What's the point of getting married....?
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Sometimes I wonder, what's the point of getting married?? 'Coz most marriages start to flail after 7 years or thereabouts anyway. Let's face it, there's no such thing as true love that will last a lifetime....right...?
Can someone EVER find love that will last? Coz there's absolutely no such thing.
And I've always thought that for gals, marrying your best guy friend is the best way to go.
Hmm...any thoughts...?
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The point of getting married is to cohabitate.
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need the paper to apply flat and other things under law
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marry is gd. so that i can cut down on porn..
can exercise with ur love one at night/day.
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I have seen many couples who stay married even after 7 years. In fact, my parents have been married for nearly 23 years now...Originally posted by Exhibitionist:Sometimes I wonder, what's the point of getting married?? 'Coz most marriages start to flail after 7 years or thereabouts anyway. Let's face it, there's no such thing as true love that will last a lifetime....right...?
Can someone EVER find love that will last? Coz there's absolutely no such thing.
And I've always thought that for gals, marrying your best guy friend is the best way to go.
Hmm...any thoughts...?
I think what matters most is to have faith in the marriage. If you bring your insecurity in and think that it will fail, it will. It is the self-fulfilling prophecy at work. So if you believe that the love will stay strong, you will strive to make it stay that way. So marriage nowadays fail not because true love doesn't exist, it is just that the couple goes into it too fast and then after the marriage, lack the passion and efforts to keep the flames burning.
I strongly do believe that true love does exist. And I do not think I am naive in thinking this way. Because only when you believe, you will find what you are looking for. If you don't, even if it hits you in the eyes, you will still miss it.
I will marry my best guy friend, yes, because that's what my sweetheart will be
i.c.y -
same 1 for 60 years see whether you sian anot...Originally posted by usck:marry is gd. so that i can cut down on porn..
can exercise with ur love one at night/day.
tats why its necessary to find a gd looking life partner..
if not u see ugly face for life..
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I agree.. a marriage is indeed a union between a man and a woman before God.Originally posted by icyprincess:I have seen many couples who stay married even after 7 years. In fact, my parents have been married for nearly 20 years now...
I think what matters most is to have faith in the marriage. If you bring your insecurity in and think that it will fail, it will. It is the self-fulfilling prophecy at work. So if you believe that the love will stay strong, you will strive to make it stay that way. So marriage nowadays fail not because true love doesn't exist, it is just that the couple goes into it too fast and then after the marriage, lack the passion and efforts to keep the flames burning.
I strongly do believe that true love does exist. And I do not think I am naive in thinking this way. Because only when you believe, you will find what you are looking for. If you don't, even if it hits you in the eyes, you will still miss it.
I will marry my best guy friend, yes, because that's what my sweetheart will be
i.c.y
I will marry my best gal friend, yes, because that's what my honey will be -
I find you to be very shallow.Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:same 1 for 60 years see whether you sian anot...
tats why its necessary to find a gd looking life partner..
if not u see ugly face for life..
Nobody can stay pretty or goodlooking forever, you will age one day.
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Hey Icy....you are pretty idealistic....Originally posted by icyprincess:I have seen many couples who stay married even after 7 years. In fact, my parents have been married for nearly 23 years now...
I think what matters most is to have faith in the marriage. If you bring your insecurity in and think that it will fail, it will. It is the self-fulfilling prophecy at work. So if you believe that the love will stay strong, you will strive to make it stay that way. So marriage nowadays fail not because true love doesn't exist, it is just that the couple goes into it too fast and then after the marriage, lack the passion and efforts to keep the flames burning.
I strongly do believe that true love does exist. And I do not think I am naive in thinking this way. Because only when you believe, you will find what you are looking for. If you don't, even if it hits you in the eyes, you will still miss it.
I will marry my best guy friend, yes, because that's what my sweetheart will be
i.c.y
It's quite impossible to remain in love after,say,10 years. Your marriage may last but that doesn't mean your love is still there. You might be together for the sake of kids or coz it's convenient to remain married or whatever.
And let's face it, men are naturally promiscuous- you may still be in love with him after 20 years but he may be screwing ard with other women for all you know Sighhhhhhhhhhh......the problem is, it's hard to find a man who will stick to you for life.
Sad but true. Right guys......? -
i agree with you!Originally posted by usck:marry is gd. so that i can cut down on porn..
can exercise with ur love one at night/day. 
