new guy you will honor that relationship. if she happens to break it off with him you want a chance to see if it will work between the both of you. at this momoent in time may not be ridht for the both of you, but that does not mean 6 months from now is wrong.
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to love somebody, doesn't mean u need to be with him or her. the greatest type of love is in giving and not in receiving. if u think he/she is happy with somebody else, then give them ur silent blessing.Originally posted by nightyoung:The situation goes like this:
We went out together with a group of friends, at the eve of this new year to celebrate till dawn. It was the happiest day of the year.. of course.. haha.. First day of new year.. After for not seeing her for two days, I decided to let her know that I like her, although I know that at this moment I was not ready for any relationship..
She did ask me what to do.. so i suggest we see each other more often..
The second time I met her was that she told me she was sick that Monday Morning.. so I accompanied her to lunch and to Doc and send her home... Very nice job.
After that.. things were pretty smooth, we met each other more often and just plain sms/call every day if we didn't meet.
I did let her know that I like her in the form of letters and sms too.. Even told her i like her twice .. The first time.. was late 3am .. after telling her i ran off. Too shy. The other time was in the park. But she changed topic so i accommodate her.
However, after my overseas trip from the Chinese New Year, every thing was not that good..We contact less often.. Its only when I wanted to pass her gifts from overseas then I got another excuse to see her.
There 3 things I feel about her:
1) Everytime I met her, I will feel very happy the whole day.. Whatever thing is good on that day.
2) If she can't meet me due to her busy schedules then I will be sad.
3) When she not around, I tend to think of her.
I had plans to confess this V day but came to know that last Sat night that she was attached as I was with her.
She squabbled with her BF over a small matter so i encouraged her to patch up.. I even encourage her... looking at the bright side of life. She said quite a lot of time the same thing happenned: squabbled and patched.. All her friends around her wants her to break off with this guy as they don't like the way he treat him or whatever stuffs..
During last sat night.. she did asked me what i want to tell her the last time.. i was like .. huh.. my god. How can i say again knowing that she was attached.. She did asked me whether I had any relationship before.. and I said no..haha
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From the way she talked to me, I know that she like her BF very much although they just started two weeks ago.
Therefore.. whatever things i want to say to her are kept deeper and deeper in my heart.
Its like a mixture of happy and sad feeling. Happy for her as she found her Mr Right.. Sad because I haven't even start but lost the courtship. From whatver movie/drame.. the title BF or whatever doesn't means much to me as I feel that as long she's happy and its alright and I will be happy too.
Same like last time.. we just stayed out till day break and I send her home as usual.
This time round ... I wasn't getting that kind of happy feeling back home.. I tried to sleep but the tears just rolled. I don't even want to cry or is just came like the rain. I just felt terrible.
Right now, she said that I will be her good sister, good friend..haha
I think i was like suffering from a curse or some sort..
It always takes me a lot of time to like a gal,, then every time when I want to carry out my plans, she's somebody else.
Then I will continue to spend time holding back to any new chances of relationship for a long long time.. The previous one, I held back for two years before I can move on, although she's single now, we're still friends. Tha's all.
So gals out there, if you want to find your Mr Right, i can try to like you.. 2 years later.. and then .. tada... your Mr Right will come..haha.. jokes aside.
Haha... I want to laugh and cry ...smile and remember and forget
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Perhaps you can use this time to let both of you know more of each other first.
I find that many people jump into relationships too quickly and end up breaking off.
Hey, since she knows that you liked her, why not just build on friendship first, be a good friend and who knows, her lousy relationship with her current bf will end..and your chance will be here.
Just my POV. Good luck man!
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love...wat is love?
haiz...another love sick...wish u good luck
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Originally posted by nightyoung:
huh lan pa!
The situation goes like this:
During last sat night.. she did asked me what i want to tell her the last time.. i was like .. [b]huh.. my god. How can i say again knowing that she was attached.. She did asked me whether I had any relationship before.. and I said no..haha.
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sorry juz kidding... i feel sad for u too... my mum once told me this "bei ai shi xing fu de, ai ren shi tong ku de"... which roughly means "TO love some1 and not to be loved in return is to suffer, BEING LOVED is to be pampered..." i guess in ur case, you have to think of ur own future, happiness and bliss and be selfish.
Go tell her that u love her and u no matter whatever happen to her and her bf u will always be there for her and if her ever wanna ONS, u will be there! hehe... juz kidding... hope this help u in someway or another... take care yar~? Be strong, and Stay strong! -
I'm oso facing the same prob rite now. Dunno wat to do...
