Feeling pensive because I just found some old friends on Facebook. The ones still in Sg are high flyers now as with some overseas. Makes me think, what if...? What if I had decided not to get married and move away? Would I be a high flyer today had I stayed? Can't help but wonder, you know? Compared to my life back then, I haven't achieved anything besides parenthood. Haiz.

 

actually, your post makes me wonder...about my mom. cos she used to have a high paying job. until my dad moved to singapore and she had to quit her job...and she hasnt been working since....=|

but um....my mom has been telling us kids that she's proud to have kids like us...

TS...don't envy others la. maybe they are secretly envying you that you have a nice family already.

 

I believe once we had made a choice, don't look back.  Learn not to compare yourself with your friends.

Your success in life shouldn't be about how much you have achieved but how well you have lived your life.

Being a mum, you have already made a positive contribution to the world by loving your children, teaching them, caring for them, giving them a stable environment to grow up in etc so that they could grow up to be an useful and responsible person.

I think females are much better than males in keeping in touch ....

we men won't bother keeping in touch unless were were at "brother" levels ...

recently a primary school classmate somehow found me on, ironically, our secondary school alumni mailing list (same school, different classes) ....

I discovered that many of the ladies not only kept in touch, they have been meeting up regularly too .......

and other than me, they have no idea where the other boys were either ...

Originally posted by applesweetgirl:

TS...don't envy others la. maybe they are secretly envying you that you have a nice family already.

 

I know, I know, but you just can't help but think, you know?

Originally posted by honeymouse:

I believe once we had made a choice, don't look back.  Learn not to compare yourself with your friends.

Your success in life shouldn't be about how much you have achieved but how well you have lived your life.

Being a mum, you have already made a positive contribution to the world by loving your children, teaching them, caring for them, giving them a stable environment to grow up in etc so that they could grow up to be an useful and responsible person.

While I know I'm making a positive contribution, and that some of my friends envy me, sometimes you just let your mind drift into the what ifs, you know?

Originally posted by Fatum:

I think females are much better than males in keeping in touch ....

we men won't bother keeping in touch unless were were at "brother" levels ...

recently a primary school classmate somehow found me on, ironically, our secondary school alumni mailing list (same school, different classes) ....

I discovered that many of the ladies not only kept in touch, they have been meeting up regularly too .......

and other than me, they have no idea where the other boys were either ...

the same one who invited you to the spa party? maybe they regard you as sister?

Originally posted by jetta:

I know, I know, but you just can't help but think, you know?

maybe they envy you have a simply life..

Originally posted by youyayu:

maybe they envy you have a simply life..

With that one word, simple, I don't know whether to feel comforted or frustrated.

i like to suggest that maybe to review how you derive that decision rather than questioning what if......

 

 

Originally posted by jetta:

With that one word, simple, I don't know whether to feel comforted or frustrated.

you envy people for what they have.. they will envy you for what they had lost


U can never have both

Originally posted by jetta:

With that one word, simple, I don't know whether to feel comforted or frustrated.

Personally, I think you should draw comfort from the fact that you lead a relatively uncomplicated life that many Singaporeans can only dream about. Simplicity can be a good thing. Why make life more complex than it needs to be?

 

Well Jetta, I'm sure those had been difficult decisions to make. But there's no telling if you would be a high flyer, or at the very least, a happy person if you were to stay.

And there's no comparison which would be a better decision for us, since we only live once, and once implies that we have no other lifetimes to compare with.

You should really just keep moving forward and be the best you can be, instead of lamenting the days gone by. Once is nonce, make the best of it.

Compared to my life back then, I haven't achieved anything besides parenthood. Haiz.

 

Aiyooo.....focus on what u have rather than what you don;t have.....health, family, new friends, new experiences.

Someone posted this inspirational story a while ago, and I find this topic to be an appropiate place to re-post it. TS, you are probably years ahead of what your high-flier friends have always wanted to achieve in their lives - to retire and enjoy life with their families.

Maybe you feel that life is incomplete without some sort of great achievements under your name like being "The ex-CEO of The So-And-So Company" - you feel that your life is simply wasted if you were to die 50 years later just like that, no achievements, no anything to your name.

But little did you realize, if you could nurture your kids to grow up to be great people, you have achieved the best thing any mother on earth could do. Just imagine the day when one of your kids graduates from college, become entrepreneurs and eventually marry a boy/girl - you would be so goddamn proud that your decades of love and care have transformed the cute, little toddler you used to carry in your forearms into such a useful, responsible adult in the society - and achieving as much as you do too. That's why, when parents say that they're always proud of you, they really mean it.

http://www.inspirationpeak.com/shortstories/mexicanfisherman.html

The Mexican Fisherman 

Author Unknown
 

      The American investment banker was at the pier of a 
small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with 
just one fisherman docked. 

Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna. 
The American complimented the Mexican on the quality 
of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. 

The Mexican replied, "Only a little while." 

The American then asked, "Why didn't you stay out longer 
and catch more fish?" 

The Mexican said, "With this I have more than enough to support my family's needs." 

The American then asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?" 

The Mexican fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos, I have a full and busy life." 

The American scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing; and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat: With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the 
processor; eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then Los Angeles and eventually New York where you will run your ever-expanding enterprise." 

The Mexican fisherman asked, "But, how long will this all take?" 

To which the American replied, "15 to 20 years." 

"But what then?" asked the Mexican. 

The American laughed and said that's the best part. "When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions." 

"Millions?...Then what?" 

The American said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos."

Ahahaa Wao now thats is a nice story

Jetta,

Being a happy parent is much better than a lonely high flyer, dun u agree?

Perhaps u used to hav high inspirations before u were married, hence the "what ifs" now..We are always at the cross roads & once we hav decided which route to move on, the other route will always b a mystery.  It's good to ponder about tat mysterious route tat we din take back then...but dun let it gets too much into our head.

"Once decision is made, There shldnt b regrets".

sign! .......... what so great about high flyers.....Look at wall street......-504....+145....-449.....+410.........Those folks over there are all high flyers.......So is their blood pressure and tell me u don;t get hyper tension..........

Now this is depressing me.....me no high flyer, no children.......

Originally posted by jetta:

Feeling pensive because I just found some old friends on Facebook. The ones still in Sg are high flyers now as with some overseas. Makes me think, what if...? What if I had decided not to get married and move away? Would I be a high flyer today had I stayed? Can't help but wonder, you know? Compared to my life back then, I haven't achieved anything besides parenthood. Haiz.

Think about whether you would be happier being a high flyer or having a family.

The grass will always look greener on the other side. But when we struggle to get to that other side, and we look back from where we came from, now that good old side's grass look greener. So we ask ourselves, do we cross back??? It'll be an endles cycle.

 

I envy those who have a simple life rather than that of a hectic, 25hours-a-day-life.

"What ifs......."

Social websites... lol.

 

awww.....jetta......*hugz hugz*........i'm not going to say much as the posts here are all great views.  but i like to dedicate this song to you:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flfDuYuy6aQ

 

cheer up :)