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for me, the reason y married is so i can stay together wit my love 1.. and will have own childs, MJV.
thn after our childs married, me and mine love 1 will fly to japan spent our golden times there..
this is the reason -
Being pessimistic like this will bring you nowhere near the true love you are seeking to find. I have been pessismistic like this before, and it didn't do me any good. Sure there are some guys who are out to toy with your feelings, but I also believe that there are some good ones out there. Don't generalize just because some of them are.Originally posted by Exhibitionist:Hey Icy....you are pretty idealistic....
It's quite impossible to remain in love after,say,10 years. Your marriage may last but that doesn't mean your love is still there. You might be together for the sake of kids or coz it's convenient to remain married or whatever.
And let's face it, men are naturally promiscuous- you may still be in love with him after 20 years but he may be screwing ard with other women for all you know Sighhhhhhhhhhh......the problem is, it's hard to find a man who will stick to you for life.
Sad but true. Right guys......?
As in to remain in love after 10 years, I do not think you should predict for me whether my love will last or not. because neither you and me is God Himself, so the future will always be a mystery to us. But I do know that if you continue to be pessismistic, the outcome won't be too good either. You reap what you sow
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Me n my wife cohabited for 4 yrs before getting married. Think u got a funny reasoning.Originally posted by shade343:The point of getting married is to cohabitate. -
all the more u shld prove them wrong
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marriage in the past is to have some one to take care and support
now people all so well educated and independent, seen so much of the world, marriage is a burden.
when u divorce even bigger burden. in spore the law favor women!
u no need marriage to love. think about it, marriage is some dumb binding contract.
as long u got money .....
monee moneeeee -
Hmm, there was a time when i thought true love exists and marriage works, but the statistics in the papers these days are kinda freaky, don't you think?
The purpose of getting married is to celebrate the union of a man and a woman (or 2 people of the same gender in some countries), and possibly create a family. Are people getting married for the wrong reasons? Could the idea of 'love' be overrated in the media? -
To remain in love for more than 10 yrs impossible? Dun tell me u dun love ur mother anymore? I'm sure u're more than 10 yrs old rite? Dun tell me u're gonna go running to other women n call them mother? Sorry if I offended u, not trying to say anything about anybody's mother. Just using mothers as eg cos they're the closest woman to most men's heart.Originally posted by Exhibitionist:Hey Icy....you are pretty idealistic....
It's quite impossible to remain in love after,say,10 years. Your marriage may last but that doesn't mean your love is still there. You might be together for the sake of kids or coz it's convenient to remain married or whatever.
And let's face it, men are naturally promiscuous- you may still be in love with him after 20 years but he may be screwing ard with other women for all you know Sighhhhhhhhhhh......the problem is, it's hard to find a man who will stick to you for life.
Sad but true. Right guys......?
The 'quite impossibe' statement is a bit too strong. For sure there are people out there who's been together for 30+ yrs n still love each other as much as day one. My fren was giving a speech on his wedding dinner n was thanking his parents for showing how to love each other after 30+ yrs. He was so emotional while saying dat he actually broke down. It kinda touched me deep down to see dat there are still people who love so much.
How to love someone for life? Most can't cos they only love themselves. But when everything u do is for others unconditionally n without prejudice n judgement, then maybe u'll experience dat kinda love. -
depends which version and edition of definitions you want?
marrying your best friend may not necessary equate to a successful marriage... -
Often, marriages fail because people only look out for the fairytale part and forget about the real part of it. While marriage is often based on love, it also often takes many other aspects (other than love) to hold it together long term.
I'm not qualifed to tell how to make a marriage last a lifetime. However, I dare claim to be qualified to say that the chances of an unstable marriage will be very high, if entered with a pessimistic mentality. -
eyy icy, 20 years oso not bad ma..LOL
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This remind me that:
what's the point to eat when all of us will become hungry again?
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u no eat u no die
u no marry u die
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coz we humans hv no perm storage sys neither do we hv an energy generating sys n therefore we need constant supply of foodOriginally posted by 798:This remind me that:
what's the point to eat when all of us will become hungry again? -
U need a certain mentality n maturity before getting married. We were together for 8 yrs before settling down. During the initial 7 yrs I wasn't ready for marriage. We stayed together n I felt no need for marriage. But one day u'll realise something. Anyway, long story short. It's something u know when u need to do.
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you and your life science again.Originally posted by hopy:coz we humans hv no perm storage sys neither do we hv an energy generating sys n therefore we need constant supply of food