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Whats your point here?
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Evil Crown strikes again
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My point here.. What should I do ..Originally posted by ditzy:Whats your point here?
Should I let her know.. how I feel or what.. since she's already attached.. I don't her to be like in a difficult position -
If she's attached. My advice is don't bother already. She's happy with her current. You don't want to be someone trying to poke into her life. It ain't nice for you to do that. Be best friends 1st.Originally posted by nightyoung:My point here.. What should I do ..
Should I let her know.. how I feel or what.. since she's already attached.. I don't her to be like in a difficult position -
What have you already done and what happened?Originally posted by mashimaro83:I'm oso facing the same prob rite now. Dunno wat to do... 
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Evil Clown,
QC a bit leh !!!!! i have always been a vivid admirer of your PICS, but recently the standard seems to have droped ..... please to avoid unhappiness among the guys here, keep posting standard works okay ! thanks !
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Stop it Evil Clown... Why do you have topost so many images everywhere ??Originally posted by stoner:Evil Clown,
QC a bit leh !!!!! i have always been a vivid admirer of your PICS, but recently the standard seems to have droped ..... please to avoid unhappiness among the guys here, keep posting standard works okay ! thanks ! -
Right now I still thinking of her.......
My heart break again when I hear sad song from the radio...
can't they broadcast something good?
All is lost is gone and gone are not lost if i think its not. If I think its not and I don't think is okay and I think I shouldn't think too much
After reading so many suggestions.. I still don't know what to do..
So how... in a fix this time..
Sighed
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it is difficult for those suggestions abt forgetting her to sink in... it takes time and effort....Originally posted by nightyoung:Right now I still thinking of her.......
My heart break again when I hear sad song from the radio...
can't they broadcast something good?
All is lost is gone and gone are not lost if i think its not. If I think its not and I don't think is okay and I think I shouldn't think too much
After reading so many suggestions.. I still don't know what to do..
So how... in a fix this time..
Sighed
No matter wat, u got to pick yourself up quickly... u can be sad...u can cry over it...but do it and then get it over and move on.
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if mi? i different snack her bac, in sg.. everi 1 is selfish.. snack bac her ba... use cunning methods..
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Erm.... strange but true. i once was in somewhat similar situation like you. But are you really ready to give up her? Ask yourself that question. If you really are then make sure you do. Even though you might feel its very painful you must stick to it. And mind you its not easy. Believe me. If you still have some doubts, i suggest you stay clear before you might do any damages to her current relationship.
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Well, i'm still considering wat to do. Advices/comments given to me was quite evenly distributed, as in abt 50% says tell her & vice versa. All i noe now is tat the gal treat me like a gd fren & tat's abt all. Wonder wat would happen to our frenship if i tell her tat i like her?Originally posted by nightyoung:What have you already done and what happened? -
Thanks for your advice..Originally posted by fedmstr:you should tell her your true feelings. yes she will be upset in the begining, but let her know as long as she is happy with the new guy you will honor that relationship. if she happens to break it off with him you want a chance to see if it will work between the both of you. at this momoent in time may not be ridht for the both of you, but that does not mean 6 months from now is wrong.
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hi there,
i kind of encounter such prob too..and now im like still in this situation...
she was my classmate.. i got to knw her 4years ago and during this 4years..i have been liking her till now.. from 4yrs ago..we are juz hi,bye frens till now very very gd frens.. shes my buddy and she told me that im the only fren who knows her the most..
from her being attached 3times... to patching up twice..and now single again..i have told her afew times,and try to make her my gf for about 3-4times..but i failed agian and again,the last time i tried..was last last nov... and after that xmas... things went bad.. she started to avoid me...we sms and tok on fone everyday,when i wake up i call her when she wake up she will call me,we go shopping together ,watch movie,lunch.... but when she stared to avoid me,she did not even reply my sms,answer my call.
The worst thing is that i dont know the reason and she din want to tell me... this "cold war"lasted for about 6mths... until we bcome gd frens again... till now..i still cant forget her.
me 2 have done what u have done... i have encouraged her to patch up with her ex,helped her think of situations to get close to someone she likes...
when she achive her aim being with someone she love..she is overjoyed..she shared her joyful moments with me,and again... we share the same feeling being happy for her,and sad for ourself.. everytime listening to some songs really make me tear like what u experinced.
this is part of my life during this few years...
what i regret most was to try and make her by myside but ended up losing her for that 6mths..
Tis vtine day is the 1st time that the 2 of us are going on a date on such occassion.. but im afraid to try again..im afraid to lose her...
i think that u got to think twice abt ur actions bcos if things arent going to be gd.. she might avoid u like what i experince.. and that is what u and i dont want to see...
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Wow.. I am very impressed by your sincerity.. if i am that girl.. I would give you a chance..Originally posted by lolsuck:hi there,
i kind of encounter such prob too..and now im like still in this situation...
she was my classmate.. i got to knw her 4years ago and during this 4years..i have been liking her till now.. from 4yrs ago..we are juz hi,bye frens till now very very gd frens.. shes my buddy and she told me that im the only fren who knows her the most..
from her being attached 3times... to patching up twice..and now single again..i have told her afew times,and try to make her my gf for about 3-4times..but i failed agian and again,the last time i tried..was last last nov... and after that xmas... things went bad.. she started to avoid me...we sms and tok on fone everyday,when i wake up i call her when she wake up she will call me,we go shopping together ,watch movie,lunch.... but when she stared to avoid me,she did not even reply my sms,answer my call.
The worst thing is that i dont know the reason and she din want to tell me... this "cold war"lasted for about 6mths... until we bcome gd frens again... till now..i still cant forget her.
me 2 have done what u have done... i have encouraged her to patch up with her ex,helped her think of situations to get close to someone she likes...
when she achive her aim being with someone she love..she is overjoyed..she shared her joyful moments with me,and again... we share the same feeling being happy for her,and sad for ourself.. everytime listening to some songs really make me tear like what u experinced.
this is part of my life during this few years...
what i regret most was to try and make her by myside but ended up losing her for that 6mths..
Tis vtine day is the 1st time that the 2 of us are going on a date on such occassion.. but im afraid to try again..im afraid to lose her...
i think that u got to think twice abt ur actions bcos if things arent going to be gd.. she might avoid u like what i experince.. and that is what u and i dont want to see...
hope i help u in some way or another,
Since you say this valentine is the 1st time the two of you are together, you must perform well.. come on.,, if the gal goes out with you on V day, then you're more than 50% successful.
I know I don't have the right to advise you on this because my situation isn't that good either.
The scenario you describe.. very much alike to me last sat
(i have encouraged her to patch up with her ex,helped her think of situations to get close to someone she likes...she achive her aim being with someone she love..she is overjoyed..she shared her joyful moments with me,and again... we share the same feeling being happy for her,and sad for ourself.. everytime listening to some songs really make me tear like what u experinced.)
haha
Now I asked myself.. is it really that good to keep her as my GF.. what's the difference? So what if we are BF and GF and not seeing each other. I really don't know what gals think sometimes..
She can tell me how bad this guy is but she says when she comes to him, she wouldn't mention it to him as she has just accepted him as he is. She said perhaps that true love.. forgiving his bad points and make his weak points as plus points.. Perhaps love is all blinded. Now I am becoming to understand this statement. She said he touch her heart by saying things(I won't disclose) to her.
From what I read, woman like man with confident..
Perhaps we lack of that.. so I never say want I want to say to hear and make any promises to her.. Maybe Haha.
I think ..... this Vday, you should be confident since that she is the only one you like and love.. anyway it is since the two of you are being together for so long. it cant be wrong.. Touch her heart. Really. She must be moved by what you say.. but don't over exaggerate saying is you are the stars , I am the moon that kind.. or she think this man is flower-hearted.. can say such things.. haha
Since you and her are together this Vday.. get her to smile alot and happy. at the end of the day.. tell her that you want to be with her every Vday.. you love her... and your feelings.. go on.. don't retreat back to the good friend status. Don't say something like.. its ok we are good friends and if you don't agree we still can be good friends..-> No confident statement..
Best of luck
So.. my situation... haha.... I will need your advise since you are more senior than me.. know the gal for so many years.. haha -
Originally posted by fedmstr:
What do you mean by she will be upset in the begining? I don't get you.. Please advise. Thanks
you should tell her your true feelings. yes[b] she will be upset in the begining, but let her know as long as she is happy with the new guy you will honor that relationship. if she happens to break it off with him you want a chance to see if it will work between the both of you. at this momoent in time may not be ridht for the both of you, but that does not mean 6 months from now is wrong.[/b] -
Since last sat night, my day has become night and my night become day..
I just want to get some quality rest just now.. When i close my eyes, I just can't help but opening my eyes again, staring at the ceiling..
What is love?